Shaadi

Q: Meri shaadi ko derh saal hogaya he aur ek beti bhi he. Mujhe ab pata chala he ke 4 saal pehle mere shohar ne ek shaadi ki parents ke zor dene par. Phr 6 mahene bad talaaq hogayi jis se biwi ka darja bhi dia gaya jab ke wo mere sath relation me 5 saal se he. Agar mujhe pata hota to me shaadi na karti is darr se aur bataya mujhe dhoke se shaadi kar li jab ke agar mujhse relation me na hote to wo shadi bhi nibha dete to kiya meri shaadi jaiz he?

Q: Meri shaadi ko eight years hogaye he aur 3 bache he. Mera mehr mere susar jo mere chacha bhi he unho ne mera mehr lakh rupees mehr tay kiya tha baqada 30 logo ke darmiyan. Hamara taluq Azad Kashmir se he lekin hamari puri life Karachi me hi guzri ha to hum waha ja kar settle nahi hona chahti thi. Ye sab baate hum ne engagement wale din sab ke saamne ki thi or chacha ka business Karachi me hi settled he to unho ne yehi kaha tha ke koi zabardasti nahi hogi gaoun jane ke liye.

Phir two years theek guzar gaye shaadi ka time aaya phir mere furniture or baqi saman ki baat huwi to chacha yaha rakhne ko razi na huwe yani mere liye koyi room rent aur nahi liya (wo already rent pe choti se portion me rehte the) aur ye zid laga ki ke saaman Kashmir jayega to hi shaadi hogi warna rishta khatam. Apne bete se bhi kaha ke tum inko mana kariye me 20 din me apni sali se tumhare shadi karwadunga (ye note kijiyega ke mere chacha ne dusri shadi ki huwe he biwi ke marny ke baad) baat bohot bihar gayi sab relatives ne unhe jirga me bhi bulaya ta ke rishta khatam karne ki waja samjha lekin wo nahi aye or unki baat na maane par mere shoher ko ghar se galiyan de kar nikaldiya unke pass kuch nahi tha phir Allah ki madad se itna huwa ke this bohot saaman ke sath meri shadi hogayi lekin mehr ada na huwa. Mere husband bohot ache he mashAllah.

Ab mehr ka masla he ke wo mere susar ne tay kiya tha, kiya ye gunah chacha ko hoga ya mere husband ko?

Q: Meri ek dost ne dosto ke saath beth kar mazaaq me qabool he kaha aur larki ne bhi kaha. Phir yaad nahi ke 3 baar bola tha ke nahi. Na haq mahar tha na ghar wale. To aisa nikaah hojaye ga?

Q: Me intehai ziyada Islam pe parband to nhi hu lekn koshish karta hu jitna ho sake Islami taleemat par amal kar sako. Mujhe baligh huwe taqreeban 8 saal ho gaye he aur kuch arse se zina karne ke bare me zehen me khiyaalat aa rahe he. Us se bachne ke liye mene apni walida-e-muhtarma ko shadi karne ka kaha. Meri walida to maan gai lekin walid saheb nahi maan rahe. Ab mujhe smajh nahi aa raha kiya karu? Kabhi kabhi control se bahar ho jata hu.

Q: Mujhe pata he ke sharamgah mu me lena aur choosna ganda kaam he lekin kiya ye gunah me aata he ya nahi? Agar aata he to ye kon sa gunah he, gunah-e-kabira ya gunah-e-sageera?

Q: Me Sunni barelwi hu. Mera nikaah tableegi jamaat wali larki se huwa he. Unlogo ne humse jhoot bolke kaha tha ke hum Sunni he fir nikaah ke baad pata chala ke wo log tableeqi jamaat he. To kiya mera nikaah mukammal he aur kiya me us larki ko talaaq dena theek hoga?

Q: Kiya larki ka wali ke be ghair nikaah ho sakta he? Jab ke larki ka walid us nikaah ko nahi maanta aur larki ne khud se 22 saal bare aadmi se nikaah kiya he?

Q: Me bohot pareshan hu meri madad kare. Ghar wale meri shaadi nahi karte he aur na hi mujhe roza rakhne dete he jisse meri shehwat had se ziyada bari jaati he aur mujhe dar lag ta he ke me kahi zina na kar bhetu. Me puri koshish karta hu ke mushtzani bhi na karu aur ab me pagal ho raha hu kiyu ke shehwat bohot ziyada he aur is pareshani ki wajah se me saheeh tarah se khana bhi kha pata bhook mar gayi he. Kai bar me ne apne aapko mushtzani karte karte roka he. Please meri madad kare.

Q: Kiya nikaah ke waqt larki qabool ki jaga ijazat he bol sakti he agar is se pocha he yun jaye ke aap ki ijazat he? Is se nikaah pe to koyi farq nahi parhta?

Q: Meri shadi zabardasti karwai gai he. Me is shaadi se khush nahi hu aur is ko khatam karna chahti hu. Phir ghar wale itni aasani se nahi manenge. Me ghalti par hu ya nahi?