Advice

Q: I need some guidance. Every time I complain to my husband about his family's injust behaviour, he doesn't accept even though he knows that they are wrong. My husband doesn't say anything, not even one single thing that why do they do like this? If they hurt me, disrespect me, to whom should I complain? All the time my husband gives reasons of his own workload and then in the end he complains to my family that I'm against his family and I'm disturbing him. My family can't interfere so they consider me wrong. If I directly complain to my father-in-law, he doesn't accept that they can be wrong. f I avoid going to them, my husband doesn't accept. As a human being, if I find all doors closed for me, what can I do then? Doesn't that damage me?

Q: I can't seem to get over my wife's infidelity. This happened a year and few months ago. I can't stop thinking about it and I feel so hurt. My heart can't bare it. What can I do to get over this. I'm still with her and she is repenting for her sins. Is there a dua that will help me.

Q: Can my good deeds, charities, prayers and every ibaadah be accepted if my intention is only for Allah but my sincerity is weak? Due to satanic whispering and other distractions? Thanks.

Q: I am a young sister in Islam who has been going through many trials over the last 8 to 10 years. Amidst all of this, I seek comfort that Allah Ta'ala will one day ease my difficulties. A Summary of these trials, my mum has been battling a fatal illness for many years. Together with my dad being very ill, I lost my father two years ago. I am currently not married. With my mum's illness, she has been in and out of hospital, leaving me to dwell alone. My question is:

1) I have no one to support my mum and me and hence I work in an accounting firm. They allow me flexibility, so I work certain days from home and certain at the office. Please advise if this is permissible in Islam?

2) I own a credit card and very rarely use this. Most of my purchases are made on cash. Please advise if this is totally not permissible in Islam (meaning to even have one in your possession)?

Maaf for these questions, reason is I feel as if though my trials are getting harder per the day, affecting me emotionally with loneliness and much more. Hence I fear I may be engaged in some sin that prevents ease at home and opening in life for nikah and betterment in this world, which has prompted me to query the above two questions. I am currently fully in hijab and strive each day to be a better muslimah. Kindly remember me in your duas.

Q: I need a sure and definite answer to this question. Actually, when I close my eyes and concentrate, I can see things and visit places and communicate with the jinns. I also get feeling when something bad will happen. Some months ago, my sister was very sick and I got the feeling that it was a sorcery. My mom knew a person which also know these things, so she called him and as I concentrate, I could describe the person who had done the sorcery well and the person which my mom called communicated with him through me as intermediate asking the shaitaan or jinn where he comes from etc. Sometimes, they take my body and I talk things beyond my comprehension. Finally, the person, through recitation of Quran, the jinn was forced to break the condition of the sorcery like coconut, blood and lemons etc. and some were burnt and some converted to Islam. I could see them burning and becoming ashes and some converted to Islam and go to mecca. My sister was then recovered fully from the disease. I want to know if this is allowed to use the inner eye or is it and how is it shirk? The power is in me but I don't know if I can make use of them. I have read about roqya to recover from black magic but the black magic is very complicated and powerful. Sometimes, the jinns or shaitaan have protection and they does not get affected when reciting quran. If it is not allowed to use the concentration or inner eyes to break the black magic's work, how can we combat it fully?

Q: My wife had sex with one of her contacts. She slept with him on the first time they decided to meet at his place and she only chatted with him for a month. They slept twice together on different days. She always promised me she will never have sex with another man even after the time she had sex with him for the first time. She use to tell me it's her cousin and convinced me with tears in her eyes that how can I suspect her with her cousin, so I believed her. When I thought I don't like this chats that she and her so called cousin had, I deleted his contact then she hit me and threw tantrims telling me it's just her cousin. But I found out it wasn't and they had sex twice. So my question is, it wise to let her go work after all the lies and deceit and betrayal? Must I trust her promises and word this time? I mean if she found it easy to sleep with a stranger what about someone at work or someone she travels with. Please advise me.

Q: My husband is hardly intimate with me. Few months into the marriage I caught him looking at pictures of other women online and I questioned him about it and he advised he would stop, then 2 months later he was still doing it and I questioned him again and he advised he would stop. During this time we still were not being intimate, he just won’t touch me. When I question him he says “why I’m I interested in this subject?” and I respond advising “it’s my right as your wife”. He does not mind just getting wet with his clothes on and coming on top of me, I don’t like this at all. It’s not fair on me. I have confronted him about it but he does not seem to understand. I have caught him again just himself getting himself wet, but this time he says he does it when I’m not there and when he’s thinking about me. I don’t believe him. Today I have realised that he does it in a way where he thinks I don’t know what he's been up to and he is still carrying on his ways. I don’t know what to do now. I live with my in laws at home. I have confronted him a few times, We have been married for nearly 2 years. We have no children. It was NOT an arranged marriage. My husband does care for me and looks after me. But I feel run down, upset and he does not think there’s any actual problem with him not being intimate with me. I make dua on his behalf to stop. I just don’t know what to do, I can’t tell anyone as it’s a matter not to discuss. Please help me.

Q: My question is that I need to know how I can increase my breast milk. I've read Surah Yaseen. I don't know what else to do.

Q: My fiance is currently going through a lot of stress due to studies. He is also loosing his health. And becoming helpless every second. I can not see that as it is not good for both our future. He needs to pass up coming exams, completely depending on Allah. Please tell me what Dua to make for him? And what Surah should I read to release his tension? To make him pass his exams easily.

Q: I'm a 23 year old female, living in USA, I belong to a Pakistani family, and due to that my parents want me to get married to a person whom they choose for me. I have met this guy on the internet, and we've been talking to each other since a whole year. I really want to get married to him, but I want my parents to accept that guy as well, so I could have my parents blessing and live a happy life with that guy. Can you please advice me, what should I do? Any type of wazeefa?