Advice

Q: I am a 17 year old boy from Brisbane, Australia but orginaly from Pakistan and I was wondering if an Imam can advise me on a problem I am currently seeing happen with my own eyes. 

There is a 16 year old muslim girl whom I know very well, you can call me her best friend pretty much. She is from India and like me, she is also in her last year of school in Australia and university will start next year. Me and her have been friends since last year and were hoping that in 3 to 4 years Insha-Allah we will tell our parents about each other and arrange a marriage for us Insha-Allah. Unfortunately her parents are very abusive and strict parents, I have heard from her about the many different cases of them beating her up everyday for little things like forgetting to wash the laundry. Wallah I am not lying this is all true. A few weeks ago her mum was beating her up and said the following words to her "you are my daughter and I can do whatever I want to you and you can do nothing but obey me because I own you." I was absolutely shocked when I heard this. Wallahi all of this is true she has been constantly getting abused by her mum and dad since she was a little girl and her older brother seems to join in when he wants to. 

Recently, her parents told her that they want to get her engaged at the end of the year and she doesn't want this to happen. They have been forcing her to accept whatever they say and live with whoever they want and they made some cultural comments like no one else will be allowed to marry her except an Indian boy, no arab no pakistani no one except an Indian. She told me that she doesn't want this to happen and has been crying and feeling depressed from many days now. My question is, what is Islam's view on forced marriage and what can this girl do to avoid what her parents are doing because they have been abusing and forcing her to do as they say and she does not wish to get engaged to anyone by force and only wants to engage someone who she will accept with her heart but she feels like whoever her parents show her, she will only accept because of fear out of what they will do if she says no due to their abusive nature and not because she actually accepts the boy. 

If possible, can you please advise me on what this girl should do and how she can seek help? What does Islam say about a scenario like this and what can this girl do to avoid forced marriage? I am looking forward to the Imam's advice Insha-Allah it will be greatly appreciated.

Q: I am a 20 year old Muslim female. In my childhood maybe up to 13 years or so, I used to involve in some physical sexual activities with some of my younger and older cousins both males and females ,in the form of a game at that time. This did not extend up to zina (the actual penetration) but touching and kissing each others body parts. Will this make my marriage (I am unmarried) in the future invalid? I want to repent from this but please tell me how to repent from the same? In order for me to repent is it obligatory to ask them also to repent from the same and is it obligatory to ask forgiveness from them. I don't remember whether at times I have asked them to involve in this act and they reluctantly did or not. Please help me out with this. I really want my marriage to be valid according to Allah.

Q: Me and my wife are currently seperated and waiting for the MJC to discuss the matter. My wife says she is done with our marriage but I feel there is still room for reconcilliation. The question I have is as follows. 

1. I am being told that that my wifes decision and the fact that her mind is made up goes directly from her mother and eldest brother not to take me back. Please advise what I can do to as I want my wife back as well as my two kids. Even if there is a dua I can make to make things right between us..

Q: Someone has died and about 15 minutes after, I have taken my 17 month baby there. Till then, my baby has been very nervous, he is hitting for no reasons, angry most of the times. Can you please help me?

Q: My sister got married last month. She was happy with her husband but since last week she is behaving very weird. She is telling that she is feeling depressed and having uneasiness. She is not even allowing her husband to come near her. Not praying namaz. Crying all the time and telling that I want to go somewhere. Please help me whether she is having some asarat of Jin. Should I consult a mufti regarding this?

Q: I am in desperate need of good advice. I have downloaded your app and been listening to your talks. I have been having marriage issues for a while now and my husband and I almost got separated about a month ago he moved out the house and after some time came back. We then left for umrah about 3 weeks later only to come back from umrah to find out he has been cheating on me for some time now. According to the girl it's been 2 years according to him it's from late last year his not sure exactly when but she has known him for 2 years now. I am hurting really badly I don't know what to do. I have forgiven him for it but it's not the 1st time I have found out about him doing this. We are married for 5 years now. How do I go about dealing with this issue? I feel I should let him go and move on as he causes me a lot of heart ache not only this buy many other things.

Q: What is the importance of a husband? How shall he be treated? I'm reluctant to obey him in every matter. I want to correct myself but I'm stubborn and a pampered wife. I want to rectify my amaal.

Q: My friend's mother died last year and they had 8 kids. It was less than a year and the dad fought with his children on purpose and ruined his kids birthday so that he can go Pakistan. It was a planned visit and went Pakistan and got married against his kids wishes. All he does is listens to his wife and has pushed all his kids away from him. He don't listen to the kids and all he does all day is talks to his wife. All he does is listens to that lady and then wants his kids to listen to him. Don't know what she should do? The lady is greedy and wants him to give his lands to her and not to his family. Also all she ever does is asks for money. Her family is greedy but he wont listen. The kids are so lonely and on the verge of doing something wrong?

Q: I performed only nikah with a girl back in February 2016. Her elder sister is married with my elder brother. Now some problems happened between my brother and his wife and they even went to court for their personal matter solution. Her family started threatening us and told us clearly that they will not arrange to send their 2nd daughter who is my wife to our house untill we write any property or big amount on her name. We are not able to meet this demand and it was also not a part when nikah was performed. Now I have decided to divorce her immediately. But may be in future I still expect they might change their conditions. What should I do? If I divorce her, what will be the possibilities and how can I remarry her if any solution is done? Please guide me.

Q: I am unable to talk with people. I feel fear. Please suggest me any wazifa.