Advice

Marital problems

Q: I am married and have kids. Through out my marriage I had a lot of problems. I stayed because of my kids. The issues were mainly my husband going out with bad company, staying out late, people seeing him at clubs, or people saying he's on drugs. I have now found out that he is taking drugs. He refuses to admit it. Says he isn't. He's not working at the moment, he is trying everywhere for a job. What must I do? I can't afford kids school. I'm not thinking straight. I only cry and feel helpless. I want to leave. What does Mufti advise?

Dogs barking at night

Q: I just wanted to ask you that there are many street dogs near my house and they bark and cry a lot in the night. Is it dangerous or is it bad if dogs cry? If dogs cry in the night does it mean that someone is going to die? Please suggest me something because I am fed up and get scared in the night.

Self study

Q: In the present times we find a lot of people over enthusiastic in matters of religion which of course is not wrong. However they begin to believe that having learnt word to word translation of the Quran and having read the literal translation of some Hadiths they have  understood the real true meanings of the sacred texts. So much so they start indulging in debates and arguments in religious matters and begin to believe, based on their self acquired knowledge, that only they are in the right path and everyone else is wrong.

My question is:

1. Is self acquired knowledge through reading books alone the correct method?

2. Can One really understand the real meanings of ayats of Quran and the meanings of Hadiths by just reading the English translations?

3. What is the correct method of acquiring religious knowledge.

I have heard a saying "Books teach Words. Men train Men".

Having a boy friend

Q: I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend. Today it came to my knowledge that black magic is being done on me. My parents are now thinking
to consult a mufti to help get rid of this magic. I just wanted to ask that if they consult a mufti so can he get to know about my relationship?

Abandoning the ways of the Kuffaar

Q: My question is, how should we treat the act of sinning, specifically homosexuality amongst the non-believers. How are the non-believers suppose to be treated in an Islamic country, and what do we do if they are committing Zina and Homosexuality in a Muslim and Non-Muslim country? I believe Allah wants us to be merciful Alhumdulilah, but how are we suppose to perceive these acts done by non-believers? Do non-believers get the same punishment as a Muslim would if they practise Zina and Homosexuality in a Muslim country, and what if they do this in a non Muslim country like America? how should we go by this, since I live in a non-Muslim country, and I am a convert Alhumdulillah.

Making istikhara to see if one married the wrong person

Q: Can I read istikhara namaaz to see if I married the wrong person? I did read istikhara before I got married over a year ago, but I am beginning to think that my excitement may have affected it and I was too young at the time (19). Our fights are mentally and physically unhealthy for the both of us. How does a women ask for a divorce if the man doesn't want to give it?

Marital issues

Q: I need help. I'm a mother of three kids and my husband is in another country. It's been two months he is not replying to my emails or my
phone calls. I have called him 100 times with more than 100 emails. I need your help give me a dua so he can call me and talk to me because he is with friends who is making him do drugs and drink alcohol and telling him not go call me. I am married to him I am under his nikaah and he's neglecting me and my kids for his friends. He is not even supporting me with money. My father is helping me to pay my rent and utilities bills. Give me a dua so my husband can come back to me Insha Allah and listen to me and love me like he used to. Please send me a dua urgently it's been 2 months he didn't call or talk to me or his kids. When I call him he ignores my calls all his friends pick up his phone and tells me not to call him again. I am lost what to do my kids are crying and sick after the fathers voice when I email him that your kids are sick he used to say show me proof. That's all he would say and curse me blaming men on me. I need a dua urgently please.