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Q: I have a question regarding the permissibility of going to a non-muslim person for help with a spiritual matter. My sister has a sihr problem and I contacted an Aamil to see to her and AlhamduLillah she was doing his treatment and there was slight progress. It was taking some time but she was improving very slowly. My mother decided that this was not good enough and she told my sister's husband that she will get another "moulana" to treat my sister. On the day that the so called Moulana was supposed to see my sister, I got a call from my sister who was hysterical and she told me that a coloured man by the name of Peter was brought to her house by my mother and that he wanted to treat her to which she refused. I then asked my sister to hand the phone over to Peter but my mother grabbed the phone and told me his name was Zubair and he is a Muslim. I asked to speak to him and asked him a few questions regarding Deen. He did not know the Kalima and even the name of the Last Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). Thereafter he admitted he is not a Muslim and he was just trying to help. I told him to please leave my sisters house right away and that we cannot accept any help from him. He left but what happened afterwards is what concerns me. My mother and father have stopped talking to me and even refuse to take my calls. I explained to my parents that we could lose our Imaan by seeking help from the kuffaar regarding spiritual matters and I even came across a Hadith which stated that " Anyone who seeks help from a source other than which was revealed to Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam), Our Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) will not recognise that person on the day of Qiyaamah". My brother in law who was present there on that day also told me that this person used the name Mother Mary and he claimed to have found some sihr item in their kitchen but the Aamil told us that the item was placed there. Our family is now torn apart by this incident. My brothers and brother in-law stand with me in this matter and my parents refuse to talk to either of us. We had a confrontation regarding this matter yesterday and it did not end well. My mother told us to not attend hers or my Fathers Janaza. Could Mufti Saheb please shed some light on this matter because my parents are convinced that they did nothing wrong.

Q: I know that Islam gives most priority to the mother. If my father is a bad guy and continuously does very rough behaviour with my mother, then what can I do? If I also am rough to my father for the sake of my beloved mother to protect her, then will it be a sin? What can I do? My father tortures my mother both mentally and physicaly. I have attempted a lot to make my father good, but still he is a bad one. Please tell me, in this case if I hate my father and do rough behaviour when he scolds my mother for nothing, then will it be a sin?

Q: I have a question regarding some issues with my husband which I have raised with him but which he fails to address. For starters my husband D has had no intimate attraction towards me since marriage, he is capable of going through at least 2 weeks on end with no worry, he claims he is not like other men who only want women for one thing, yet I feel so unattractive as he always admires other women but barely complements me unless I'm upset. Secondly he never speaks to me about his day or confides in me he only speaks to his mother, he will lie in bed or sit with me and sms her and when we visit her he will start talking non stop to her. If I ask him why he does this he says I must find out one time when he is telling her I can hear or sometimes he says I was talking so he couldn't tell me, but what about all they sms each other. I have started being quiet as I am talkative to see if it makes a difference, but all he does is play on his phone and go to sleep not talk to me. I long to see him, I look forward to meeting him, knowing how his day has been and in the end it's an effort for him to interact with me. We have only been married 2 years and now have a child but this marriage is really unfulfilling and depressing. He always does what his mother wants, never asks me what I want, if I have plans or anything as such it's like I don't exist. Please don't get me wrong, I have no problem with him doing for his mother but what are my rights and options, am I meant to go on miserably like this? Please advise.

Q: I am 19 years of age. I started University in 2014, which I didn't really enjoy much because I don't know why but I had a strong feeling to study Aalimah course. I know this is hidayat from Allah Ta'ala. I cried and cried because I wanted to study Alimah instead of university, however it was too late as it was October time. I didn't know what to do and I really wanted to do Aalimah course, so I started tajweed course Alhamdulillah. Due to not having much interest in my university studies, I failed my course. I prayed to Allah to accept me back to University but unfortunately I didn't receive the place. I prayed to Almighty to please gain me a place, and I was very very upset. Slowly I started to realise that everything happens for a reason, and now I have no objections to my creator, but sometimes I feel guilt to myself that I could have tried harder at University, but then I feel maybe my Allah wrote it that way. I can't stop my tears falling in sujood and sometimes wonder why all this happened to me, but then I pray to Allah and I have a beautiful feeling that one day Allah will reveal everything which I have gone through. Currently, I attend tajweed class. I am so happy because I have become a much more pious girl, and I never imagined that I would attend tajweed classes and become so devoted to Allah Ta'ala. I know I only do tajweed classes at the moment, but I'm happy this way. I do feel I could have started Aalimah this year but Insha Allah if Allah has written it I will. However I feel like I am studying Aalimah course by doing tajweed course. I always wanted to go uni, but I don't know what happened at uni - I just hated it and felt like it's not for me. Maybe Allah is testing me right now, and I do pray Insha Allah, Allah might give me a place at Uni again, and I have put everything in Allah's hand so I know he will take care of me and do what's best for me Insha Allah. Please can you suggest me what I could do? I am definitely going to carry on with my tajweed course. I am worried because I am still 19 and I haven't yet started my career. I never thought it will go this way.

Q: I saw two orbs of light blue/white lights in the sky last night and they were floating around. Sometimes I see a white orb of light inside my house which lasts for 2-3 seconds. Can you tell me what it is?

Q: I got my nikaah done six months ago. Rukhsati was due on my visa procedures as my husband is living in US. Everything was all good but after few months of our marriage my in laws seems to be wanting to end this relation there reason is they have bad feelings they feel I am not right for my husband and they want us to separate. My husband, me and my family don't want to end this marriage. My husband is confused to choose what's best. He wants this marriage to workout. He has been trying to convince his parents and they don't seem to change their minds although not giving a proper reason they just say its their bad feelings. Both the parents and me and my husband did isthkhara before nikkah and we were positive about it. I don't know why is this happening what is right thing to do here?

Q: A cousin of mines would like to know about the following circumstances. She stays with her in-laws. Cooks twice a week for the family and helps out when she can. Once a week she visits her parents for a few hours. This is according to her husband's wishes and also keeps her parents happy. However her in-law's especially her mother in-law does not like this. She complains to my cousin of shirking her responsibility but she will never say anything in front of my cousin's husband. Is this true? What exactly is her responsibility to her husband and her parents? Or to his? What will Allah Ta'ala hold her accountable for?