Advice

Q: My mother is 60+ and everyday she sits on her laptop and phone chatting to various men/boys (some of them old enough to be her sons) although this does not interfere with her namaaz I still believe this is wrong! When I confront her about it, she get so upset and throws my mistakes in my face. She is on all the dating sites and chats to various men from around the globe! Please help! How can I make her undrstand that what she is doing is a sin as she doesn't see it that way?

Q: I really like someone. Intially when I introduced him at home everyone agreed and our wedding date was all fixed. There was a delay of six months in our marriage and since we used to see each other frequently and to stay away from gunah we got our nikkah done in a gathering of our close friends in a mosque. None of our family members were part of our nikkah. Later we came back to pakistan so we can officially get married. My finance had a robbery at there home and he requested my dad to help him if he can and it will be a loan on him he has an investment back in canada and will return the money. On the other hand my dad took it in a way that he had demanded money and didn't
even let him explain not even once and broke the marriage 10 days before the wedding. After that my dad used his resources to shut him and his family up and wants me to marry some one else. Now some people are saying that our nikkah is not valid because there was no wali in that nikah. I know I should have not done the nikah but I really want to stay with him and I am quiet because I know my father will never ever agree on this. He even said that even if I take a stand he would not agree and he was against this marriage since day one but was not showing it to me because I wanted it. Can you please shed some light on this matter and help me in this regard?

Q: I am very sad and broken at heart. The case is: My father were 5 siblings, 4 brother and 1 sister. After the death of my grandfather, my father's eldest brother took over the factory which was our family business and he claimed that none has the right over the factory except for himself. Since then my father and his other 2 brothers lived a hard life with all source of income cut off and they are struggling till now. Now
that the eldest brother who took over the factory is dead, his wife runs the factory and she claims the rest of the property that is the house in which we are living in is her husband's. Due to all this there is a constant tension in our house. The daughters of this women abused my parents very badly and insulted them. Since then my heart for them has become very hard for them, still I try to maintain the ties in fear of Allah, but this women continuously keeps on saying something or taunts us or she does something or the other to hurt us or pick up a fight. Many a times we ignore but at times it becomes very difficult to keep sabr. In this case what should we do? Being good to them becomes so difficult because of their behaviour. Even if we be good to them, they at times do something which hurts us so bad in the heart. What should we do in this case? Please advice me because I feel so sad and broken in my heart to see such condition in my house. What does Allah command in such a case? Please pray that our family problem is solved and Allah gives us sabr and peace at home.

Q: I got married recently. It was an arranged marriage. After marriage I came to know that my wife is suffering from Epilepsy (Fits). When i asked her father and brothers they said she never had anything like this before. I even asked my wife but she too denied having Fits in the past. I love my wife a lot. As it was an arranged marriage, everything in this relationship was based on trust. I took her to the best doctor, so as to get the best medicine for her. Even the doctor asked to her parents if she had Fits in the past so that she can give her the right medicine, there also they denied it. 

After few weeks her parents came to my house and accepted of her suffering from Epilepsy, but said she had only one and that too 8 years back, while she was suffering from fever. I was very sad as they have hidden this fact from me.

But still I tried my best and provided her the best of medication. Now after 4 months of marriage, she had another attack of Fits. This second made her quite weak, so much so that she was not even able to walk properly. After this second attack she accepted that she had been suffering from this fits in the past and her family has hidden this fact from me and my family. 

If they would have told this before marriage then I would have got married to her or would have selected any other girl for me. Now I feel cheated by her parents. Her brothers and herself because they all knew everything but still they kept on hiding.

I want to ask in Islamic point of view what will happen if i go ahead and divorce her? Am I allowed to do that or will it be injustice to my wife as she must have lied to me thinking of her parents.

Q: I don't know why from a couple of days I am feeling very scared  and my heart keeps beating and I get very scared at night to sleep and I get bad dreams. Can you please tel me why this happens? Please suggest me some solution that I get rid of it and Insha Allah I be well soon.

Q: I'm a sister, 23 years old and soon I'm going to be 24. I'm not married yet because I don't have many chance to find a compatible
brother since we don't know many people who are religious because the country I was born is very secular, and people are very racist. My parents don't even want to know about brothers who are not from my same country and ethnicity, they refuse to accept their proposal. They want me to wait until I find someone from our own country, culture, ethnicity but I'm getting old. Usually nobody is interested in sisters who are over 24 and now I'm worried. Now I live in Europe with my family, so we don't live anymore in our country but yet they want me to find someone from there. I think my parents are not fair with me. I tried to talk to them but they don't want to know about, there's no way to change their mind. And in our culture to marry someone out of our culture is considered something as bad as apostasy. There's nobody I know and I trust who can talk to my parents about this. They all are the same, with the same mentality. Someone once told me that in this case I should accept the proposal from bothers who are not from my country since I cant find a religious brother from our country, but I am not brave enough because I am afraid I will find someone who'll mistreat me, where will I go then? So am I responsible for not accepting the proposal from any religious and compatible brother who's not from our country without my parents consent? What should I do? Please give me an advise and make dua' for me.

Q: When I was a student of standard 9, I failed in exams and my dad told me to give private exams of standard 10 and I told him that I did'nt want to give exams. I don't know how I told him. After 1 year I wanted to give a private exam and I submitted the form also and I was studying all out. But at the end  I gave my maths textbook to my friend and she didn't give me so I passed in all subjects but I failed in Maths. I feel very guilty and however my dad is always expectant of me whenever I am in trouble in trouble. So my dad told me to give a retest of maths and I studied and unfortunately I failed again. And didn't get admission in any collage.
Please help I want to study and more and more but I can't. I love my parents very much. And my parents had 4 daughters and no son so I want to raise my parents name. I finished Quran shareef 4 times and I am trying  to finish more. Is there any way?

Q: I am a new Muslim about 3 years. I married 10 months ago. My wife is ugly, every time she becomes ill and she is having high tempreture, her face is full with pimples. When I saw her at night, the day before marriage, I was unable to recognize because her face was covered with niqaab and I was very shy. 

Sheikh, she is very religious, always prays Tahajud, and always wearing niqaab. She loves me very much. She is 100 % satisfied with me and very happy. But sheikh I am not satisfied with her. I am acting as if I like her very much, but in fact I am unhappy. I am trying to kill my heart but cant. I read some hadith such as: 

It was narrated that Abu Hurairah (RA) said: Allah’s Messenger (PBUH) said, “No believing man should hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one of her characteristics, he may be pleased with another.” 

Abu Hurairah (RA) narrated that Allah’s Messenger (PBUH) said, “The most complete of the believers in faith is the one with the best character among them. And the best of you are those who are best to your women.” 

I never had relationship with women after and before Islam. First time I had relations was with my wife. I don't have any intention to marry another. All my family are still not Muslim. My family doesn’t know about my marriage. 

Sheikh, I had a dream about wife but after marriage it was broken. Our relation is very good, she is happy but all I know is that I am only acting for the sake of Allah. I don’t want to make her disappointed. My question is:

1. I don’t like her but she don’t know about that , I used to lie about that, I am trying to make her happy whatever. Is it Haraam to act like
that?

2. How to become happy? What should I do?

3. Any especial duaa?

I hope you will understand.

Q: I become very nervous when I am asked a question. Please help.