Advice

Q: In jannah can you at times become in a form of a baby? If you wish can you also have an adopted mother?

Q: I am in such a dilema, I am engaged and before this I did istikhara and got nothing, so I went with what my heart said. I told someone else trusted to do it and they got nothing too. Now that I am engaged my feelings have changed and I don't want to marry this person. Also the way his family live are a joint family which is not allowed in Islam. He is not independent and have asked if we can love alone after getting married and because he is the only son he said after a few years which will only be sleeping separately, the reason being why I want to live alone is not because of his family the main reason is because of his father and grandmother before getting engaged they accepted that i wear english clothes however I will have to adjust with the family who all wear indian clothes, and now they are both saying that I have no choice after getting engaged to wear Indian clothing. My fiance does not mind what I wear as long as it is decent clothing and the body is not exposed however the family are not compromising, i keep thinking as i am going to be living with his family his dad may say to me you are living in my house and have to do what I say. My fiance does support me but only to a certain limit and he has told me that later he will tell me to wear indian because of his family which is unfair. I don't know what to do but at the same time I don't want to think too much or rush into things.

Q: I have come into contact with a guy at work, who had already researched a lot about Islam via the internet. So I've explained to him that to be a Muslim he requires belief in Tawhid (Monotheism) and Risaalat (the prophethood of Nabi Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). I took him to the Musjid to see how we offer Salaah etc. He says he believes in Monotheism, but now he's got one question. Why could Islam unconditionally stop/forbid Alcohol, while it only regulated Slavery, and did not forbid it? I couldn't answer him, I replied by saying that it was eventually forbidden, and it was over a period of time, so that the people will willingly accept and obey, he was however not satisfied with my answer. Is there anything wrong in what I said? and please provide an answer.

Q: I have caught my father researching escort agency's twice and I am not sure how to handle it. The first time I did tell my mother and he denied going to any, yesterday my mother and I were gone visiting and on our return the front door was locked. When questioned he said he was sleeping. Later the Internet history revealed he was on those sights. Moulana please advise how do I deal with the situation without embarrassing my father or hurting my mother? I was in denial before and though he was only viewing pictures however I don't think that is the situation. Also my father is pious and I am so shocked.

Q: Sometimes I am in situations where I am falsely accused or even penalised but in reality, I have not done anything wrong or committed any mistake or error? Is there any advice to help in these situations?

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1. My husband has a married sister, she has two children and her husband does not have a regular job. He is not educated enough to get good jobs. He is a make up artist, so jobs are here and there. He does not want to do any other job apart from that. They have their own 2 bed property, their own new car, and they have some debts. So my husband's sister complains that she does not have enough all the time. My husband has 4 dependents already excluding me. Can you please tell me if my husband has to look now also after his married sister as well, who's dependent is she normally and is there any sin on my husband if he cannot help her?

2 His brother is in hospital for more that 20 days now in India in intense care unit, his expense in 20 are £1000,- who has to pay that? His brother never worked properly in his life was always away from home doing things a normal person will not do, but he has father's property. Does he get any part of the money even though he was never normal, never supports his family in any case apart from doing trouble. If he is entitled to the money can we remove the money for sickness and hospital and medication expenses from it. Please help me. I am worried for my husband and his health. He feel all the time guilty and thinks that he has to do everything. Please kindly help me and my husband to follow the right thing.

Q: I am 15 years old and I have often contacted kala jadoo baba by e-mail and I gave them all the information they wanted (because I have no friends in my school). But I want that Allah Ta'ala forgives me and I will never try something like that. Please tell me a dua or something else. I have so much fear.

Q: I want to find out, a friend of mine wants to take a second wife. He has kids from his 1st wife. He doesn't love her and they hardly communicate. He is staying with her because of the children. Reason for wanting a second wife is because he wanted the happiness and all of the duties a wife should see to. Should he leave the 1st wife?

Q: I wanted to ask this question because I need some advice. I like this pious muslimah, she is in fear of Allah and a good woman and we are both interested in each other. My dad however doesn't not approve of this what so ever and I have talked to him numerous times. He always puts himself before myself in marriage, saying things like. "If I do not know her parents, you can't haver her". And you do not know anything about relationships. I am really hurt because I like this girl we are from the same religion and he is so stuck on traditions chooses it over what the religion teaches. I have tried talking to him over and over but he doesn't listen to what I have to say and makes the same point. What do I do?

Q: My sister was given 3 talaqs and after her iddat she made nikaah with her ex and are living together as a family. My mum and some family members accept them and mum does not talk to us or want us. She is staying with sister whose ex husband sat for itikaaf so mum goes to them whenever they need her. We cannot visit or call our mum. She has a lot of anger for us but she is happy with other family members who go against shariah. Please advise us on this.