Advice

Q: I would like to know the ruling on my husband sitting and talking, discussing random topics with non-mahram women. According to him, he has no bad intentions. We married for 30 years.

Q: There is a girl whom I like very much and when my family met her family, my parents didn't like her family much because they don't follow parda. My parents said they don't like the girl but if I am persistent with the girl they don't have any problem. The girl is pious and committed to deen except that she doesn't wear burqa and wears all modern dresses like t-shirts and jeans. I tried explaining to her about the importance of hijab but she used to get irritated listening to it. I feel I will be able to convince her for hijab and parda in a long-term i.e. if we get married. So my questions are first, should I marry her or not? Second, if I marry her am I disobeying my parents?

Q: Can I meet my fiancé in a restaurant three days before our marriage, with our parents' permission?

Q: I am married. I am not in love with my husband. I dont wish to be with him anymore. I dont want to hurt him but I want to leave him. He has noticed changes in my behaviour and I did mention that I dont want to be with him. He threatens me and I feel forced to be with him. What is the easiest way forward for me?

Q: My husband is falsely accusing me of being faithful. I am heart broken and dont know how to deal with the situation.

Q: My friend had affair with a married girl for 5 to 6 years. Now he wants to leave that bad affair and wants to come on Allah's path and leave all bad habits, but the girl wants him to continue that affair otherwise she will go for suicide. What should he do? Will this be counted as a sin because he is hurting her by breaking their bad affair? What should he do?

Q: Me and my, don’t no what to call him, but we did zina and I got pregnant. We didn’t end up having nikaah. He didn’t want to have it with me still after I had the baby. I’m giving him hints that I want it pure and clean and he does not want to. We are both Muslims, grew up both in Muslim households and I’m just lost. I don’t know what to do.

Q: Please advise if what I did was wrong.

My family had a quarell so I was asked to explain what happened? I spoke the truth. Now, my granny says I'm wrong for speaking the truth. It hurts because I thought speaking the truth is the right thing to do.

Q: We, a childless couple have been married for 18 years and got several times abortions during the first trimester. Following all possible modern treatment, due to this bad obstetric history and unknown cause medically in either spouse, doctors advised for adoption. But my husband repeatedly used to tell me for a couple of years: I wish you to live an independent life, go to another city and search for a new job.

In this tough circumstance, how should I manage? Can I leave my husband's home under which Sharia law? Can I take a decision to separate from him, if yes, tell me the procedure because he is much reluctant from my side and wants second marriage. 

Q: I am trying to feel close to Allah by not committing sins like avoiding porn and not mastrubating and not listening to music but the thing which is disturbing me is Shaytan. Shaytan is putting anxiety in me by making me think that I became pious. I will die soon. My health anxiety is disturbing me and I keepthinking that I may suffer from a heart attack, cancer, etc.

I am trying and I know it's Shaytan but over time it becomes miserable for me to bear that negative thoughts are circulating in my whole body. Please make dua for me and suggest a short wazifa to get rid of the waswasas and other thoughts from Shaytan that are overpowering me.