Rights of parents

Q: Will I be cursed or saved from some difficulties in life if I can't forgive my mother? She already passed away several years ago but still I can't forget those times when she was alive that she never made me feel that she loved me, what I felt and feel right now is still HATRED from her, I'm even kind of happy when she passed away because she never made me happy, she always scolded me and more, I have 5 siblings and what she treat others is not the same on how she treated me. It's unfair for me and that's one of the reasons why I felt hatred for her. What I always heard about Islamic lectures is forgive your parents, love your parents especially your mother.

Q: If a woman brings her ill mother to her home as there is no one to look after her, but her husband is not pleased with that and mentally tortures her and gives her a very tough time. That woman gets angry on her mother and beats her. But later she realised and said sorry and felt very guilty. Is there any kuffara for that and if she really is guilty will Allah Ta'ala forgive her as she always asks forgiveness for her act and she is guilty by heart.

Q: I made plans a few months ago and told my parents that I would like to spend the last 10 days of Ramadan in South Africa with my teacher because he goes every Ramadan. They did not say much at the time. My mother is not allowing me to go. What should I do?

Q: A mother has two daughters who are working and her husband passed away. She got 3 brothers and 2 sisters. Who is responsible to take care of her financial and medical needs?

Q: I have not seen my mother for 15 years. Now I am 20 years old. There was a problem between my dad and mom as my mother a had a habit of robbing and it was very embarrassing. There was huge fight between dad and mom and So she left the house and went away. All these years I was living without her. But I recently got to know that she is Saudi Arabia. What should I do? Should I tell my dad or not because he hates her and the second thing is should I contact her? I am confused my heart says I should but I don't know what to say.

Q: I need guidance that how I should react when my father hurts me and my mother with his rude words. No doubt he has brought me up, gave me education but nver showed affection to me. I am the only child of my parents but he has never pampered me. I only got love from my mother. Now I am 29 years old women unmarried but engaged. My father has a greed for money. My mother is a patient of multiple problems but he never cares for her, rather makes her feel like she is not so good. My mother is a very kind person but my father never appreciates her nor me. Neither he offers prayers. Now my question is when my father crosses limits fights with me, I control my anger but sometimes I say back to him but logically how should I react with him? When he don't talk to me how I should greet him when he don't see towards me because I fear Allah. Please guide me and ease my pain.

Q: In the case where one’s parents have reached old age and are terminally ill, and the children do not wish to look after their aged parents, what should be done? Can the children leave their aged, sickly parents in an old age home?

Q: If a father is sick and incurs medical expenses, who is responsible to bear these expenses?

Q: What should a person do in the situation where he needs to bring his ailing mother into his home so that he can look after her, but his wife is unhappy with this? He has explained to his wife that he will look after his mother and tend to her, yet she is still upset and refuses to speak to him. What does Shari’ah instruct in this situation?

Q: If one’s parents are not bed-ridden, but due to old age or sickness, they are unable to take care of themselves, whose responsibility will it be to look after them and assist them?