Being grateful in one's condition

Q: I feel like I'm always behind, like everything is happening in my life very late.

I became father after 5 years of marriage. When I get opportunity outside India for 2 years then my wife was pregnant so I decided not to go. Then again when it came we planned for second baby as wife needs treatment so I declined it. When I thought I would ask or try opportunity outside India, wife got pregnant but miscarriage happened.

I am frustrated with my job and whenever I get opportunity outside India I had some personal issues. I don't know if I did correct by putting family issues on top and leaving jobs out of India. I feel frustrated now in my current job and don't know what to do as I had opportunities but had to decline.

Please guide me on how to proceed. Seeing all my colleague they moved out in 2021-2022 but I'm still stuck here.

Killing a spider on one's carpet

Q: Spiders don’t have blood in their circulatory system. They have something else called haemolymph. Is this impure because a few weeks ago I squashed a spider on my carpet in my bedroom, so does that mean this carpet is impure? I’ve also walked all over this carpet with wet feet after wudu sometimes.

Earning from delivering food with Uber Eats etc.

Q:

1. Is earning from food delivery (Uber Eats, deliveroo, etc.) halaal, when most of the food delivered is not halaal?

2. What's the ruling on haraam earning in the past which a person didn't have knowledge at the time of earning but when he got to know its haraam he stopped that source of earning? Is the haraam earning in the past permissible to keep, even when he didn't have knowledge of it as haraam?

Being pleased with the decree of Allah Ta'ala

Q: I write to you in regards to my mother who has been diagnosed with stomach cancer. Doctors have said she’ll receive treatment (chemotherapy) and thereafter surgery because it is treatable.

Myself and my siblings have been very upset and anxious since knowing the diagnosis. We are supportive of each other.

I would just like to know what can be done to ease this difficult time for us, and my mother as treatment can be heavy both physically and mentally in such cases I am completely overcome by anxiety.

Issuing talaaq without the intention of divorcing one's wife

Q: I have a serious matter about a Talaq related question.

I am married and have kids.

I did a second nikah last year with a woman who has 4 kids. She has been manipulating and not been honest with me for last 1 year and continuously lies about so many things and on the top of that she has her EX husband living in the same house with her as she keeps saying he lives in a separate room.

I had enough of her lies so I have separated from her and my first wife asked me to divorce her so I have wrote an emal and told her that I'm divorcing her but it was not my intention and my wife pushed the email sent button.

Then my daughter told me to send her divorce otherwise they will not live with me so I wrote an email and send to the wrong email address because I have no intention to divorce her but my daughter had me corrected the email and send her again.

Couple of days later I called her and I told her I have been forced to give you divorce but this is not my intention and I also told her until I come and give.  I did go back to her and have relationship back with her again.

My wife find out that email divorce is not valid so she has forced me again to call her on the phone and divorce her so I did call her and divorce her 3 times by saying Talaq to her. Later I went back to her because and I told her that until I personally give you divorce I'm not divorcing her.

Now my question is, is my marriage still valid or its divorced. I am very confused.