Advice

Q: I have this problem for long time. It first started with a small doubt and after that it felt like if I do anything, bad or a sin, it's shirk because that means that I am giving more importance to it than Allah. I felt like talking to girls is forbidden so if I talk to girls it's shirk. So if I talk to girls then I am giving more importance to talk to girls than to Allah. So then I stopped talking. For a few days I ignore this thought and talked to girls, then I felt like I am committing shirk. One part of me was like it's not really shirk, if  I make it as shirk allah will forgive and u can do that as a normal sin. After some time its gone, then that thought comes that whatever I do when I watch a movie or whenever I talk to my friend. After a while those thoughts disappear. I ignore those thoughts and live my life as normal Muslims and now those kinds of thoughts strted coming even stronger. Whatever I do, those kind of thoughts are coming that if its shirk, I'll stop doing it. Is doing this confusion and this mindset shirk or not? Because I feel like even if it is not shirk by doing this mean I am ok with this even it's shirk but am not ok .. I now these things are sin ins Islam but these are not shirk ryt even am confused to talk to mom this is not not only for this matter even when i talk with my frndz these kind of thoughts are coming ? So I thought these friend or anyone not more important than Allah am talking to them as normAl as other muslims talks without giving more important but then my mind was like these things are not shirk ok I are not giving important to them but previous which U thought in beginning u did with doubts no so those are shirk even if I talk without giving more important and as normal I make this as shirk so now if I do that it shirk ...so now doing these things which are not actually shirk is shirk or not ?? Is there is anything I can do to make those things as normal sin or normal thing because these thoughts came from waswas problem no please give me some solutions ... nd help me to understand are these things are shirk or not ? Is theres anything I can do to be normal

Q: I have 3 kids but I am jobless since 3 years. I dont know whats happening with me, its kind of thinking again and again of the past and regretting. I am not confident enough to do anything. Can you please suggest some duas and amal to get rid of these situations. 

Q: My husband lives abroad and spends money on his parents and siblings. He says that he can't afford my visa and tickets. Is it my right to live with him? Its been two years and I have a son. My question is, who has more right on my husbands money, his parents and siblings or me?

Q: Evil thoughts starts coming when I watch movies, so I stopped watching it, but is it shirk if I I watch because the thoughts are still coming. Like if I watch again it will be like I am letting shaithaan make me do sin and shirk, but that's not my thought. So is it shirk if I watch a movie with this mindset?

Q: I am a single parent of two career children living in a rented house and jobless for the last 21 months. I am surrounded with problems and now dependent upon my parents and under debts. Wherever I apply for a job, they like me but then no response for months and when I follow up they either reject me or say that the position is on hold. I am worried and depressed, my son and I pray a lot and recite Quran all the time and try hard to do good deeds but no change in our circumstances and no hope of getting a job. My previous employer has deducted my held salary for one year because I am in law suit with them too. A huge amount is due upon them as they breached the contract. Please pray and let me know what to do. I pray tahajjud as well and never missed any prayer. Thinking to start fasting from tomorrow. I took your advice on my nikaah as well and you approved it to be valid because I was doubting my nikaah as the families were not involved. Just did proposal and acceptance in front of two male Muslims. Please help me and let me know how my situation can be improved. I am living with my son. My second husband visits me and my children know about him. So its not completely secret.

Q: How to deal with a dominating family? Basicaly my mother is always undermining a divorcee daughter and always ignoring what she enjoys etc. No respect for her. etc. How do we build the ties? The daughter has moved to her own place but the problems are still there and it's damaging the relationship. The daughter tried talking to her siblings and the parents but it's ignored. In Islam it's important to have family ties etc. what's the best approach?

Q: Is it right for an ex husband and his family to keep all the wifes jewelleries and refused to pay her maher? Last year his parents went for hajj but they still refused to give back what is hers. What's the Islamic understanding of this matter? She left it upto Allah but doesn't understand why they would steal her jewellery without her consent.

Q:

1. Due to some matter, a wife's mother and father insults the husband's mother and his family. What should a husband do in such case?

2. What if the husband's mother ask him to leave his wife? Does the son have to obey his mother?

3. What should a son do if someone insults his mother?

Q: My parents have always guided me away from certain sins and I would say that they are Islamically inclined in that they read all salaahs, abundant Quran and stay away from most sins. However, the one habit I've noticed that they seem unable to give up is their addiction to watching television. They watch Indian soapies and Hollywood/Bollywood movies till late at night. Sometimes I think they fall asleep with their TV switched on. Sometimes they will be watching a funny video or an interesting movie while I am getting something from their room and they'd tell me to come and sit down and watch with them. I have just recently begun cutting tv out of my life and as much as I want to watch as well, I feel guilty while doing so. What dua can I read so that my parents will stop watching TV and will get more hidayat? And what can I read to strengthen my willpower so that I will not get tempted to watch TV or commit any other sins?

Q: I am a male 36 years old. I was first married to my cousin 9 years ago and currently having 2 kids with her, 8 and 6 years old. Few months back I got married to a girl. This girl is from my family and is an illegitimate girl. I didn't know about her past and what zina her parents did. Her parents got married afterwards giving birth to her in 5 months after wedding. I have no issues as I believe that she is innocent and all fault goes to her parents. My parents do not agree to this marriage and are forcing me to leave her and the sole reason they are giving is because she is illegitimate. They are forcing me to a level saying to either leave her (divorce her) or leave them or they will kill themselves. I am in deep issues as I don't want to leave her in the middle of nowhere. I can fulfil rights of both the ladies as well as my kids and have offered them to keep any guarantees whatsoever.