Advice

Q: Mufti Saheb I am in financial constrains and my marital life is in shambles. Can you show me some wazifa whereby all my problems can get solved and I may gain success and happiness?

Q: I am 28 years old. I am divorced. My blood relative is 25 years old. We are in love and want to get married. My parents agree and have no issue but his parents do not get agree as they say that the girl is divorced and elder otherwise they have no other issue. We really want to get married and unable to accept anyone else in this relationship. We both are mature and independent. Please tell me that what should we do. We are completely aware of the responsibilities of this marriage. Please help me in this matter.

Q: I have been married to a girl from Pakistan for five weeks. I was very happy until I found out that she does kala ilm. She has been caught red handed. I warned her not to do it again yet she is still doing it to make me under her control and leave my parents. Do I divorce her or accept she will continue this kaafir acts. Please help. I am suffering from depression since I found out.

Q: I recently did a nikaah with my first cousin from Pakistan. This was my fathers choice and happiness. Deep down I wanted to marry somebody from here who I was deeply interested in. I have never spoke to this person but I have seen her around people and she performs her Salaah on time. Please consider I have never spoken to this person but I wanted to marry her, from UK. Anyway I married my cousin in hope that she is a practising Muslim and she will follow Islam completely, and we will have an understanding based on this. But unfortunately it's the total opposite. She prays Alhamdulilah but other things such as hayaah around males, hijaab or even adab with me, I can't bare it. I still have feelings for this sister from UK and I want to re marry. I want to divorce my cousin. What do I do? I fear family fights, break ups. My mother has already passed away and my father is 67. What must I do? I know if I were to remain married with my cousin, it would be difficult because bringing up kids in western society and for her to get used to it is very hard. I know the sister from here will definitely understand this society. Please give some advice. Jazaak'Allah

Q: I need to know if a person committed a few major sins does he make one tawbah Salaah or for each one because I don't remember how many?

Q: My ten years of married life is in trouble. The reasons are very common; different views and opinions, no understanding and many more due to which I am losing interest in every thing. First I used to pray and I used to show interest in all things. Now I have no interest in anything not in life at all. Small things make me to go in depression. I can't share my feelings to any one. My husband is not a good friend and we don't have physical relationship since many years but we stay together. When asked about this he doesn't feel any feminine qualities in me but he says he loves me very much. He always expresses negative opinions about me which makes me more depressed about my life and demotivates me. I try to be happy and good but small things make me irritable and hyper. Sometimes I badly need physical love from my husband but can not approach him because we don't have that comfort level and when I see him busy in work I don't want to disturb him. I need only a friend but whenever I try to explain my view of point he will tell such things that makes me guilty and feel like a criminal but he never thinks I became like this because of his behaviour. I always pray to Allah to protect me from choosing the wrong path. I can't share my feelings to anyone. I want to be happy but my heart is dead. I have two sons day by day I'm becoming mentally sick. Whenever I see other couples, I almost cry. I do not get that basic love and understating. I never demand anything from him he gets me everything I want but never understands what I want to say. He looks at my opinion in a totally opposite way. Please suggest me what to do or any dua that makes my life peaceful.

Q: I feel stressed and depressed due doubts and waswasas. Please me help me in this situation. How can I get rid out of this? Its affects my physical and mental health. Please give me any duaa to recite.

Q: I have a non Muslim female friend. I want her to come to Islam and become a Muslim. For this I always make dua for her and show my best character (akhlaaq) to her. But when I talk about religion she tells me she doesn't believe in any religion but she believes in Almighty God that He is One. She is engaged in bad habits such as: cigarettes, wine, boy friend relationships, etc. When I told her to leave these things she got irritated and told me don't interfere in my life. I have my own life. What I want I will do. I don't care whether it is good or bad. Please tell me in this situation what should I do?

Q: A 19 year old girl wants to marry but her parents are refusing and not giving her any chance. They do not have a Shar'ee reason. This is leading to haraam and fitna. Please advice. Can nikaah without their permission be performed?

Q:

1. My mahram doesn't wear a hijaab and when she comes to stay at our home, my male relative (she is also his mahram) brings her to and fro from her house to our house and back in his car. She has been advised to wear the hijaab, but she is a jaahil who does not practise Islaam, but a little. Is it haraam for my male relative to pick her up without hijaab and to drop her off home without hijaab? My gut feeling is it is, but I would like a ruling. Does he share in her sin?

2. My mahram relatives would like me to visit more, but the problem is, in their house are women non-Mahram to me, who don't strictly follow Islaam, they free mix and don't observe purdah from me and I worry they would try to greet me physically, hug, kiss etc. So if I have fear and feel that I am weak and not confident that I can avoid this haraam then I should not attend, correct?

3. Does this count as 'severing relations'? Of course, if my mahrams comes here, I am not rude to them etc. We're fine. Is there anything such as 'severing relations' when it comes to non-mahrams like cousins etc?