Advice

Q: I am in class 11. Now from last few days I am not feeling good due to the studies being tough. Please give me a solution.

Q: Please help me. My family is suffering for the past one year. In Jan we suddenly saw a taweez at home which was certainly black magic. We are not the ones to go to some one for solution but just rely on Allah and Quran. The year has been a real tough one including my father diagnosed with cancer and two major surgeries plus lots and lots of complications plus ill health of almost all family members. But all this time we stayed patient relying on Allah and Qur'an. Now again my mother found out one more taweez in my room as I stay overseas with my husband and the room is always locked. Please help me find out the meaning of it. Please I beg of you.

Q: My father is a banker. From my childhood onwards he doesn't treat me in a proper way. He talks evil to me and even send dirty videos. Try to touch my private parts. I never told anyone about it.I was afraid my family will be separated and my mother will have to suffer for this and I don't want people to thing bad about my father. Now I am 25 years old and completed my graduation. Allhamdullila Allah introduced me to Islam and I reverted to Islam in 2014. Now I read salaah keep roza and try to be in hijab which brings doubt in my parents' mind and they try to oppose. I don't understand what should I do next. please suggest.

Q: There are many madarasahs running in my locality. Specially those teaching kids. The ladies running the madarasa are too violent on kids. 3 year old kids, not even able to speak properly are asked to keep records of their prayers, and when these kids skip a prayer, mostly fajar, complaining that our mother didn't wake up us, the lady says that it's your responsibility to wake up not your mothers, and slap the kids so badly that their cheeks turn red and they begin crying. These ladies use dusting stick to hit on the kids palm so violently that the kids burst in tears. In case, when the kids could not memorise the lesson allocated to them yesterday, the ladies turn their ears in such a way that it's tongue comes out and the ear goes red and the kid cry aloud. Because of the crowd of kids, the lady running the madarasa has appointed other young girls to teach the very young and these girls are even more violent. In one of the madarasa the girl complaining that I couldn't wake up because my mother didn't wake me up was asked to pray 10 nafil to compensate the loss. They behave very badly with kids. Is it permissible to do this kind of violence in teaching Quran? Please support your views with AHaadith. What should I do being in the locality?

Q: Does a wife have to obey her husband if he tells her she can't read istikhara? My husband insists that we live with his parents and unmarried brothers. I have told him that I cannot live there anymore as it is too stressful and besides my room and bathroom I have no privacy. Even when my room door is closed one can still hear us talking etc. From outside the room and even downstairs. We have 2 children and they both sleep in the room with us. My husband and I have been have many marital issues and I eventually left and went back to my parents home because I could not manage living there and I could not take his behavior towards me anymore. He told me that it is haram that I left. I wanted to read istikhara about whether I should go back but he has forbidden me to. Is this correct?

Q: Is there any basis for these advices and will it be preferable to follow it:

Deeds or foods that weaken the memory

1. Sins.

2. Sour Apples.

3. Vinegar.

4. All those things that cause phlegm.

5. Moist Coriander.

6. Salted meat.

7. Hot bread.

8. Eating from a pot.

9. The leftover drink of a rat.

10. Reading tombstones.

11. Witnessing a crucifixion.

12. Looking at stagnant water.

13. Looking at one’s own private parts.

14. Looking at the private parts of a woman.

15. Masturbation.

16. For a person in need of a fard bath to look at the sky.

17. Looking into the mirror of a cupper (one who does cupping).

18. Using a broken comb.

19. Urinating in stagnant water.

20. Urinating on the side of the road.

21. Urinating under a fruit tree.

22. Urinating into ash.

23. Making wudhu in an impure place.

24. Wiping the hands or face with the tail of the clothing/kurta/qamis etc.

25. Entering the Masjid with the left foot or leaving with the right.

26. Dusting clothes in the Masjid.

27. Sweeping with a cloth.

28. Using a pants or turban as a pillow.

29. Excessive joking.

30. Laughing in the graveyard.

31. Excessive worries of the world.

32. Cupping on the nape.

33. Throwing of live lice.

References for the above Al-Mu’jamul Kabir of Tabarani, Kitabul ‘ilm of Ibn Abi Khaithamah, pg.31, Al-Jami’u li akhlaqir rawi, pgs.400 & 404, Ta’limul Muta’allim pg. 43, Al-Maqasidul Hasanah pg. 519, Tazhkiratu Sami’ Wal Mutakallim pg. 77, At-tibb of Imam Dhahabi, pgs.174-175 & Raddul Muhtar.

Q: My wife and I are only for the children together. Unfortunately the coexistence does not work. We no longer understand and she would simply not divorce so I have no other choice than to let her continue to live with the children in my house. My question is here if I would commit a sin if we will stay with this way of living together? I let her live in her apartment with the children and provide them, but otherwise no intimate contact takes place. I have remarried and want to go with my new wife in the house, but she can remain in the apartment and I finance everything. Would that be a sin if she would also agree with this way of living?

Q: Is it ok for a husband to go on numerous holidays with his friends leaving his family behind? His argument is he provides and takes family too.

Q: My daughter who was 16 years was married to a relative. A few months into the marriage the husband seemed to have lost interest in the marriage and stopped talking to her and stopped spending time with her my wife and daughter made numerous attempts to reconcile the marriage but to no avail as the parents of the boy seemed to manage the situation from a distance and left all decisions to their son with very little input we even attempted the intervention of the jamiaat but they also failed to get any response from the boy who seemed completely disinterested in the marriage in conversations with the boys parents we were always asked for more time which we agreed to on numerous occasions however the boy than started flirting with other family females and many of the youngsters from the in-laws side started a social media campaign belittling and mocking my daughter this prompted us to ask the parents of the the boy to give her a divorce as all attempts to reconcile was fruitless as their son was not making any attempts to reconcile and encouraging family members to denigrate his wife that is my daughter his response was that he wanted to punish her after deliberations with the jamiaat and our family elders we asked for the divorce a few days later the parents of the boy dropped of a letter of divorce so my question to you is that the marriage which lasted for only +- three months before which and also during that many promises were made to her like giving her a monthly allowance,paying her medical bills,etc she even used her own money to go for mini breaks and paying for a holiday in advance which they they planned to go can she claim all the money spent on all the above and also the money spent on the wedding which in any case was a small affair. Please give advice and opinion.