Joining family ties

Q: I am currently living in a joint family with my grandmother and uncles and now we are going to buy a new house separately since childhood I've seen my paternal showing hate towards me and my sibling also at my father and mother. My mother loves his mother but still she has a nature that she leaves no chance of degrading us. My mother scolds me for using bad words or having bad feelings for her but I cannot help it. She pretends to be sweet but she isn't with us. Recently she talked to me very differently. Mufti please tell me something through which I have sabar and we can sort out things. I will wait for you reply because it makes me frustrated.

Mental disability

Q: I would like to say first that I have a mental disability with schizo affective disorder and I have ocd and slip personality disorder. I have a difficult time doing mentally "knowing Allah is doing everything, controlling everything, saying insha Allah all the time, and using my body, and using the "means", and having correct intentions. Its very hard for me to do this. Do you have any suggestions on how to make this easier? Doing basic things are ultimately failing and I have no idea how to do this well. Forgive me for everything.

Attending Hindu festivals

Q: I am a converted Muslim. My parents are Hindu. I face problems from my family's side whenever a festival comes. I want to know that up to what extent I can cooperate with them being a Muslim? On rakshabandhan can I tie rakhi and tilak for my brother?