Advice

Q: The girl whom in ignorance i got sexually involved with as a child is getting married to one of my male cousins who is very chaste and pious and islamic in nature since childhood. (i proposed to this cousin for marriage but she gave no answer and then she got married to another guy but then divorced him).in the meantime i got engaged with a nice and kind girl too.but now after divorce she(my cousin)is getting married to this pious cousin of mine. How could she do this to him? She knows he is very very pious and islamic and still she agreed to marry him?should i hint to my this cousin that she's not well suited for him?i guess she is doing this to take revenge from me as this male cousin of mine stays just below my flat. Please pray for me as she is making my life hell since childhood. Please i want to be free of her attrocities on me.she is making me live in hell.please pray for me and guide me.

Q: I am really sorry for a long question. I tried to explain my situation to you in the shortest possible way. Please read it. I am contacting you from England. I am a woman of 22 years old. My query is regarding my personal life. I am the youngest in my family. I have two elder sisters. One of them has a boyfriend - she's 23. My parents know and every time they interrogate her, she creates a huge scene in the house, yelling, losing her head, breaking things etc. She used to see him almost everyday when she went university. Though my parents still know some of the things she does outside the home, they keep quiet now because they are scared of what she will do if they interrogate her again. My mum is very upset and she cries, once just in front of me as she believes that they are responsible for my sister's deeds and they will get the gunnah for it as my parents believe that until the girl is with her parents, her parents get gunnah for whatever she does. My parents did everything they could for us. They even made us Hafiz-e-Quran. We wear abayas. It is now holidays from university and my sister cannot see her boyfriend as frequently as she used to. My mum went back home recently leaving me, my sister and my dad behind. My dad goes out to work and I found out that my sister is seeing him again and what's worse, she is seeing him in our own home! Once when i was sleeping upstairs, he came home and he was downstairs with her and once I went out with dad, she called him home and he came to see her inside our own house. My parents don't know about this and my sister doesn't know that I know either. I don't know what to do. If I tell my parents, I am scared, God forbid, they will have a heart attack. Both are already very ill. Even I dropped on the floor when I found out about him coming to our own house. My parents are very religious and I try to be religious too. My other sister is supportive of her. If I didn't do anything about it, I feel somewhat responsible too. Please help me in the light of Quran and Sunnah what I should do. I really don't want to upset my parents even more and really want her to stop at the same time. 

Q: last year i got much tensed because of some weird thinking that went coming in my mind UN-intentionally regarding to deen and other religious  matters. i had never thought of such painful condition because i really had a fear that not knowing, somewhere i may not get out of my deen. i  fought and fought with such pain thousand times a day and made taubah each time bcecause i could never think of such bad things. it became difficult for me to combat this condition. i could not make i'tkaaf because of this frustration. now a year has passed, and i feel much better. but still i remain scary each time that again that bad thinkina will hit my mind and i will get disappointed. please guide ma in the light of shari'ah that what should i do to cancal out this fight permanantly so that i may get easy in making prayer. because i am too much scary that whether ALLAH will  forgive or not.

Q: I have come to a point where I don't know what to do. My husband lies a lot and when I find out about it, he gets defensive and tries to justify himself and looks for loopholes, he has a habit of deceiving a person by not telling the whole truth. He is an Aalim and I'm getting very tempted to expose his behaviour publicly!!  Last week we were at his parents home and the house phone was ringing and he didn't answer, it was his father phoning and when his father returned and asked him why he didn't answer, he said that he was outside. Now according to them, they understood outside the house, whereas he was outside the room!!! I don't know what's wrong with him!! No ways can this be the shariah! Its pure deception. He lies about every small silly thing!! Its sickening!! Is there anything that I can do??

Q: I need help since we moved to our other house which we bought in 2003. First we came to stay in this house, then we moved to our old house in 2005. Then again we moved to this house in 2010. Since we moved we having a lots of problem. From very first night my son got accident. Most we got accident, breaking. I made istikhara so many times but I got no answer. Can you make istikhara on behalf of us is this house we should leave or stay here?​