Submitted by admin on Tue, 2012-09-04 08:53
Q: I am really sorry for a long question. I tried to explain my situation to you in the shortest possible way. Please read it. I am contacting you from England. I am a woman of 22 years old. My query is regarding my personal life. I am the youngest in my family. I have two elder sisters. One of them has a boyfriend - she's 23. My parents know and every time they interrogate her, she creates a huge scene in the house, yelling, losing her head, breaking things etc. She used to see him almost everyday when she went university. Though my parents still know some of the things she does outside the home, they keep quiet now because they are scared of what she will do if they interrogate her again. My mum is very upset and she cries, once just in front of me as she believes that they are responsible for my sister's deeds and they will get the gunnah for it as my parents believe that until the girl is with her parents, her parents get gunnah for whatever she does. My parents did everything they could for us. They even made us Hafiz-e-Quran. We wear abayas. It is now holidays from university and my sister cannot see her boyfriend as frequently as she used to. My mum went back home recently leaving me, my sister and my dad behind. My dad goes out to work and I found out that my sister is seeing him again and what's worse, she is seeing him in our own home! Once when i was sleeping upstairs, he came home and he was downstairs with her and once I went out with dad, she called him home and he came to see her inside our own house. My parents don't know about this and my sister doesn't know that I know either. I don't know what to do. If I tell my parents, I am scared, God forbid, they will have a heart attack. Both are already very ill. Even I dropped on the floor when I found out about him coming to our own house. My parents are very religious and I try to be religious too. My other sister is supportive of her. If I didn't do anything about it, I feel somewhat responsible too. Please help me in the light of Quran and Sunnah what I should do. I really don't want to upset my parents even more and really want her to stop at the same time.