Advice

Q: I got married before one and a half years. Fourth days after my marriage. My husband met an accident. He had brain surgery. At present he
is paralysed on one side. He has a memory problem, can't talk clearly, can't make sentences, he can't work. After the accident I was caring for him for one year. Between this I suffered lot from my mother in-law. Nobody is caring for me. I am very stressed. Within forty days my life changed. After one year I prayed ishikara and I am planing to divorce him, but my husband's parents and not giving divorce and they simply extending the days. My parents are planning to do faskh. I want to know about faskh and how to do it?

Q: I suffer from urinary dribbling after using the washroom. I try my best, before I have to pray, to make it stop. Thereafter, I proceed to make wudhu and to pray. However, during prayer, I experience (very regularly) the feeling of something coming out. But I just choose to ignore this feeling, dismissing it as mere doubt and waswaas, and I continue praying (saying to myself that nothing came out). My question is, is it necessary for me to check, after prayer, if something did in fact come out? If it is necessary, what is the status of all those prayers I prayed where I did not check?

Q: I am a Muslim. My dad drinks alcohol and comes home in the evening and my step mother complains to my dad for simple mistakes and my dad abuses me and sometime beats me. Every day this happens. I have no freedom. They treat me like a prisoner. Recently I left home and came to my grand fathers house. Life here is peaceful. My father is calling me back but I am scared to go because those things will occur again in my life. I don't want to go back. My grand father is supporting me too. But I have a doubt should I go or should I live live with my grand father. Please help me and
give me the best answer according to Islam.

Q: I  want know is it fair towards a woman if her husband has a lady friend which he has more time for. He wattsapp or sms's her at night and when I ask him he tells me I am always negative. And this is going on for years. I told him that I will speak to his boss because they are working together. On Saturday I asked him is he so late on wattsapp with her, he blocked me on wattsapp. If he has nothing to hide so why did he block me? Please advise.

Q: My parents don't want me to get married but I am interested in some one and we want to make nikaah as soon as possible, but my parents won't allow it. What should I do? Because at first we wanted to make nikaah with out my parents consent and then we decided it's wrong but we want to make nikkah what should we do?

Q: For about a year now, my wife and I are having problems with regards to our Islamic Lifestyle. Alhamdulillaah, previously, we were very punctual and even performed our Qadhaa if we missed Salaah. We were more conscious Deeni wise and tried our best to stay away from evil. Last year March, my wife had a miscarriage and since then things have just been going downhill. Our Salaahs get missed as if it is nothing. We have both discussed this issue and we both feel regret and remorse for missing our Salaahs but both of us have experienced that something inside is making us feel this way and stopping us from performing our Islamic duties. Everything in our life has also been going downhill in terms of life situations. People have been making problems and saying certain untrue bad things about my Mother. My Father cannot find a job. With regards to Salaah, both my wife and I feel this, that even when we do try to pray Salaah with full and proper concentration, there is no feeling of Salaah. What we used to feel before, love, contentment and happiness with Allaah Taalaa have disappeared. I hardly pray Salaah with Jamaat in the Masjid and most of the time I don't even pray Salaah at all except Jummuah and that too I feel like running out of the Masjid as quickly as possible. Respected Mufti/Sheikh, I beg of you to please help us as this is really getting out of hand. Every time my wife and I discuss this issue we say that we will change tomorrow but it never happens. We have tried to improve but it just never happens. Something feels like it is blocking us from happiness. We live with my Mum and Dad and they too hardly ever pray Salaah and they too have the same feeling of blockage. We hardly ever pray Quraan where we used  to read quite a lot before. Previously, we hardly used to watch TV but now it has become a norm. Our Sexual life has also taken a downward turn as we both cannot and do not feel what we used to feel before. We cannot fall pregnant since the miscarriage. My Mum and I will fight and shout at each other for silly stupid things. My Mum is having a problem with one of her cousins whom she owes money too. We are going to pay him and we have the money. But he keeps on making her life a misery and this too causes friction in the family as this is what my Mum talks about all the time. My Dad suffers from Bi-Polar Disorder but sometimes he will cause silly and stupid fights in the family and say really silly and inappropriate things. We also eat a lot more than before. As a family we are always hungry and looking for things to eat. Our money comes in for the month and the next thing we know it is gone. We are always having money problems. Everything just seems to be spiralling out of control. Our lives are such a mess. I do not know what to do. What could the problem be? I am so confused? I didn't want to believe that this could be Sihr or Jadoo or Jinns but could this be? Should I go to see someone who can take these evil things out of us? Please make me Maaf Respected Mufti/Sheikh for this long email and for bothering you, I am really really sorry. I just want to improve myself and my family and need your
valuable advice to guide me?

Q: I have a problem kindly guide me. Our one home is at a certain village where my father and mother lived before the death of my mother. Now after the death of mother, my father lived there alone for few days. I am too worried about him and feel that I am very sinful because my father lives there alone. I asked him not to live there but he does not want to listen. I am working in Gujraat as a lecturer in physics at govt. zamindar college gujrat, so most of the time I will not be able to go there with him there. I feel very guilty and my father does not realise this. He loves to live there alone. I told him that I will get transferred there but he said no you do your job at gujrat. I feel that I am committing a sin and remain worried about him. Most of the time I feel that I am not doing his khidmat properly.  I asked my father many times to sell the house of Sheikhpura and live with me at gujrat but he does not like it. I am in very critical situation, I always feel my self guilty due to this, kindly guide me what I should do?

Q: Is it permissible to go on vacation with one’s wife/family to Non-Muslim countries as long as one still fulfil the requirements of being a Muslim
(i.e., praying, fasting, etc.)