Q: I keep hitting a dead end with my business, and recently smashed a car twice in one week. Work gets done, but clients keep avoiding me and shukar to Allah Ta'ala that he makes that little come. If you can let me know if I should worry, as the past I had in law and family hasad and other related issues. I have two boys, one 4 and the other 1 year. Im married for 9 years to a revert.
Q: Nowadays I am quite worried. Please tell me what steps should I take to make my life normal.
I live in pakistan, where when you get married, people think that now you are their servant. I have graduated in software engineering but my husband dont allow me to work. I understand he is my husband and he can give me orders. But my problem is that his parents also think that they are my responsibility. His mother's attitude is not good with me from the time I got married. His mother says that there is nothing appreciatable or good in me, I am ugly and dont do any thing good. Although my relatives say thay I am good looking. I am telling you this so that you can understand that she hurts me and insults me and expects that I have to serve her. Last time my mother in law said that if I cannot do what she says then I have to stay in my parents home just because I made bread dough with my own recipe not like what she said. Along with other household chores she wants me to even iron her and her husband cloths. Although I have the responsibility of my husband and a daughter. My main issue is their behaviour and their insults. Now I am at my parents home and I refuse to go back to my in laws home. I have asked my husband that I will only go back if he will take me and his mother to some mufti so that the mufti could tell that his parents that they are not my responsibility. Maybe in this way their attitude will change. But my husband refused so now I'm in my parents home. Do you think what I have done is right? Please tell me what I should do? Because I have lost all my self respect for my husband and in laws . Still they are not happy. They have made me hate myself. Please tell me if my husband can force me to serve his parents?
Q: I know someone who has an eating disorder; when advised to eat by her parents she refuses and advises that she is putting on 'too much weight'. Is there a ruling in Islam regarding this to explain to her that what she is doing is wrong?
Q: If a Muslim woman,who is married and having kids, does not offer namaaz and never do other mandatory practices and she doesn't have basic knowledge of Islam, although she is an educated woman and she never shows her interest in Islamic knowledge. So what is the way to let her on the right path. Who will be in charge to let her back to right path or who's responsible?
Q: I wanted to know how would a sister who no longer wants any kids due to clinical depression and who’s had health issues for over 6 years which affects her daily life, search for a spouse? She is not living a normal life as it is so she can’t take on the responsibility of a child and doesn't want any anyway despite loving kids all her life and knowing it’s a Sunnah. She’s going on 27 and has been wanting to have a companion for years if not a child. It will change her in good ways and help her lower her gaze.
She doesn't have time to go from person to person and and keep mentioning not having kids and being rejected. Also due to some men being desperate to get married, some just agree and say yes it’s ok for the sake of it but have no idea what they are getting themselves in to and how it would affect them in the long term when they see their friends have kids and when their parents start forcing them to have kids so she needs someone who isn’t influenced by people and is sure that they are ok with NOT wanting kids. She's not ever planning to be a 2nd wife either so this sister is making her self very clear before hand and needs to be taken seriously. She doesn’t mind accepting older men who are divorced and already have kids if they can accept to NOT having more otherwise if they do then that's a problem.
There are more people out there now that don’t want kids but it’s hard to find them or brothers who have a medical problem and can't have kids, there is no help to bring these people together.
Q: If in the past some person did very bad things for the other person and made his life like hell and this person is very sad and prays to God to do bad things to this person as he did to me. If this person died later on but started doing good before dying, but because of the innocent persons bad wishes she got an early death.
Q: If a father left his wife and kids out of the country for two years without any financial support and after 2 years suddenly come back, what will they do with him? Should they join again or stay far away from him? The wife is seriously fed up with her husband because he had done this 5 times before and bothered his family by not financially supporting themafter leaving. His family faced very very difficult situations.
Q: I have seen many women complain on social platforms that their husbands watch porn and I've seen people comment that they should divorce or try and help them with it. What exactly would be the Islamic way of dealing with it? Should she advise him against it, then if he carries on, leave him to go to her parents house for a while and inform him that she would be willing to fulfill his rights at any part of the day in any way permissible in Islam as long as it does not break the rules of Islam and then if he agrees and asks her to come back home should she go back and only divorce if he repeatedly does it again?
Q: If my husband and sister in law had a najaiz relationship when we were downstairs and he was sleeping. (Maybe) She came in the room and stayed for fifteen minutes when we were in England. What can I do so that she stays away from him and he doesn't look at her because she is making him with magic. What can I read that no one can came between us?
Q: I would like your advice, other than interpretation of dreams, regarding my first wife. It is understandable the shock she had about hearing about my second marriage, but at that point I did not deny it and I accepted it and told her the circumstances and reasons for taking this step. Now she is in constant denial and acceptance. For a while she relaxes and then starts again, suffering herself and making me suffer too. I would like to say that my second wife is in Indonesia. And I have told my first wife many times, that look at the big picture, I am here, with you alive and well, but she sometimes gets relieved, but after a short while, she starts again. It is affecting me very hugely, because I am in a high pressure job. First wife also had gynecological problems. I am taking her for medical help, but that will only work if she believes in herself . I need your advice.