Advice

Q: I have a cousin who is supposed to get married to a boy who is pious, haaji and just the opposite of my cousin sister. She is not so pious and had a dark past. She committed zina with another guy, tried committing suicide, and now she is about to get married to this boy who knows nothing about the girls past except that she had someone in her life before. Should the marriage take place without hiding such things about the girl? And if I inform the boys family regarding this will I be committing a sin?

Q: I am an engineer by profession. I work very hard and Alhamdulillah seem to accomplish whatever I put my hand into. But above all, the problem I face is the continuous fear and lack of self-confidence before starting any task while at work. I even know that I would be able to accomplish it, but
don't know why, get constantly reminded by the sub-conscious that I won't be able to make it. Due to that, I constantly face a feeling of reluctance
before starting any challenging task. I am capable enough but don't know why this fear of starting any task has been developed in me ever since I
graduated and stepped into professional life (approximately 1.5 years).

Q: My husband is an alcoholic and separated from the past four years. He is not willing to give Talaaq nor accept Khula. We approached many ulema, still no results. He doesn't come for a discussion when masjid committees call him, doesn't respond to the masjid. I need advice and guidance in such case where husband is not willing to release even if I am ready to give back mahar. He just harasses and give troubles. He is an alcohol addict. He will be missing from the house for months together, some one has to find him and admit him in a de-addiction center. Again after a month again he goes missing, even now he is missing. I can produce the medical certificate regarding his hospitalization at alcoholic de-addiction centers. If I approach through court and lawyer, it is a burden I can't bear. I have a 5 year old son too. Need guidance in such a case to get out from this marriage.

Q: I am living in a countrywith less Muslims. I know a Muslim girl who is going to marry a non Muslim man. I can marry her, my parents will also agree but I don't want my next generation to live in this country. What can I do in this regard? If she marries a non-Muslim will Allah Ta'ala be angry with me?

Q: What are the rulings according to shariah of a son looking after his mother after his father passes away. In this situation there is 2 sons an 1
daughter but only 1 son is married with 2 kids an the daughter with 3. Bear in mind the father didn't leave anything for the children only for the mother. So how does one look after wife an dchildren + mother an siblings?

Q: I got married to a Muslim man. He was a sikh now he is Muslim. I went with him to India to his family to see them. Now my mother wants to know if I go to see them again (his family is sikh but my husband is Muslim), is there any ghunaah?

Q: I have a marriage problem. My husband don't want to sleep with me. We always have a big fight in the house. I checked with people and they say that our marriage has witchcraft. This is my second marriage and our marriage was going well till recently. Even with my job as soon as I got the job it finished by itself in a couple of months.

Q: My cousin is married for 2 years. Before this he wanted to marry another woman but he never really asked her directly. He cares a lot for his wife but still wants to marry this woman. She has now consented that she always wanted to marry him as well. Can he divorce his wife as he does not love her, and loves this other woman.

Q: I seek advise on a matter that currently affects my living conditions. I currently reside in a 3 bedroom dwelling, a mum and brother. My brother intends making nikah to a women who has two teenage boys. I am currently unmarried and fear that the living conditions with the non mahrum boys being in the same dwelling as myself, poses a degree of uneasiness to myself. I am currently fully in hijaab. Please advise if I have a right Islamically to request for a separate dwelling for myself in order to protect my modesty? Your kind feedback will highly be appreciated.

Q: I have been married with nikah for 12 years. In the past 2 years my husband has joined bad friends and has lost his shop, car and all his money to casino and drugs. Nothing I do or say to him makes him change and leave the drugs and casino. From November he even stopped paying rent and
giving money for the house. I had to give notice and move out to a smaller place that I could afford. He is not even worried that I have left or where I am. I have given him enough time to change and come on the right path but he insists on gambling and drugs. I left him last month and have not seen or heard from him. I have sent him a message to give me talaaq but he does not reply. How can I go about getting the talaaq?