Taqdeer

Q: There are many questions in my mind that are revolving and telling me that my Imaan is not complete.

1. Shaytaan is continuously saying to me that it doesn't matter what you do your Imaan is not complete because I am unable to understand the basics of Islam completely. One example is Al-qadar. I believe on everything Allah has revealed on our Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) which includes taqdeer. But believing and understanding are two different things right ? Am I obliged to understand concept of taqdeer ?

2. Second thing that is worrying me is dispute of scholars. Like they have different very different opinions in some matters. One example is that if Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) was light (noor) or bashar (human). Now I am really worried that if I believe one opinion of the scholar and what if the other one was right? I will be in great trouble on the day of judgment? Similar is the case with other issues in which scholars have dispute like some says taking waseela of prophet in dua is right and others say its wrong. Here I am worried as well that what if i accept one opinion and in reality the other was right ? I again will be ashamed on day of judgment ? Likewise, I am really confused that because of these scholars if i adopt a wrong aqeedah I will be punished and doomed on the day of judgment. I know that I should read Qur'an and Hadith to find the right path but again after reading Qur'an I do need to read tafseer to understand and there again different scholars take and interpret aayats in different manners. I am really really scared of Allah and His punishment. All scholars have different opinions and I am totally unable to recognize and choose the right one.

Irregular bleeding

Q: İ have a problem with my period days. Sometimes it lasts for 9 or 11 and sometimes to 14 but just after the 9th day I have brown discharge. This discharge can be in the morning and stops for the rest of the day. Then it can come back late at night or the next day so I wait till all these discharges finish and to be sure that I am clean then I make ghusl.

1. Am I guilty for not making ghusal and praying in the time where the discharge stops before coming back again? Plus I heard a sheikh said it is OK to wait for one day to make sure that you are clean and then do ghusl.

2. Is it really permissible to wait as he said?

Girl not accepting the nikaah

Q: A friend of mine was forcibly married to her cousin. She never accepted the marriage and clearly said no to marriage at the time of Nikah. She kept asking for divorce and her husband would say OK. In one conversation she told him, she would not come to him and does not want to keep the relationship of marriage. He said OK and replied, he would not come to her either. It's been 20 years since and they have no marital relations. They do not live together. It's the nikah/marriage still valid our broken ? She has not received any mahr after marriage and she doesn't want anything from him.

How to look for a spouse

Q:

1. What is the correct way to find a man or a woman for marriage, according to the Sunnah?

2.  Who can visit their houses (of bride-to-be or groom-to-be)?

3. What are the qualities that are given more importance in them?

4. Is engagement function is allowed in Islam (that is exchanging ring)?

5. Is it prohibited in Islam to have oral sex?

Income of an insurance agent

Q: My husband works as an insurance agent. If he invests his earnings in a business or buys a house to give on rent. Then is the profit acquired from such business or the rent got from the house going to be halaal for us. If not then why, because we are all depending on him? Please answer in the light of Quran and Hadith.