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Q: I would like to ask a question regarding faskh. I have been married to my husband close to four years now and out of the four years we spent 6 month together. I wanted us to be a family and live together. I have been asking him for us to be a family but he keep saying it is not the right time. In the end I said, if it is not the right time to have a family for you then maybe we should end it and you find a sister when you ready. That got me a phone ban. Basically he stopped calling and refused to answer his phone. At this point I went to visit where he lives. Which is in another continent. I ended up there called him and he said you are not here for me. I did not ask you to come. I have been there for 3 weeks trying with no avail. Now he is refusing to pick up my phone and it is one year since I went to visit and he refuses still to talk to me. I would like to go for a faskh but I do not want to do anything unislamic. What us your take on this?

Q: I have been suffering from depression because of guilt for the past 2 years. Now I am married but the marriage has always been rocky with abuse of all kinds. I started a job but did an unthinkable mistake. I got involved with someone but I ended it because I knew it was wrong. My husband found out because I didn't want to go in with the relationship. My husband found every possible way to humiliate me in public with friends family. He even went to the nearest musjid. I asked Allah Ta'ala for forgiveness, pleaded day and night. I asked my husband to forgive me. I came back home but he still didn't stop the abuse and he picks on me almost all the time. I am starting to suffer from depression and feel like taking my life. Please advise me.

Q: One month I had to terminate my pregnancy at 27 weeks because the baby's brain was not formed properly and he can be fully handicapped both mentally and physically and blind and there is no treatment for these born problems. The doctor suggested us to terminate it. But I regret now. What should I do now, please tell me?

Q: On top of my staircase landing on a light shade, the name of Allah apeared. What does that mean? Is it some sort of sign from Allah Ta'ala?

Q: My question is on behalf of a sister. Her son is of 8-9 years of age and is very disrespectful towards his parents older siblings and his aunty. He feels as though he is not listened to and questions everything his parents, older siblings or aunty says to do. He does not listen to instructions however his behaviour at school is extremely good. What should the sister do? How can she stop him from doing this and to become more respectful?

Q: My 14 year old has just revealed to me that she hasnt made salaat in 2 years approximately and that she has been sneaking onto the internet and listening to music as well as exchanging haraam material. She also claims that she is bisexual. We are practising Muslims, we have taleem in the home and community. My husband participates in the effort of dawah and my children attend fiqh classes with an Alimah and tajweed class with a qariah and Quran classes with a Haafizah. I do not know what to do. Please help us Insha Allah.

Q: I like a girl who is 17 years old and my age is 19 years. We both are classmates. I Would like to marry her. But I am not independent because I am still studying. And she also wants to study. I told her I will approach your guardian as soon as I finish my engineering. The problem is that her guardian is  hurrying for her marrage. And alhamdillah she has very good deen and taqwa. But when I said to her I want to marry, she said my guardian will do my marriage quickly. And alhamdillah we only used to talk. We never met alone. But now what should I do? Shall I say to her guardian that I will marry her after 3 years or as soon as I get independent? What should I do? She is telling me that bring your proposal before I get married. I don't want to show that I did love marriage. Pretend as if you didn't even know me before. Now what should I do?