Going for holiday with family members who do not uphold the laws of deen

Q: We often go for long family tours in India and mostly we are in the bus. My family plays music in the bus so that the driver (not a family member) will not fall asleep and free mixing happens among cousins born in joint family. 

Am I allowed to join such family tours while observing hijab and closing my ears to not listen to music? If no, What should I do if my parents insist that I accompany them (it would cause them great sadness if I don't come)?

Taking oaths that one cannot fulfill

Q: I made oaths like reciting a certain prayer every night or performing missed (qaza) prayers after each obligatory prayer. If these oaths are broken every time I fail to fulfill them, it seems impossible for me to pay all their expiations. No matter how careful I try to be, there will always be oaths that end up being broken. I feel so helpless. I ask Allah for forgiveness, but there’s nothing more I can do. I try to pay expiations, but it feels like an ant carrying water to extinguish a fire. In this situation, is there no way for me to attain Allah's forgiveness? Please, give me some guidance.

Performing wudhu using a spray bottle

Q: 

1. If wuḍuʾ is performed using a spray bottle, is the wuḍuʾ valid? 

2. With regard to the obligatory (farḍ) parts of the body that must be washed in wuḍuʾ, is it necessary for two drops of water to fall from each hair and part of the skin, or is it sufficient for two drops to fall from the entire organ (e.g., the face), even if only two drops fall in total after spraying water?