Advice

Q: I want to ask you my condition related to Quran and Ahadith. Two years earlier my parents engaged me to guy who was morally, family wise, and Islamicly a noble person. But the only reason I couldn't get married to him is because of my parents ego.  A stamp paper of a plot in a very expensive area. Which a middle class person can't afford. They have agreed to write it in my mehr and would buy it for me later on along with 5o tola gold and 5 lac rupees. But my parents didn't agree. Everyone in the world questions me about my marriage but I am ashamed to answer as I have nothing to say plus I don't want my parents repo to be spoilt. The guy and his family is struggling very hard for me and the guy has debts too. Don't you think this is destroying my life? What does the Qur'an and Hadith say in this case? What should I do?

Q: My mother doesn't obey the rules of purda properly. She uses hijaab but after reaching school where she works she takes off the hijaab and wears a scarf. In this situation what should I do to get it right and what does Islam say?

Q: I am 16 years old , trying to be the best Muslim I possibly can. انشأ الله I am sorry to bother , all the time. It's just that I always feel like Allah is upset with me or Allahs curse is on me because my duas don't get accepted. I try harder to be a better person but I see no change. I be and do the best I can keeping Allah in mind all the time yet everything feels the same. I've been trying my best with Salaah and Quran and I'm trying my best to cut down the wrongs in my life but I don't see or feel a change. I don't know if I did something to upset Allah or what. How can I stop feeling this way? How would I know? What can I do?

Q: I tremendously respect the ulama of Deoband and especially Hazrat Ashraf Ali Thanvi because of the Khidmat of the Deen they have done throughout their whole life. I have been really shocked when I read that one "scholar" of the past, Ahmed Reza Khan, has claimed that Hazrat Ashraf Ali Thanvi was a disbeliever. Furthermore I have read that Ahmed Reza Khan has some links with the qaadyani. I do not want to pour oil on the flames but I would appreciate lengthy details about Ahmed Reza Khan and what opinion we should hold about him, although one should not become extreme and violent in such matters.

Q: I have a burning question and your enlightenment thereon will be highly appreciated. I have a friend who has a young daughter of 22. The daughter has been dating the son of a couple who will be leaving for umrah Insha Allah soon. This couple will be leaving their house and son in the care of the boy’s grandmother. My question is: Does the Umrah become null if these youngsters continue seeing each other in the company of the grandmother or go on an outing like they normally do when the boy’s parents are around during the period the boy’s parents are on Umrah?

Q: My question is with regards to the high divorce rate. We see one of the biggest causes being lack of excitement or the inability to satisfy one's partner in bed. So to save the marriage can couples use sex toys during intercourse or practise bondage or learn different sex positions through books (containing sexual content) for education purposes?

Q: My engagement has been with my cousin. He used to love me but due to some misunderstanding he doesn't talk or want to be in this relation but our family doesn't want to break up. Please help me what can I do to melt his heart?

Q: My husband and I have been having endless problems for the past year now. I have left our home a few times due to his behaviour towards me . I am back at our home for 3 months now and for the last two months we have been having problems. He has hit me and also been chatting to other girls on social networks. He has a temper and his mood just switches and therefore he mistreats me. He also doesn't want me to visit my parents or socialize with my family. It has gone so bad now that I cannot talk to my husband or ask him for anything or rely on him for anything. I feel like I am living with a stranger. What can I do? I don't want to be with him anymore because of the way he is treating me but he does not want to give me talaaq. Please advise.

Q: I pray 5 times a day. I Believe in Allah and everything he has provided me is the best. I try my best to follow the guidance given by the prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam). But the problem is that people, they degrade me, others try to outsmart me in the office, they sometimes bully me. Maybe that is why I haven’t achieved much in my profession. Maybe I’m not that smart but still, but lately it is been distracting me a lot from everything. I started to question my faith. Did I do something that Allah is punishing me? I’m so confused that I don’t know what to do. I tell myself everyday that this will end too. But now I’m not strong enough and maybe I don’t have what it takes to be like other people. I know that you received these kinds of mails every other day. I’m worried about, that how will it change me or take me far away from my Islam. Or maybe I have to spend my whole life like this. I know life is a test and Allah Ta'ala tests those who he wants to bring close to him. But I can’t take handle it anymore. Every second cannot be a test or I have so many sins that I have to live like this.

Q: I'm trying to reform and i'm sinning to the point where I get out of the fold of Islam due to the whispers of Shaitaan and his mind warping ability. When I redo the Shahada, I start seeing things within my mind and start focusing on them due my psychosis and Shaitaan. Does my Shahada still become come valid. It's very difficult to have the meaning in my mind properly while I read it. What should I do?