Leaving a gathering where gheebah is taking place
Q: If a youngster is sitting in a gathering of adults wherein gheebah is taking place and he cannot leave, what should he do?
Good Character
Feelings of hatred for one's brother
Q: My father ordered me to respect my older brother but if my older brother insults me or yells at me, can I insult him with the same insult and use the same tone of voice. I don't respond to his abuse due to my dad's order which may make my older brother think I fear him furthering the abuse and my hatred toward him.
I feel like if I don't respond to him and the steam keeps building up in my heart and we fight one day (may Allah protect us both), one of us may end up in jail. If I could just throw some of his abuse back in his face maybe all of this corrosive hatred that I have toward him may go away. But right now I can't sit next to him due to all the hatred I have for him.
As weird as it sounds, me being able to respond to him may actually help ties of kinship because with my sister with which I fight verbally when there's a heated disagreement I feel like I couldn't feel this hatred for her in a sustained manner but with my brother I feel hate toward him just by thinking about him.
Respecting a person to save oneself from his harm
Q: If someone wants us to respect him and it is for his ego, is it shirk if we still respect him? As we fear that if we don’t then he may beat us a bit and we’ll be humiliated.
Taubah from making gheebat (backbiting)
Q: Sometime ago I backbit and engaged in alot of idle talk about alot of people as I was not much of a practicing Muslim. Those people are not aware of my backbiting. Now I have turned back to Allah; I have repented alot and repented sincerely and realized my mistake.
It turns out that the people I used to backbite are alot since I dont remember them all can I make dua generally for all people that I backbit without taking their names or mentioning them? like "Ya Allah, forgive all the people that I backbit and raise them in ranks".
Also, will Allah Ta'ala forgive me? I am afraid if I tell those people that I backbit them it will cause some hatred in their hearts for me. So i decided not to approach them and repented sincerely.
Hospitality in Islam
Q: What is hospitality according to Islam?
Jealousy
Q: What is jealousy according to Islam? When does a person become sinful?
Adopting humility
Q:
1. How can one be humble? How does humility feel like in the heart? Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (Rahimahullah) said that true humility is not felt by a person just like a sleeping person doesn't know he is sleeping. What are the steps one can take to ensure they have no pride in their heart?
2. If someone makes tawbah sincerely, their sins are forgiven. How can one balance this with humility? Humility means seeing ourselves sinful and useless. If one does their best to make tawbah, how can they still feel sinful?
3. Is it against humility to like good traits one has as part of gratefulness to Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta'aalaa)? How can one differentiate between 'ujb and happiness?
Hating the sin and not the sinner
Q: What is the shariah perspective about: hating the sin, not the sinner. Is it applicable in all contexts?
Example: When the sinner promotes his sins and believes it to be honourable and that he is entitled to advertise and perpetrate it, is it obligatory to hate such an illegitimate deviant?
Intention to make when helping others
Q: When we help others or show kindness towards others, what intention should we have? Shall we help others out of the goodness of our heart or help others because this is what God wants us to do? Do we get rewarded by God if we help others because its good thing to do?
Husband asking his wife to reveal her past
Q: Is it permissible for a husband to ask his wife about her past. He even has her facebook account and contacts. He demands answers and becomes very angry. He sais he has to know and there should not be any secrets between a married couple. Is this right?