Advice

Q: I have been married since 2008. During my first year of marriage, my husband hit me, swore me, smashed the wind-screen of my car and used drugs. I went back home for nine months trying to get my talaaqs from the jamiatul-ulema. They said we should reconcile. We did reconcile and I fell pregnant. My husband started using drugs and got hectic, straight after I gave birth, he went to rehab. When he came out, we went for counselling and soon afterwards, I suspected he was using, but he said it was only weed. I fell pregnant again but had a  miscarriage. I refused to go back unless he signs a conditional talaaq valid for six months. In that six months he broke two of the conditions. We then went for marital counselling. He still abuses me mentally and verbally. He doesn't physically abuse me as bad as before. He
just pushes and pulls here and there. I got a faskh granted on this basis from an Imaam who is an Islamic minister at a certain center and began sitting my iddat. Now he says that he has found out from Ulama' that my faskh is not valid. Is my fasgh valid and who can issue a fasgh? I do not want to go back.

Q: My dad is suffering from a skin disease called psoriasis and it has been for quite a long time now. My great grandfather and my grandfather had the same disease. Please give me some duas for this disease? Can I ask him to recite the dua of Ayub Alaihi Salam as well? 

Q: I need advice please. Several years ago my husband wanted to marry a woman he made pregnant. I didn't accept it then because I feel it is wrong to want to cover up a big sin like that with marriage. He chose to stay with me when I gave him an ultimatum. The child is 11 years now. The mother passed on and he wants to bring the child to our home because she apparently got no relatives. I am not willing to bring this child up after all the pain he put me through he has the gumption to ask me to bring up his illegitimate child! I feel so much hatred for him right now.

Q: I need help with a problem. I am 15 years old and studying to become a Hafiz ul Quran. The problem is, I'm too handsome (al hamdulillah at least). Its something that leads me to immoral thoughts of the opposite sex. Its since I've lost weight it all started. My nafs are strong and I am scared to fall in sins. Please advise me.

Q: I'm a 21 year old female. I have always been extremely skinny and when I reached the age of puberty, I started to get bullied because I remained on the skinny side and didn't develop a chest. The bullying got so bad I started to fill my bra. I did not realize at the time how this may affect me later but it has gotten to the point where if I do not fill my bra, it is very noticeably different. This problem has emotionally and psychologically scared me for the longest time. Everyone I know always comments about how I look like a 12 year old kid (even with the fake chest) and it tears me apart. This "fake chest" is the only way I feel my age. I do not want to face being humiliated if I stop filling my bra by my family, relatives and friends and was considering breast enlargement. As I see it right now, my only options are either surgery or continuing filling my bra. Please advise.

Q: Their is a friend of mine who wants to marry a girl but he is not able to decide as the girl has told him that she was in relation with a boy in past and has been physical with him also. And on the contrary my friend has also been physical but he has made a serious repent to Allah and is a practising muslim now Alhamdulillah. So he is very much confused now whether he should marry a girl who is not pure? Though he is not in touch with that girl now but is still very much confused about that girl what to be done. As he himself is not pure but now has made sincere tauba. So request you please help on this case.

Q: What is shirk? I am getting waswasas about Allah. I don't know I had thoughts in my mind that Muhammed (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) isn't the prophet and all that I don't know it was in my mind and then I took my mind off. Is this shirk?

Q: I have very bad thoughts all the time, even while making wudu and performing Salaah which I am feeling very shameful to tell. I am married but my thoughts are very bad and it is effecting my concentration on my work and it is also effecting my performance. Please advise me what to do and what to read?

Q: I have been married for 15 years but my marital life has turned up side down, in fact last few months back my wife was supposed to take khula but since I cried for the children that got postponed. Now my wife's father in demanding me to give talaaq as they will not give me khula' and are making a lot of false allegations. I am not interested in giving talaaq but her parents are demanding from me talaaq as in the case of Indian law they can ask anything from me after talaaq or they can even put false cases and can extract money and property from me. Please advise me can I refuse to give talaaq and is this as per Shari'ah law? In case she wants she can go for khula.