Advice

Q: I'm a sister, 23 years old and soon I'm going to be 24. I'm not married yet because I don't have many chance to find a compatible
brother since we don't know many people who are religious because the country I was born is very secular, and people are very racist. My parents don't even want to know about brothers who are not from my same country and ethnicity, they refuse to accept their proposal. They want me to wait until I find someone from our own country, culture, ethnicity but I'm getting old. Usually nobody is interested in sisters who are over 24 and now I'm worried. Now I live in Europe with my family, so we don't live anymore in our country but yet they want me to find someone from there. I think my parents are not fair with me. I tried to talk to them but they don't want to know about, there's no way to change their mind. And in our culture to marry someone out of our culture is considered something as bad as apostasy. There's nobody I know and I trust who can talk to my parents about this. They all are the same, with the same mentality. Someone once told me that in this case I should accept the proposal from bothers who are not from my country since I cant find a religious brother from our country, but I am not brave enough because I am afraid I will find someone who'll mistreat me, where will I go then? So am I responsible for not accepting the proposal from any religious and compatible brother who's not from our country without my parents consent? What should I do? Please give me an advise and make dua' for me.

Q: When I was a student of standard 9, I failed in exams and my dad told me to give private exams of standard 10 and I told him that I did'nt want to give exams. I don't know how I told him. After 1 year I wanted to give a private exam and I submitted the form also and I was studying all out. But at the end  I gave my maths textbook to my friend and she didn't give me so I passed in all subjects but I failed in Maths. I feel very guilty and however my dad is always expectant of me whenever I am in trouble in trouble. So my dad told me to give a retest of maths and I studied and unfortunately I failed again. And didn't get admission in any collage.
Please help I want to study and more and more but I can't. I love my parents very much. And my parents had 4 daughters and no son so I want to raise my parents name. I finished Quran shareef 4 times and I am trying  to finish more. Is there any way?

Q: I am a new Muslim about 3 years. I married 10 months ago. My wife is ugly, every time she becomes ill and she is having high tempreture, her face is full with pimples. When I saw her at night, the day before marriage, I was unable to recognize because her face was covered with niqaab and I was very shy. 

Sheikh, she is very religious, always prays Tahajud, and always wearing niqaab. She loves me very much. She is 100 % satisfied with me and very happy. But sheikh I am not satisfied with her. I am acting as if I like her very much, but in fact I am unhappy. I am trying to kill my heart but cant. I read some hadith such as: 

It was narrated that Abu Hurairah (RA) said: Allah’s Messenger (PBUH) said, “No believing man should hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one of her characteristics, he may be pleased with another.” 

Abu Hurairah (RA) narrated that Allah’s Messenger (PBUH) said, “The most complete of the believers in faith is the one with the best character among them. And the best of you are those who are best to your women.” 

I never had relationship with women after and before Islam. First time I had relations was with my wife. I don't have any intention to marry another. All my family are still not Muslim. My family doesn’t know about my marriage. 

Sheikh, I had a dream about wife but after marriage it was broken. Our relation is very good, she is happy but all I know is that I am only acting for the sake of Allah. I don’t want to make her disappointed. My question is:

1. I don’t like her but she don’t know about that , I used to lie about that, I am trying to make her happy whatever. Is it Haraam to act like
that?

2. How to become happy? What should I do?

3. Any especial duaa?

I hope you will understand.

Q: I become very nervous when I am asked a question. Please help.

Q: I was in love with a girl, she was Christian. But the relationship wasn't for long. Her ex came back in her life and she was dating both of us at the same time. I was not aware of it. I was so much in love with her. And when she broke up my trust, I lost trust in girls and relationship. I'm 28 years old now and single. I'm not mentally prepared to get married or when its comes to get involved with someone (pure relationship with Islamic guidelines) that hardly stand for few days and I start facing problems trusting that girl. Need your real help. Please guide me.

Q: I am not a true Muslim. I try to pray 5 time a day but most of the time I don't pray esha salaah. I read many Islamic books and sometimes I tell the people many good things about Islam but then I think that I am munafiq. I am not following Islam properly then why should I teach the people? Am I right or I am a munafiq?

Q: I request your clarification/advice on the following. 

1. How do you deal with Waswasa (whispers of Shaitan/Jinn) which continually disturb a person during Wudu and Salaah/Recitation of Qur'an and other daily activities ?
2. It is recorded in Sahih Hadith Nasa'i 10500 and Abu Dawood 5113, Narrated by Abu Huraira RA that Rasul Allah Sallallaahu Alaihiwa Sallam declared such Waswasa to be Outright ​Eemaan, when the Sahaaba Radhi Allahu Anhum sought clarification from Rasul Allah Sallallaahu Alaihiwa Sallam about it. Could this Waswasa also mean to be so?
3. Could this Waswasa be due to a person being affected by Sihr(sorcery)? If so, how can one differentiate it from being Outright Eemaan mentioned in point no 2?

Q: Is legal love marriage allowed which means without looking talking exposing one another. I (happen to be a pious unmarried male of 28) got information from a brother of a very reputed pious divorced women of 30 that she wants to marry me and if I do not marry her she will remain unmarried but my family will accept it for many reasons. She also said that if my family will not accept it then I will have to marry her secretly then she will remain in her house and I will remain in my house. And Allah made me too generous that I do not want to hurt anyones feelings so naturally I am also feeling love for her. So what should I do now?

Q: There is a genuine problem and for that I need a genuine advice. My father separated from my mother when I was just 5. Since then my mother had been there to support me. Now this is the time I should support her as this is my sole responsibility. Since I have completed my BBA in finance, I am getting offers from some banks but I am not willing to do job there because I got involved in Islam few months back. Before that I was not in to it in any way. There is no source of income as I just do free lancing and everyone is pressurising me to do job where I have only one option for doing a job i.e. in bank since I have applied at different places but the qualification requirement is MBA which I will be starting in a month or so. My mother, sister and everyone linked to us taunts me for not paying attention to such ongoing circumstances of my family. I am just worried if my mother could get some heart problem for getting tensed on not supporting her. However I have tried to explain her several times that working in a conventional bank is not an appropriate thing to do. But no body is listening to me. Please assist me for what should I do. However I had to do my job for sometime like for an year to gain some work experience so that I can get a better and halal job after gaining some experience. I hope you will assist me for no body is there to provide me a genuine answer. Jazak Allah