Q: Evil thoughts starts coming when I watch movies, so I stopped watching it, but is it shirk if I I watch because the thoughts are still coming. Like if I watch again it will be like I am letting shaithaan make me do sin and shirk, but that's not my thought. So is it shirk if I watch a movie with this mindset?
Q: I am a single parent of two career children living in a rented house and jobless for the last 21 months. I am surrounded with problems and now dependent upon my parents and under debts. Wherever I apply for a job, they like me but then no response for months and when I follow up they either reject me or say that the position is on hold. I am worried and depressed, my son and I pray a lot and recite Quran all the time and try hard to do good deeds but no change in our circumstances and no hope of getting a job. My previous employer has deducted my held salary for one year because I am in law suit with them too. A huge amount is due upon them as they breached the contract. Please pray and let me know what to do. I pray tahajjud as well and never missed any prayer. Thinking to start fasting from tomorrow. I took your advice on my nikaah as well and you approved it to be valid because I was doubting my nikaah as the families were not involved. Just did proposal and acceptance in front of two male Muslims. Please help me and let me know how my situation can be improved. I am living with my son. My second husband visits me and my children know about him. So its not completely secret.
Q: How to deal with a dominating family? Basicaly my mother is always undermining a divorcee daughter and always ignoring what she enjoys etc. No respect for her. etc. How do we build the ties? The daughter has moved to her own place but the problems are still there and it's damaging the relationship. The daughter tried talking to her siblings and the parents but it's ignored. In Islam it's important to have family ties etc. what's the best approach?
Q: Is it right for an ex husband and his family to keep all the wifes jewelleries and refused to pay her maher? Last year his parents went for hajj but they still refused to give back what is hers. What's the Islamic understanding of this matter? She left it upto Allah but doesn't understand why they would steal her jewellery without her consent.
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1. Due to some matter, a wife's mother and father insults the husband's mother and his family. What should a husband do in such case?
2. What if the husband's mother ask him to leave his wife? Does the son have to obey his mother?
3. What should a son do if someone insults his mother?
Q: My parents have always guided me away from certain sins and I would say that they are Islamically inclined in that they read all salaahs, abundant Quran and stay away from most sins. However, the one habit I've noticed that they seem unable to give up is their addiction to watching television. They watch Indian soapies and Hollywood/Bollywood movies till late at night. Sometimes I think they fall asleep with their TV switched on. Sometimes they will be watching a funny video or an interesting movie while I am getting something from their room and they'd tell me to come and sit down and watch with them. I have just recently begun cutting tv out of my life and as much as I want to watch as well, I feel guilty while doing so. What dua can I read so that my parents will stop watching TV and will get more hidayat? And what can I read to strengthen my willpower so that I will not get tempted to watch TV or commit any other sins?
Q: I am a male 36 years old. I was first married to my cousin 9 years ago and currently having 2 kids with her, 8 and 6 years old. Few months back I got married to a girl. This girl is from my family and is an illegitimate girl. I didn't know about her past and what zina her parents did. Her parents got married afterwards giving birth to her in 5 months after wedding. I have no issues as I believe that she is innocent and all fault goes to her parents. My parents do not agree to this marriage and are forcing me to leave her and the sole reason they are giving is because she is illegitimate. They are forcing me to a level saying to either leave her (divorce her) or leave them or they will kill themselves. I am in deep issues as I don't want to leave her in the middle of nowhere. I can fulfil rights of both the ladies as well as my kids and have offered them to keep any guarantees whatsoever.
Q: We want to sell our flat and want to buy a house but it is difficult to sell and find a good price. Please guide me about this matter.
Q: I lost my mind and shaitan makes my eyes blind. I had touched my sister sexually when she was sleeping. I think that kafara is the best way to avoid shame.
Q: My maid is working since 1 year at my place. After she joined, some months later I caught her stealing. Once I caught her removing a wallet from a jeans then after 2 or 3 days she was stealing onions. When I caught her, I said to her in a nice way that you should not do this. Before this, she stole 20 rs from my sons pocket and then she apologised. The next time I will not do it and thereafter many vessels disappeared from the house. My mother in law used to tell me everyday to ask her whether she took it or not. Our neighbour used to always say that she used to steal needles. She even asked why did you keep her to work. You should remove her I told her that now she is not stealing. She apologised but i still doubted her and yesterday I was searching for my earing and I didn't find it. Today in anger I scolded her directly that you had taken that earing, bring it back. She was saying that I had not taken it. She told me to check her house and suitcase. I told her not to talk rubbish to me, I know you had taken it. Bring it back. I also called my neighbour and her maids for proof that she is stealing everyday from their house but at that time my neighbour refused and my maid was crying like mad. She was saying I had not done it and I said to her in anger, because of this habit of yours, no one is keeping you for a longer. She went crying like mad from here and then after I called my mom, my earings were at my moms place. I called her and apologised 3-4 times but she was crying and saying that I will not come. I was feeling it is like my home when I started working. I got fever now and I will not come to your place. She said that her heart is badly hurt (dil pe lagi hai mere). Now if she will curse me and my family, then I am feeling scared from inside. I was also very strict with her. Without thinking, I scolded her loudly because of her previous deeds. I felt she is steal stealing. Now I told her to come here one more time, I want to apologise before all to her, but she is refusing to come. What should I do?