Advice

Q:

1. My mahram doesn't wear a hijaab and when she comes to stay at our home, my male relative (she is also his mahram) brings her to and fro from her house to our house and back in his car. She has been advised to wear the hijaab, but she is a jaahil who does not practise Islaam, but a little. Is it haraam for my male relative to pick her up without hijaab and to drop her off home without hijaab? My gut feeling is it is, but I would like a ruling. Does he share in her sin?

2. My mahram relatives would like me to visit more, but the problem is, in their house are women non-Mahram to me, who don't strictly follow Islaam, they free mix and don't observe purdah from me and I worry they would try to greet me physically, hug, kiss etc. So if I have fear and feel that I am weak and not confident that I can avoid this haraam then I should not attend, correct?

3. Does this count as 'severing relations'? Of course, if my mahrams comes here, I am not rude to them etc. We're fine. Is there anything such as 'severing relations' when it comes to non-mahrams like cousins etc?

Q: I have a bad habit of listening to other people's conversations, and I know of the consequence and I repented and vowed to not do it again. I was wondering what is there to do when you can't find all the people you have heard. Is there any way to avoid the punishment on the day of qiyamah in my case.

Q: I am a 26 year old Muslim boy. My engagement finished last two weeks. Some times I feel comfortable with the girl but sometimes I don't feel comfortable with her. I want to love that girl very much. I want to avoid bad thought of not loving her. Is there any solution to avoid these bad thoughts?

Q: How can I get rid out of different type waswasas. It really disturbs me, so please give me any dua and how can I protect my self from this?

Q: My question is about my father. He is totally on a wrong path. I mean few years back he was a very nice man. He had a fear of Allah and Masha Allah he saw the prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) two times in his dream (ziyarat). He always used to pray juma prayer, and tazbihaat, and Quran. But now since the last two years he doesn't even go for Eid prayer. All the time he is busy in watching television and his language has become extremely abusive. No roza, no namaaz, nothing. He knows everything but does not want to do anything. Now when my mom or me are praying in front of him, he doesn't even decrease the volume of the TV. He is totally lost and he doesn't love my mother at all. Please tell me some dua by which he can become a namazi and a loving and caring husband. Actually he had an affair with one of my aunts. A very close relative of mine, my Mumani that is my mothers real brothers wife and my mom came to know about the affair after 14 years. Then when she came to know about the affair, my father apologised to my mom and broke whatever relation he had with that woman. But now he has left that, but when he is at home he doesn't care about anyone. It looks as if he is always in tension. Lost in his own world watchng TV with very high volume, or using a laptop for long hours. He doesn't talk much to his children or wife. My parents are married for 30 years. Please give some solutions. Me and mother are extremely worried about him.

Q: My parents are going to urus. Actually my mom is ill. She don't want to go but my father is very arrogant and if she doesn't go, he will use bad words. What should I do?

Q: If a boy doesn't have the courage to ask for marriage if he is 17, what can he do? He does wrong stuff.

Q: I have been in a relationship with a person since 4 years. Since last 1 year he has made my life miserable by spying on me and talking rudely to me, relating me to other men and talking rubbish. We started fighting on these topics and somehow one day due to lot of misunderstandings he abused me to the core and told many bad words to me and my family. He broke every relation and stopped talking to me. I was very frustrated at that time and was crying everyday. I incidentally met a person on social networking and he was very funny and I used to divert my mind talking to him. There was nothing serious from both of us. One day he was talking something ugly and made non veg jokes. I stopped him once twice he did not listen. I stopped talking to him. After that my ex came suddenly and apologised and said he wanted to marry me. I didn't want to talk to him but due to his regular phone calls I had to talk to him. He came to know throgh my id that I spoke to someone. How ever much I try to convince him, he always thinks I had an affair and he don't trust me anymore. We both want to break this relationship but now we cant as our families are involved. Wo hamesha mujh pe shak karte even though I didn't do anything. Is it the right decision to marry him? I am only believing that he might change after marriage and moving forward with him but I am also very scared.