Good Character

Q:

1. How can one be humble? How does humility feel like in the heart? Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (Rahimahullah) said that true humility is not felt by a person just like a sleeping person doesn't know he is sleeping. What are the steps one can take to ensure they have no pride in their heart?

2. If someone makes tawbah sincerely, their sins are forgiven. How can one balance this with humility? Humility means seeing ourselves sinful and useless. If one does their best to make tawbah, how can they still feel sinful?

3. Is it against humility to like good traits one has as part of gratefulness to Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta'aalaa)? How can one differentiate between 'ujb and happiness?

Q: What is the shariah perspective about: hating the sin, not the sinner. Is it applicable in all contexts?

Example: When the sinner promotes his sins and believes it to be honourable and that he is entitled to advertise and perpetrate it, is it obligatory to hate such an illegitimate deviant?

Q: When we help others or show kindness towards others, what intention should we have? Shall we help others out of the goodness of our heart or help others because this is what God wants us to do? Do we get rewarded by God if we help others because its good thing to do?

Q: Is it permissible for a husband to ask his wife about her past. He even has her facebook account and contacts. He demands answers and becomes very angry. He sais he has to know and there should not be any secrets between a married couple. Is this right?

Q: Is there a difference between venting to someone and making gheebah?

Q: How can a person achieve radha bil qadha (being pleased with the decree of Allah Ta'ala) for situations which he dislikes?

Q: How can I overcome depression?

Q: Is it a sin to give someone the evil eye unintentionally? Is it a sin to be jealous of someone’s rahmat?

Q: Is it true to say that one should not spread bad news even it is in the public domain and true?

Q: Someone has jealousy issues. She gets jealous to see someone get closer to Allah. She was not doing any good like before, but after seeing that person, she started again. She thinks that she started doing good again because of jealousy. She's envious of other things too. Does it eat up the good works and can it lead to jahannam?