Good Character

Q: If someone wants us to respect him and it is for his ego, is it shirk if we still respect him? As we fear that if we don’t then he may beat us a bit and we’ll be humiliated.

Q: Sometime ago I backbit and engaged in alot of idle talk about alot of people as I was not much of a practicing Muslim. Those people are not aware of my backbiting. Now I have turned back to Allah; I have repented alot and repented sincerely and realized my mistake.

It turns out that the people I used to backbite are alot since I dont remember them all can I make dua generally for all people that I backbit without taking their names or mentioning them? like "Ya Allah, forgive all the people that I backbit and raise them in ranks".

Also, will Allah Ta'ala forgive me? I am afraid if I tell those people that I backbit them it will cause some hatred in their hearts for me. So i decided not to approach them and repented sincerely. 

Q: What is hospitality according to Islam?

Q: What is jealousy according to Islam? When does a person become sinful? 

Q:

1. How can one be humble? How does humility feel like in the heart? Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (Rahimahullah) said that true humility is not felt by a person just like a sleeping person doesn't know he is sleeping. What are the steps one can take to ensure they have no pride in their heart?

2. If someone makes tawbah sincerely, their sins are forgiven. How can one balance this with humility? Humility means seeing ourselves sinful and useless. If one does their best to make tawbah, how can they still feel sinful?

3. Is it against humility to like good traits one has as part of gratefulness to Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta'aalaa)? How can one differentiate between 'ujb and happiness?

Q: What is the shariah perspective about: hating the sin, not the sinner. Is it applicable in all contexts?

Example: When the sinner promotes his sins and believes it to be honourable and that he is entitled to advertise and perpetrate it, is it obligatory to hate such an illegitimate deviant?

Q: When we help others or show kindness towards others, what intention should we have? Shall we help others out of the goodness of our heart or help others because this is what God wants us to do? Do we get rewarded by God if we help others because its good thing to do?

Q: Is it permissible for a husband to ask his wife about her past. He even has her facebook account and contacts. He demands answers and becomes very angry. He sais he has to know and there should not be any secrets between a married couple. Is this right?

Q: Is there a difference between venting to someone and making gheebah?

Q: How can a person achieve radha bil qadha (being pleased with the decree of Allah Ta'ala) for situations which he dislikes?