Advice

Being concerned about the Deen of a female family member

Q: If a Muslim woman,who is married and having kids, does not offer namaaz and never do other mandatory practices and she doesn't have basic knowledge of Islam, although she is an educated woman and she never shows her interest in Islamic knowledge. So what is the way to let her on the right path. Who will be in charge to let her back to right path or who's responsible?

Placing one's trust in Allah

Q: I wanted to know how would a sister who no longer wants any kids due to clinical depression and who’s had health issues for over 6 years which affects her daily life, search for a spouse? She is not living a normal life as it is so she can’t take on the responsibility of a child and doesn't want any anyway despite loving kids all her life and knowing it’s a Sunnah. She’s going on 27 and has been wanting to have a companion for years if not a child. It will change her in good ways and help her lower her gaze.

She doesn't have time to go from person to person and and keep mentioning not having kids and being rejected. Also due to some men being desperate to get married, some just agree and say yes it’s ok for the sake of it but have no idea what they are getting themselves in to and how it would affect them in the long term when they see their friends have kids and when their parents start forcing them to have kids so she needs someone who isn’t influenced by people and is sure that they are ok with NOT wanting kids. She's not ever planning to be a 2nd wife either so this sister is making her self very clear before hand and needs to be taken seriously. She doesn’t mind accepting older men who are divorced and already have kids if they can accept to NOT having more otherwise if they do then that's a problem.

There are more people out there now that don’t want kids but it’s hard to find them or brothers who have a medical problem and can't have kids, there is no help to bring these people together.

Father leaving wife and children without any financial support

Q: If a father left his wife and kids out of the country for two years without any financial support and after 2 years suddenly come back, what will they do with him? Should they join again or stay far away from him? The wife is seriously fed up with her husband because he had done this 5 times before and bothered his family by not financially supporting themafter leaving. His family faced very very difficult situations.

How should a wife deal with her husband who watches porn?

Q: I have seen many women complain on social platforms that their husbands watch porn and I've seen people comment that they should divorce or try and help them with it. What exactly would be the Islamic way of dealing with it? Should she advise him against it, then if he carries on, leave him to go to her parents house for a while and inform him that she would be willing to fulfill his rights at any part of the day in any way permissible in Islam as long as it does not break the rules of Islam and then if he agrees and asks her to come back home should she go back and only divorce if he repeatedly does it again?

Husband cheating with sister-in-law

Q: If my husband and sister in law had a najaiz relationship when we were downstairs and he was sleeping. (Maybe) She came in the room and stayed for fifteen minutes when we were in England. What can I do so that she stays away from him and he doesn't look at her because she is making him with magic. What can I read that no one can came between us?

Marital problems

Q: I would like your advice, other than interpretation of dreams, regarding my first wife. It is understandable the shock she had about hearing about my second marriage, but at that point I did not deny it and I accepted it and told her the circumstances and reasons for taking this step. Now she is in constant denial and acceptance. For a while she relaxes and then starts again, suffering herself and making me suffer too. I would like to say that my second wife is in Indonesia. And I have told my first wife many times, that look at the big picture, I am here, with you alive and well, but she sometimes gets relieved, but after a short while, she starts again. It is affecting me very hugely, because I am in a high pressure job. First wife also had gynecological problems. I am taking her for medical help, but that will only work if she believes in herself . I need your advice.

Talcum powder

Q: Enchanteur Talcum powder having mention ingredients as talc, fragnance, benzyle, benzoate, butylphenyl Methylpropional, hexyl cinnamal. Is this powder permissible to use?

Thoughts of shirk

Q: Because of some thoughts that came to my mind, I thought talking to a friend is shirk so I planned to stop talking. For that I called that person and informed that person that I won't be talking to that person anymore and that is tha last time I was going to talk. We talked for while, when I was talking I felt like I was committing shirk by talking to that person then I thought that I will commit shirk this time and ask for forgiveness from Allah and stop talking to that person. After that incident I got to know that it was not shirk to talk to that person so they told me to talk to that person now am talking to that person but still am confused that if I was ready to commit shirk because of that person did that mean I comit shirk and I gave more priority to that person than Allah because in that time I thought to commit shirk one time and ask for forgiveness so after I think like that is it shirk to talk to that person now ??? Is there is any way to make it normal ... I asked forgiveness from Allah if I have committed any shirk and now am talking to that person as normal because that person is not more important than Allah but still .. is there is any shirk in talking to that person now ???? Or did I commit any shirk by thinking like that while talking that guy?