Advice

Being uncomfortable around one's in-laws

Q: My father in-law is a very arrogant man and he likes bossing people around. He also swears a lot- I just can't get myself to stay in the same room he is in. I feel very uncomfy because my parents never swore in front of us and never did they shout at us  and many a times he complains about me
that I don't speak to him. He even told my husband that I'm rude and have no respect for him. I am a very happy person but since I got married most
things I say he will find a problem with so I just stopped talking when I go to their place. I don't mean like I don't speak to them its more like I will
only speak when they ask something. I feel very out of place at their place as I'm the only daughter in-law. My mother in-law again likes speaking out of turn and will tell people we don't come to them and I don't want them to see the grand kids. We see them once a week. I'm a housewife with no transport and my husband works late and its awkward with small kids at night to go out. He sees his dad everyday as they work together. What do I do in this case? I so many times have the urge to confront them but I just hold back because it would be disrespectful.

Premarital affair

Q: I have been going out with a Muslim guy for a while. We shared a lot of things and I love him. I'm positive he loves me too. His parents say they heard some things about me and they won't say who told them but they don't want their son to be with me. In Islam what should have happene? I
mean he decided to make his parents happy and leave me after everything we've been through with each other. I need a point of view from someone who would know please advise.

Wife wants her own space

Q: Before my marriage, my in laws seperated a section of their house for me. It is a complete seperate house, with my own kitchen etc. However, when I just got married I used to cook with my mother in law because my husband had just started working and we didn't have a fridge/freezer ect. Now it is over one year and I have everything I need, but my husband refuses to allow me to cook on my own. I have a good relationship with my mother in law الحمد الله but I feel I need my own space. He says that I'm just being difficult and since I don't have any major problems with her its un-necessary. Please advise. Is it wrong of me to want my own space?

Marital problems

Q: My husband had an affair then married without my knowledge. She eventually left him cause he refused to leave me. I am lost as I have just found out she gives him ultimatums either me or her. A fasak is sacred, there is no making up according to my knowledge. Then to top it all messages from another female he is having an affair again. I am so hurt. I am the only one working. People say I should have myself seen too cause there is too much hasad on me. I feel Allah protects us all. I was told not to get off my chair meaning not to leave my husband. But what must I do because he clearly doesn't love me. I am the only one working and cannot get leave to go to MJC. I am the sole provider for my family. He refuses to leave me on paper but he has moved out and says he doesn't want me. This happened before then he just pitches up again speaks nicely then comes home. This time its the worst and I feel hurt and betrayed. I need counselling. I don't know where to go for this Please advise.

Lodging a complaint against a doctor

Q: My wife died (May Allah forgive her) during the delivery of a baby. It happened because of wrong treatment and laziness of the doctor. As a muslim I know that the day of death is fixed from Allah. I am worried about cause of death. I take a decision  to lodge a complaint against doctor and hospital but I don't want her post mortam after her death, that's why I refuse to lodge a complaint. I want to ask what our religion says about lodging a complain against the doctor, when we knew it happened because of their mistak. (I belive she had to die the same day and same time). Can I pray to Allah to punish such doctors badly. The purpose of complain to court or medical board is only to save others from that doctor and even that doctor has done successful operations.