Advice

Q: Eight years ago I fell in love with a girl. Her parents did not agree because of my financial state and forced her to marry someone else. She was 16 at that time. Durring that time I forgot about her ever coming back and put my self in a life of lonelyness. I kept praying to Allah Ta'ala for comfort of my heart. One night I prayed in tears to Allah about her. In the next two days I received her email asking about my well being out of no where.  I continued talking to her in a decent manner and soon learnt she was not happy even after 8 years. She showed signs of seeking a divorce. I confirmed her intentions and offered my hand as if she now has the power to decide for her life. Accept me. She agreed. The Problem is she has a one year old daughter and to the fear of loosing her she decided not to seek divorce but feels the same about leaving her husband.  I hang in the balance again with good intention of religiously marrying her and accepting her daughter as mine. I prayed a lot to Allah for comfort and solution but what happend why am I suffering the same thing again and last time it was easy to let go. This time
I feel there is hope and keep praying. Is it a test!? Because each time I pray and be a good muslim I get positive effects from her side. Now I am blank as if Allah has put me in a test again. Is it right of her to get subjected to something not in her will and because of the child not practice her right of khulah.

Q: I am a fellow muslim teenager here in Toronto, Canada. The problem is that a lot of pious and loving friends that I have (majority of them being Muslim) are starting to party for no various reasons and now they want to do it more! It is a shame because a lot of muslims I know, and it's tough to look at, have become one of these people. Recently, some students in my school just had a party exclusively for Grade 10 students. This party was without any adult authority from my school and before I knew it, some people actually turned to haram and drank alcohol and did drugs just like that. Even I got invited, but I just knew that this would happen. And if I were to ask anyone who went there that night, a majority of them would say, "They had fun." Now, one of my lifetime goals and lifetime deeds was to help people stay on the path to heaven within Allah Subhanawatua'la, I could see this as a test and opportunity to build up on my good deeds by the will of Allah. As a bystander of all this partying and what not, what would you do to encourage students to stay on the path to Jannah and what do you think of this in general?

Q: My question is I work in an IT company where I have to speak to the the USA clients. My problem is whenever I speak to them I feel a little bit scared, nervous etc because of that I sometimes forget what I have to communicate to them, so please Moulana suggest me a wazifa to get rid of this problem and I request you to please make dua for me.

Q: In Islam we are encouraged to visit relatives etc. How should one do this if most of the relatives are not purdah conscious and the lady relatives are probably going to try and talk to you when visiting. Should one try to visit these type of people or avoid going to these homes?

Q: Me and my husband are saving money to buy a house. We live in a rented house at the moment in Australia. Sometimes I am confused whether we should save money to buy house, vehicle, etc or donate the money saved to the needy people and live our life in the rented property. Can money be saved to buy a house or we need to give it to the needy, I am confused. Jazakallah for the reply. Thanks.

Q: I would like to know how should one conduct himself in such a situation. A man was offered  a job. Before he started work he informed the employer that he is studying and will need to write exams. We agreed on giving him off for the days he will be writing. He's cousin was getting married in another town he ask he employer for the weekend off but was told he cant get the weekend off. Or he must come to work
on Friday and Saturday till 11:00.  Friday morning he sent a message that the lift was going and he no other lift. For the 1st month or so he was coming to  work approx 30 to 45 min late. He's friend passed away he took early leave to go to the hospital and the next day because he had to go to another town. It is peak season at the moment and we were receiving a delivery. He never inform the employer that he's going for janaaza out of town the next day he never call to say he not around and knowing that theres lots of orders for him to despatch. The employer calls to find out where he is he says he is 4 hours away. Few days ago he had to go early because he's wife was sick. Other workers feel we are favouring him because we are of the same nationality. Workers who are with us longer have never taken so many days. Please advise me as what I should do?

Q: I have some problems, first of all I am a perfect girl but not getting married. I have performed several wazaif for it but there was no effect. My age is 26 now. Secondly I have started my MPHIL but I have not completed instead of my hard work. I am in search of a good job but I have not yet found anything. Please tell me some wazaif for solution of my problems. Please also pray for me, I am greatly worried.

Q: If any difficulties come in life, is that because of our deeds (amal)?

Q: I just want to know if this is bad or good. I'm going 10 days to Malaysia for holiday before going for jamaat, then I'm going to for 40 days to India. I'm going to stay until the jhor?

Q: I am fond of eating food three times a day e.g. breakfast, lunch and dinner and in between these meals I eat some kind of snacks like sandwiches or samoosas etc and I am doing this for a very long time and it has become a habit. I feel shamed and regret for what I am doing but this thing has become so habitual that upon trying to quit I cannot, I can just control for one or two days and again I do the same. Is this a sinful Act? Please advise on this matter.