Advice

Whose reponsibilty it is to look after the mother

Q: What are the rulings according to shariah of a son looking after his mother after his father passes away. In this situation there is 2 sons an 1
daughter but only 1 son is married with 2 kids an the daughter with 3. Bear in mind the father didn't leave anything for the children only for the mother. So how does one look after wife an dchildren + mother an siblings?

Marital problems

Q: I have a marriage problem. My husband don't want to sleep with me. We always have a big fight in the house. I checked with people and they say that our marriage has witchcraft. This is my second marriage and our marriage was going well till recently. Even with my job as soon as I got the job it finished by itself in a couple of months.

Women living on their own

Q: I seek advise on a matter that currently affects my living conditions. I currently reside in a 3 bedroom dwelling, a mum and brother. My brother intends making nikah to a women who has two teenage boys. I am currently unmarried and fear that the living conditions with the non mahrum boys being in the same dwelling as myself, poses a degree of uneasiness to myself. I am currently fully in hijaab. Please advise if I have a right Islamically to request for a separate dwelling for myself in order to protect my modesty? Your kind feedback will highly be appreciated.

Getting a divorce from a husband who is on drugs

Q: I have been married with nikah for 12 years. In the past 2 years my husband has joined bad friends and has lost his shop, car and all his money to casino and drugs. Nothing I do or say to him makes him change and leave the drugs and casino. From November he even stopped paying rent and
giving money for the house. I had to give notice and move out to a smaller place that I could afford. He is not even worried that I have left or where I am. I have given him enough time to change and come on the right path but he insists on gambling and drugs. I left him last month and have not seen or heard from him. I have sent him a message to give me talaaq but he does not reply. How can I go about getting the talaaq?

Second marriage

Q: I have a question about second marriage? I wanted to marry second wife but my first wife refused and told me to divorce her first. I want to know what's the ruling on that from Allah Ta'ala.

Refusing to accept gifts on occasions

Q: A person is living in a community where the people exchange gifts as a custom (rasm wo riwaj) for example when visits newborn baby gold is given to baby,at the time of marriage, money or gold is given to brides parents, at the time of opening of newly constructed house gifts and money are given by all people, at the time when a girl gets her first menses gold is given to her, at the time of khatna money is given to the boy and so on. These all hadyas are like forced hadyas because the person is giving gifts to maintain his social status not for the sake of allah because when he refuses to give or take gifts in any occasion mentioned above he is viewed low by that community. And also these customs have created big problems for many people who has very low monthly income but these people also finds money from any were to keep his social image. Now this person wants to demolish all rasm wo riwaj and exchange gifts in the way of sunnah at any time he wishes and not in particular occasion.for this to be possible he refuses all the gifts given by the people when all the above mentioned occasions occur in his family as a step to demolish the custom and and seek excuse that; "if you are very much willing to give the gift please give it to us at any time not in this occasion". Will he be sinning when he refuses the gifts? Is this a good decision taken by him in you ulama's view?