Pregnancy and Parenting

Q: The children of someone brought up with the teachings of religious duties upto reading the Holy Qur'an texts in Arabic and reading salaah only. Then they proceeded towards worldly education wholeheartedly. Now they are mature but don't perform ritual services punctually though parent advise them frequently.

Is it the false of parent ? What would be the condition of parent in the eye of Allah hereafter? Would the parent sanction punishment as if they didn't taught the children completely. What should they do now?

Q: Please advise on the following:

A father has three children. A daughter and two sons. One son is married.

The father owns a business and both the sons work for the father, while the daughter helps out occasionally.

For the son that is married, the father gave them a house, pays for their water, lights, car payments, fuel, phone payments, etc. The father also pays for numerous holidays and gives them spending money for the holidays. The son is then given a large salary at the end of every month. The father in law is also required to pay for all the daughter in laws wants.

The other son and daughter both live with the parents still and thus the basic food and housing needs are taken care of. The unmarried children are given an allowance which they use for any extras such as clothing, car payments, holidays, hobby's, etc. This often leads to a lot of conflict in the family.

My question are as follows:

1. In a case like this, is the father being fair and just to his children?

2. Is there any difference in providing gifts, or support to the married son and unmarried son/daughter?

3. Is it compulsory for the daughter to work in the business to be given the same as the son while the parents are alive?

4. If the father spends on his wife (mother), is it compulsory for the daughter in law to receive the same?

5. Is it compulsory for the husband to provide the wife with an allowance? (not to be used for any households expenses or personal needs)

6. What obligations do the parents have towards the daughter in law with regards to financial support for needs and luxuries?

7. Is it the parents responsibility to buy and pay for the married son's house, car for the daughter in law, supporting the children on the grounds that he is working in the business and is entitled to it? (this excluding a monthly salary)

Q: Is water-birth permissible if a woman has covered the necessary areas?

Q: Can a women travel by air after delivering the baby before 40 days?

Q: Is it safe to use any type of fragrance such as ittar, talcum powders, deodorants and perfumes during pregnancy?

Q: After deliverying a baby, females usually get a daily massage for a few weeks. This includes rubbing the stomach, thighs, back, calfskin etc., how can I get this done without exposing my satr?

Q: Which parent has Islaam given the right of making the final decision in regards to the tarbiyat of the child? Which parent has the right to decide as to what the child may eat or not?

NB: Everything is within the sharia. There is no divorce.

Q: Is it permissible to let a baby sleep in his own room? The baby is 3 months. 

Q:

1. Is it permissible for a woman to request surgery (caesarian section) instead of natural birth so as to avoid the pain of labour?

2. Is there any nifas in the case of caesarian section birth?

Q: A father said that he will admit their child in a madrasah, but the mother said that she will not admit their child in a madrasah. The mother respects Allah and Islam, she also wants the child to know about Islam and she wants to teach the child about Islam by an Islamic teacher. The father and mother then admitted their child in a school (not an Islamic school and not a madrasah) and appointed an Islamic teacher to teach their child how to pray salaah, read Quran, duas, Islamic characters, lifestyle, etc. so that child learns about islam. Is there any sin?