Self-esteem and self-confidence in Islam
Q:
1. In Islam, what is the perspective on self-esteem and how can it be increased?
2. What is the Islamic perspective on self-confidence and how can it be increased?
Good Character
Having husn-uz-zann (good thoughts) for practicing Muslims
Q: According to the Hanafi madhhab I would like to know how this principle of Husn Al-Zann is implied and what is the term for having a bad opinion or giving a bad opinion on unproven elements or on a simple imagination do these detractors have the right to doubt the intention of a person who clearly expresses the motivation for their action?
Cure for jealousy
Q: What are some reasons behind someone feeling jealous so easily? And how can one change their mind to gratitude and self-satisfaction?
If someone continously feels jealousy unintentionally when they are trying to remove it repeatedly, and they still feel heart hardening, is this still jealousy? I feel it severely maybe because of arrogance or wanting praise and recognition.
Is there any difference between envy and jealousy in Islam?
Wishing for one's oppressor or abuser to be dead
Q: Is it a sin to wish that your oppressor or abuser was dead?
Leaving a gathering where gheebah is taking place
Q: If a youngster is sitting in a gathering of adults wherein gheebah is taking place and he cannot leave, what should he do?
Feelings of hatred for one's brother
Q: My father ordered me to respect my older brother but if my older brother insults me or yells at me, can I insult him with the same insult and use the same tone of voice. I don't respond to his abuse due to my dad's order which may make my older brother think I fear him furthering the abuse and my hatred toward him.
I feel like if I don't respond to him and the steam keeps building up in my heart and we fight one day (may Allah protect us both), one of us may end up in jail. If I could just throw some of his abuse back in his face maybe all of this corrosive hatred that I have toward him may go away. But right now I can't sit next to him due to all the hatred I have for him.
As weird as it sounds, me being able to respond to him may actually help ties of kinship because with my sister with which I fight verbally when there's a heated disagreement I feel like I couldn't feel this hatred for her in a sustained manner but with my brother I feel hate toward him just by thinking about him.
Respecting a person to save oneself from his harm
Q: If someone wants us to respect him and it is for his ego, is it shirk if we still respect him? As we fear that if we don’t then he may beat us a bit and we’ll be humiliated.
Taubah from making gheebat (backbiting)
Q: Sometime ago I backbit and engaged in alot of idle talk about alot of people as I was not much of a practicing Muslim. Those people are not aware of my backbiting. Now I have turned back to Allah; I have repented alot and repented sincerely and realized my mistake.
It turns out that the people I used to backbite are alot since I dont remember them all can I make dua generally for all people that I backbit without taking their names or mentioning them? like "Ya Allah, forgive all the people that I backbit and raise them in ranks".
Also, will Allah Ta'ala forgive me? I am afraid if I tell those people that I backbit them it will cause some hatred in their hearts for me. So i decided not to approach them and repented sincerely.
Hospitality in Islam
Q: What is hospitality according to Islam?
Jealousy
Q: What is jealousy according to Islam? When does a person become sinful?