Remaining firm on the Sunnah
Q:
1. There is a person who strictly adheres to the Shariat as much as he can. He is very punctual with salaah, quran recitation, zikr and azkaar and wazifas. This person is the only deobandi in his entire family because of which he is facing a lot of hardships and problems from his parents itself. That person doesn't engages or participates in biddat and unislamic shameless customs of his family because of which he is being scorned and rebuked to the limit. That person is still steadfast and doesn't wants to compromise in any of the sunnah he does but few days ago an Imam of a certain masjid who is an alim of Darul Uloom Deoband (as he claims to be) says that as that person's parents are being offended because of him wearing the sunnat libaas (attire), kurta pyajama, imamah; he should cease adorning it. And he also claims that this sunnat libaas isn't a necessary deal to be steadfast on. The person who is facing hardships from his family is Alhumdulilah has sukoon e qalb inspite of all this but the recent incident of the alim who is separating the identity of a muslim (his attire) from the core of deen has confused him. As this claim of the alim has reached that person's parents they have now become more adamant of their notion that their son is an EXTREMIST. Please enlighten that certain individual with some soothing advises.
2. As that person has been brought up in a very vile environment and also has had corrupted aqedaahs and practices instilled in his life and now
alhumdulilah he is a Hanafi-Deobandi by the virtue of Maulana Ilyas Ghuman damat barkatahum's lectures, he now wants to become an alim in order to study deen and practice upon it wholly as he still fears about having deviant aqeedahs and practices in him. He wants to enroll in Darul Uloom Dewsbury from next year and he will be leaving behind parents who are financially very stable, servants can fetch them groceries and other goods, members of the joint-family can look after them khuda na khasta if they fall ill, will it be permissible for this person to leave behind parents and travel abroad? Will it be permissible for that person who very calmly and respectfully opposes his parents, who doesn't want him to even sport a beard, and the join the madarsa? The person mentioned over here really really craves for gaining ilm and studying the deen just as a traveler craves for his wife he left behind. But the alim says that as your parents detests all of this you should clear all of this from your mind.
3. That person has protected his gaze throughout his youth and has been away from immodest acts by the Grace of Allah SWT. As he is 20 years old and is being bullied by stray vile thoughts he is finding it difficult to control his gaze and fears he may venture into the pit of activities or acts which incurs Allah's anger and wrath. To remedy this, he is planning to get married by next year and this act of marriage will shatter his family's custom of getting married only by the age of 27-30 years. That person has planned to find a spouse who is an Alimah and introduce her parents and her to his family and proceed with nikah even if they oppose him. That person doesn't want to engage in a secret nikah and he will be announcing and making it known to all of his family members and proceed with the marriage in spite of their opposition. Will it permissible for that youth who wishes to get married solely to protect himself from zina as he is having a very hard time keeping his nafs at bay. Will it be permissible to get married in this way?