Advice

Q: I just want to know if this is bad or good. I'm going 10 days to Malaysia for holiday before going for jamaat, then I'm going to for 40 days to India. I'm going to stay until the jhor?

Q: I am fond of eating food three times a day e.g. breakfast, lunch and dinner and in between these meals I eat some kind of snacks like sandwiches or samoosas etc and I am doing this for a very long time and it has become a habit. I feel shamed and regret for what I am doing but this thing has become so habitual that upon trying to quit I cannot, I can just control for one or two days and again I do the same. Is this a sinful Act? Please advise on this matter. 

Q: I live in a town about 50km away from my parents. I stay with them every weekend and try to do as much as I can to please them. My mother plans on going to do my sisters confinement in Joburg for a week. She wants me to come and stay with my father and younger brothers for that week. I must close my afternoon Madrasah for that week and cover up the lost time during the weekends. I must also leave my husband and tell my mother in law to cook etc for him for that week. My husband feels that this is unreasonable. I want to please him but I also want to please my mother. Who has more right over me and how can I resolve the issue without offending my husband and my mother?

Q: I am nowadays in financial crisis and have to pay a lot of debts. I am a Muslim but yes i admit that I have made a lot of sins and mistakes that I did not pray 5 times, now when I am in crisis I realised that it is all because I was gaafil from Allah. But now when I want to start salaah again with pure heart my friends says "If you are in trouble and you remember Allah it means you are in trouble" is it wrong if you realize your mistakes and you want to go to Almighty Allah?

Q: I am a student and I have my friends in my room who were my friend since my last 10 years but now we have some clashes and an extreme hatred have come between us. Now I have the power to remove them from my room. Now please tell me some reasonable solution? Also give me reference to the solution.

Q: I had a girlfriend who lured me in to physical relationship. I kissed and saw her breasts but never saw her private part or had intercourse with her. She saw my private parts and masturbated me. This happened five times and then I realised the great sin we committed. We  decided to get married but her family refused with threats. I cut off all contacts with her. I cried a lot, repented a lot in Ramadhaan during the nights and went for Umrah especially to repent deeply and prayed for a pious virgin woman. I got married to a 20 year old girl on 27th Ramadhaan 2013. 

Before marriage I got some info about her physical relationship with a boy and asked her directly by swearing on Qur'an and her father. She refused the allegations and said that they were just class fellows and there was nothing serious. After Nikaah I observed that she was not a virgin and hence I was in constant doubt that may be the information before marriage was true. After 3 months of marriage I logged in her facebook profile for the first time to make some settings for her and found her old messages in 2012 to her sister expressing sever remorse, shame for committing zina with the boy who promised to marry but left her. She wanted to die but her sister suggested to get married.

1. My question is that I never committed zina and repented a lot from my sins of physical contacts then why Allah has given me a zani wife? Did Allah punish me for my wrong physical acts although I was not a zani?
2. If my wife spoke a lie by swearing upon the Quran and her Father about her physical relationships then shall I leave her? How can I trust her in future?
3. She claims that she repented a lot and wanted to set things right in her life by getting married and loves me a lot as I am her husband. Then why did Allah unveil her sins to me just after 3 months of marriage, when I had no such intention of spying or wanting to know her past? Is this an indication of something bad in future and hence to leave her now?
4. I am unable to forget her past and doubt her every move. What should I do? Should I stay with her or leave her?

Q: If a person suffers from a severe disease such as double-kidney failure, cancer or a similar painful disease, and this disease led to his death, then will this sickness be regarded as a punishment from Allah Ta'ala on account of his sins?

Q: Three months before I got a son. But my son has no right ear. The right ear got microtia very little meat there like peanuts. The hearing in the right ear is also effected. I want to know why was my baby born with this defect? What does Islam say? My wife and I were doing wazifas to have a son. All reports during pregnancy were fine. Please tell me why God give me an abnormal son? Did  I commit some Gunaah due to which Allah Ta'ala is punishing me?

Q: I wanted to ask something related to my health and mind. It's been more then a year I am obsessed with the thoughts of death 24/7. It's in my mind and I am not able to relax. Every time I think about death and then I get dreams where I hear someone dying or I am going to graveyard or something like this and I get more scared. My life is ruined. Everyday I cry because I get stomach aches, headaches and every time I think that I have got some major disease. Can you please tell me what is it and how to get out of it? I will be very thankful to you.