Advice

Husband flirting with women

Q: I have been married for eight years with no children. My husband is flirting with women on the phone. He promises them marriage, he gives them money, he takes them out he even booked a hotel room for one of them. I tried talking to him about it but it's like he doesn't hear me. I asked for divorce in January. He refused to give it to me and he apologised and said he will stop but I should give him some time. It's been 9 months now, when I ask him about the progress of the matter he is not answering me. Now I'm thinking of moving out of our home but I don't know if it's a right thing to do. Please I need your help.

Husband watching TV

Q: My husband watches TV a lot. I don't like the TV at all. I have some questions, is it fine if I tell him while he is watching TV or Youtube videos about something Islamic? Like for example I said today while he was watching a Youtube video, "today is the 10th of Muharaam we can buy food", or is it wrong and should I wait for when he is not in front of the TV or watching  Youtube videos? I thought that talking about Islamic things like that is wrong while he is watching haraam but I still did it. Also if I am in the kitchen and I can hear the music from the TV, and some sauces and spice bottles that stay in the kitchen have eyes on it and I am talkikng on the phone to a friend and I use words as "Insha Allah" and "make Dua" "Allah knows best" etc is that also wrong? I am doing that at the moment and I am feeling guilty please advise?

Asking the husband for divorce if he takes a second wife

Q: My question is about second marriage. I have very good relation with my husband and his family. My husband loves me and our two daughters. My in-laws think that I am an ideal wife and ideal daughter in-law , however, my husband says that some men need more than one wife and recently he was seriously thinking about second marriage. I told him that if he wants a second wife, then he has to divorce me first. I have no problem with his getting married for two or three times but I do not want to be his wife in that case. He said he cannot leave me. As I know him, he loves me but he needs more wives as well. What would be my situation in Shariah if I refuse to keep marital relations with him?

Daughter in-law problems

Q: My son got married two years back,which I was against but however he did not listen and proceded with the nikah. She is a girl that does not want to mix with the family, preventing my son from mixing with family and breaking family ties. She is troublesome and brings on petty issues that has no concrete reasoning just to bring on a fight. Her parents are very controlling in my son's marriage. Please can you give me a dua that she leaves our family to prevent further future problems and they separate.

Evil deeds - The cause for difficulties and hardships

Q: I need some advice targheeb so I can post on one of our community groups regarding the crime. The community are suggesting so many methods to prevent crime but fail to understand our issues because of us not having deen in our lives and we not regular with our salaah etc. Also now they suggesting and allowing women in our areas to begin patrolling. Please send me details advice from Quran and Hadith and also the harms of women been involved and exposing themselves to strange men. Please it's urgent.

Wife not ready for more children

Q: I am married age 43 wife age 36 and son age 13 . I was suffering from Leucoderma, also known as vitiligo, is a rare skin disease characterized by white spots and patches. Alhamdulillah , it is cured and no one was aware about this. After marriage I had told her that once I was suffering this disease . When my son was 2 years old he also suffered from this desease. Alhamdulillah, my son is also cured. But my wife is not ready for more kids. She is fearing that our next child may also suffer from this disease. I told her several times that all disease/situations are from Allah Ta'ala and he is only who give us cure. But she is still not ready. In this situation , should I force her for more children? We are having normal relation of husband and wife or I can do second marriage for more kids or I should make sabr?