Q: I'm married Alhamdulillah. When my husband lectures me via a message, of course I don't argue back. Then do I just not reply to him? Wouldn't that sound like I'm ignoring him even though I'm reading all the messages. Its my fault I accept. But when I say something it sounds like I'm arguing. So when my husband is lecturing me via a message then do I just not reply or what should I say?
Q: I am a 37 year old woman and have been married for 18 years. I am not happy in my marriage and due to this I have pushed away my husband. We both live in one house like complete strangers. This has led me to have a relationship out of my marriage! I know this is gunaah but I have been with this man who I love dearly. I am stuck and feel very guilty for all that's happened but I can't leave this man. I feel I will die without him. This man has now married in my family with a close relative and says he will never leave me, but I know as well as you this is impossible. I feel stuck, hurt and upset. Please guide me. What should I do as I do not have any will power to walk away. I feel lost.
Q: I got to know from two different hakeems that I have some asaraat of narsu on my body. Few people know about this narsu. Basically its a snake which does sex with girls when they sleep and I feel the same every morning. Its very shameful to say these things to all and this narsu won't allow the person to be successful and to get married. It is considered as sadesaati to me and to all who belong to me. My question is that the only way to remove this narsu out of my body is to get physical with any of those hakeem. They said their intentions are not wrong. What should I do? Its a great sin but its a fact that wether you believe or not there's no future for the one who has this kind of thing on their body. I have to do whatever these hakeems say. Please guide me. I am a simple selfish human being. I may not have patience but I fear Allah a lot.
Q: My father is committing zina. He always commits zina with the call girls. Me and my elder brother know about it but due to respect we can't talk to him. Please suggest something and guide us according to Islam?
Q: I want to rectify my akhlaaq. Please tell me how to.
Q: Is spitting on the ground in public haraam?
Q: I obey and respect my mother as Allah commands, however my mother is angry with me because she wants me to talk to her more, but this is difficult for me as she is always watching haraam shows on TV. I talk to her when she isn't watching TV. I assume it is not permissible to sit and talk to someone whilst they are watching haram things. Could you please clarify if this is halaal? If it is then I will do this so that my mother does not remain angry with me.
Q: Is it compulsory for me to keep contact with my paternal aunts, uncles and their children. I kept a relationship with these people for so many years of my life, inspite of them backbiting against us and ruining our lives. My uncles have usurped our rights and fed their wives and children with our money. What am I supposed to feel when I see their houses and their belongings? I will be reminded of their deceit and the injustice done to us. These people have wrecked havoc in our lives and they deserve no respect from me. They simply do more evil to me if I am kind and be even more unjust. These people have done innumerable injustices to us for more than 25 years. It is because of them that my father strayed from the right path, they ruined his aakhira and supported him in his evil sins. Moreover all of my aunts, uncles and their children live in different countries. I don't have their numbers and my mother who has them refuses to give them to me and if I do keep a relationship with them, they will simply try to turn me against my mother and backbite against her. Moreover it is very expensive for me to phone them from the UK and we are poor people. Do you think I should keep a relationship with my father because Allah has said the rights of parents are huge but I know for a fact that my father will put pressure on me to get my mother to reconcile with him. However this is not possible as she tolerated his abuse, swears, adultery, alcohol, drugs and smoking. My father even slandered her, even though she is chaste. She even tolerated him not giving her any money for basic necessities for 25 years. I know my father has still not changed as he still continues to backbite against her and slander her even though she has obtained a khula, if my mother does want to remarry then she should get married to a pious man, my father doesn't deserve her.
Q: Please pray for me. I have very bad stress. My son is answering back very badly. Shaitaan is following me. I feel like dying. I have been crying the whole day. My son 26 years, has no job and doesn't use any drugs but has no respect for parents like today he really hurt me. He says anything to me. I feel bad very bad. He doesn't bother to look for employment. He is very lazy. What do I do? He goes to the Musjid but I have to push him.
Q: I am now 27. 10 years ago I had sex with a girl. She is older than me and non muslim, but intercourse didn't happen. I was even wearing clothes. I asked many times forgiveness from Allah Ta'ala. From that day, I went for hadd but the hazaraat told me it's not required in my case because any intercourse didn't happen. I am ready to do hadd. I feel very very very guilty of that and I face lot of problem in my life. I am struggling to get married so is it permissible do hadd in my case. Also sometimes I masturbate. I asked forgiveness from Allah Ta'ala again and again also for this I do hadd like hitting myself with a belt and burning myself with hot steel, pouring hot candle drops to my body. After repenting to Allah Ta'ala in this way again I masturbate. Is it permissible to hurt myself in such a way? I want to get married and want to do the jima' in the Halaal way. So I think Allah Ta'ala is expecting me to do hadd.