Advice

Marital issues

Q: I'm engaged with a girl three months back but 20 days back a guy called me and pretending that he had an affair with that girl and physically also, but the girl is denying that and promised on her parents, on Allah and on the Qur'an also that she is pure and no one has touched her. I did istekara also one month back but I didn't get any feeling or dream. Her father is a good man and a heart patient. I don't know what to do. Whom to belive? She is ready to do a virginity test also. I am totally confused. Please guide me whether I should marry her or not.

Marital problems

Q: My brother has a 11 year old son. The child's mother passed away suddenly about 2 years ago. May Allah most Kind, grant her Jannatul Firdous, Insha Allah Aameen. The child has been through a very traumatic time for at least a year, as he was extremely attached to his mother. With the Mercy of Allah, he is coping better now. They are living with us and Alhumdullilah. My parents are taking care of us all, as they always have. However, they are getting old, and I can see my mother is struggling to cope with the responsibility that has been placed on her. My brother has remarried 6 months ago. Unfortunately, his wife felt that my mother does not have the right to tell her to do anything at home ie. help to cook and help with my nephew. She says that my nephew is not her responsibility as its not her child, and says that even Sharriah does not place this responsibility of this child on her. She wanted a place of her own, and we had made the outbuilding ready for them. She stayed there for 2 days, and then left and now boards with a lady in a flat. For 2 weeks she never told us where she was. Eventually my brother found her. He did give her one talaaq after she left. She was pregnant at the time she left our home. A month later we heard she had a miscarriage. My parents have been very upset about this and advised my brother that she was not of good character (for various reasons as witnessed by my parents) and told my brother not to take her back. She has managed to convince my brother that she is innocent and that she is sorry about what she did. My brother read Isthikaara for 3 nights and all 3 nights he had very bad dreams, 1 was him almost dying in a bad car accident. Another was him waiting in hospital for a heart operation. She has manipulated my brother to such an extent that my brother has forgiven her and have reconciled with her. She is still at the flat where she is boarding. My brother stays with us, and goes to see her everyday. He is now looking for a flat for her. My parents are still very unhappy about this and have still expressed their concerns. And in particular are worried about my nephew who is an orphan child. My brother's wife claims that it is according to Sharriah that the child is not her responsibility. He is my parents responsibility. Is this correct? And please advise how do we handle the situation. My concerns are that we are here for this child, but what will be his condition when my parents pass on? Also, will he never have a normal family if this woman does not want to care for him?

Being in contact with a na mahram woman

Q: Is it permissible for a married molvi to touch another woman who he is in love with but will not marry because for him its not a big deal to touch a woman in this manner. That girl loves him too but she is not agreeing to one thing, which is that she doesn't want him to sleep with his first wife after she gets married to him. Other than that she agrees to all but now the man changed his decision and left her. She is heart broken.

Marital problem

Q: All I ask is to make dua for me. My daughters father embraced Islam and is living with a Christian family. I don't want to live in Haraam. I want to make it halaal. I am really proud of him embracing Islam but I want to make it halaal. I don't want to live like this in sin. My daughter is getting big. All I ask is to reunite us again as a happy family and want to get married as soon as possible. Is there any dua I can recite to get married as soon as possible.

Haraam contact

Q: I am in great trouble and I want an Islamic solution. My colleague huged me and kissed me on my face. I couldn't stop him doing this because I was confused. At that time I didn't know what to do, that is why I let him kiss upto the limit of the face. I was wearing an abbaya and veil. I know its a sin being close with a non mahram. I want the islamic solution before I am punished for it from Allah Ta'ala.