Advice

Q: I made a request and alhamdullilah it was granted. When I performed istikhara each time I asked I got a negative answer. I asked Allah for a sign and I recieved a message on my phone from Quran Messenger that hardly sends videos and texts... "oh you who believe remain stationed" My heart sank again I asked and the same I received. I asked again and another ayat... "and your Lord is going to give you and you will be satisfied" then I would ask again and another ayat "verily with hardship..."

While walking and that moment I would meet someone who would say... "it will get better and Allah will make it easy"... I'm not sure because I'm not a pious person and I don't believe that I'm special or deserving enough to expect a sign from Allah. I think to myself it could just be a coincidence. Even before I started where I am currently and I made istikhara, a person would say "good luck and Allah make it easy" and I would wonder how he would know that I'm not happy being here.

My heart feels depressed. I'm not sure what I should do but I feel that if Allah wants this for me then I should stay. How do I ease my heart and not be ungrateful or unthankful.

Q: I have recently come from hajj with my wife. I am still in Madinah. On my way to Makkah, on the same flight was a girl I wanted to marry previously. There was an attachment previously but her mother said no. It was such a test to see her and I constantly questioned myself why Allah wanted me to see her just before hajj. Through the days of hajj Alhamdulillah I managed to suppress the feelings. Last few days all the feelings I had previously for her are resurfacing, and I have a loving wife who seems to notice that I have been a bit sad lately. I don't know what to do in this situation. My desires are to be able to see her face one last time. But I know it is wrong. How do I approach this. How do I get over this? 

Q: My wife cheated on me twice. The first time I caught her was when my son was 1 year old and second time I caught her my son was 4 years old. She likes my sisters husband. What should I do?

Q: Both of my children; daughter and my son have stopped reciting prayers and paying zakaat? This could mean death without imaan. Is there a special prayer I can recite for them in english?

Q: I found explicit chats on my husband's phone, him having an affair with a woman, the chats consisted of 'are we meeting tonight" "thanks for last night" she would say things like "please pay my accounts for me" he would say "send me the details" etc, she sent him pictures of her private parts there was no shame in that, I found out and I exposed him, however I want a talaaq and now the community moulana is saying that I need three witnesses in order to say he was cheating. I have all the chats. They were not discreet in any way, how do I go about this?

Q: I was a male about 5 years ago and now I have lost my youth. I don't feel erection when I want to do sex. People say that I have become a gay and I am excluded from the Ummah Muhammadiya? Is it right? I am very depressed when I hear such sentences from the community.

Q: Seeking knowledge vs time with family.

I have two semesters left of a 4 year Arabic and Islamic studies program and I am also a 4th year student of the alim course program. I am in my early 30’s married and kids and also full time job. I have been a seeker of knowledge for a few years now and have completed certain ijazas in the past and now attempting to complete the Alim course InshaAllah.

My wife has always supported me, but sometimes I see (feel) that she might be somewhat fed up with me also being busy. I spend a significant amount of time in books research and still with a full time job, also assist a local masjid that is without an imam at times.

I do believe spending valuable time with my family, but I also am fully aware that between continuous studies and full time work (which is needed to support my family) my available time is always at minimal.

Lately a thought has creeped into my head that I should stop my studies and focus on family. Im not unsure if these are whispers of the shaytan or just me being over whelmed. I am thankful for the achievements Allâh swt has allowed for me but on the other hand I feel guilty because the majority of my time is being filtered elsewhere. This is just me venting and asking for advice.

How do I balance? Am I doing too much ?

Q: Are there any particular azkaar that have been mentioned in the hadith to attain maximum number of Hoor al Ain in Jannah?

Q: Is there any particular dua or zikr that allows us to go to Jannah without any reckoning?