Advice

Q: After every ghusal of janaabat, I have this doubt that a portion of my body remained dry,  then I go to the bathroom to wash my body again. It's waswasas. What can I do?

Q: Me and my husband are suffering from black magic for separation. Can I ask him to treat himself by reading Surah baqarah, ruqya, bathing etc otherwise I have no option but to separate from him until he recovers as we are going through major misunderstandings which could eventually lead to divorce.

Q: For a while now I have been intending to attend a darul-Uloom to study Hifdhz and Alim Studies but people have been feeding me with negative thoughts. I will be turning twenty soon and people discourage me by saying that if I become an Alim then how will I get married while I am studying and how am I going to earn a living when I will only finish my studies when I am 30 and they say that I wont get a job because there are no jobs for Aalims available here is South Africa. Even my own family are against my opinion but I would love to take on Islamic studies and become an Aalim Insha Allah. Is there any advice one could give me?

Q: There is this particular place where there are meat shops and vegetable/fruit areas. This place is also flocked with men and I can't keep my eyes averted from them on the floor for long. I usually ask my parents not to go there, or at least leave me home, but we usually always go there since that is about the only place we know to buy meat from. What should I do in this situation? I do cover my face and body before stepping out, but my eyes are exposed.

Q: There is girl and she lives in Pakistan. She was married in 2006 wiht out her permission because she was poor and had no option. She didn't
like her husband but she could not do anything. She never loved him and her husband knows that from the very first night. He just living with her because she is beautiful and he told her that if she was not pretty then he would have married with another girl in another city secretly. They have kids now (daughters).

I met her 3 years ago because someone ask me to marry her sister and I talked to her family but in few days I found that I like her instead of her sister so I said no and I stopped talking to her.

After 2 years (last year) met again on chat and started talking and she asked me the reason but I didn't tell her but we kept talking and talking and after few weeks she got feelings for me because she never loved her husband and we got involved in each other but we never met and never cross limits Alhamdulillah. It was getting tuff for us and we tried to search if Islam allow us to marry after getting divorce from her husband but we found answer ”NO” on your website and we didn't want to risk our next life and make Allah angry. I lied to her that I am getting married and we stopped talking but in 6 months we never stopped loving each other and we pray 5 times and recite Qur'an and make dua but feeling never ended. We now talked again after 6 months and it's same. It's tough for her to live with him any more.

I know its all devilish things we did but we never cross limits and we tried to disconnect from each other. But I think now that we are making sin with this so we get married and she tells everything to her husband and get divorce. I could think different if she was in love with her husband and then changed her feelings. But she never.

We are very much religious Alhamdulillah and pray and can never think of making unlawful things but its tough now.

I want to ask if we marry then will we have any chance to get forgiveness of Allah and make Him happy. I know you must be getting angry with me but I think it's better to marry with each other than making sins.

Please help us in the light of Quran and Sunnah.

Q: I have a question and I am so confused. I want to marry a guy but the problem is I don't want to tell my family about this nikaah because my father is not a Muslim. So should I marry him with telling my parents? This nikaah will be valid or not?

Q: What should I do if I am unable to stop myself from committing fornication? Even in the month of Ramadhaan I committed adultery of the eyes and organs although I was observing fast? Whenever sexual desire increases, I could not stop committing zina. I m working 6 and half hours to earn money. Only way to stop myself from this sin is to stay in mosque. But it is almost impossible to remain inside mosque all the time. What should I do? Leave the job and join madarsah so that I get engaged in a good environment? Please advise me.

Q: I am a 22 years old married girl. It's been 2 years that I am married and have no children yet because my husband wanted me to study further. I live with my in-laws and I am having problems with the way I feel ignored time to time. I sometimes am the centre of attention and other times they're all in a gloomy mood and I feel uncomfortable sitting between them. I want to be heard and I am having anxiety issues and other problems because of the stress I am taking. Kindly tell me an effective dua for value, importance and love between me and my family and a happy life, I would be grateful.

Q:

Salaah: During prayer, I have a problem to recite properly and I focus on correct pronunciations. So I have to repeat again and again. Due to this my prayer goes too long. Even my four rakaats complete in 20 to 25 mins (one rakat takes 5 to 7 mins ). Zuhr takes one hour 10 mins. Please help me.

Wudu: If a person pours and splashes water on face three times and later on during salaah some doubts comes to mind weather his face was fully wet or not so what should he do? Continue to perform salaah or break the salaah and do wudhu again?

Q: I am married for 16 years. I am 43 years old and my wife is 38 Years old. We have a son of 13 Years Old. My wife does not want more children. However our relation is otherwise normal. Should I force her for more kids? If I would not force her, will I be sinner? Please suggest.