Talaaq

Q: If my husband gave me 1 revocable talaaq, Islamically - is the marriage considered to be over as soon as the iddat begins or only once the iddat is over?

Q: If my husband said to me “I don’t want to be with you”, does divorce take place?

Q: Mistakenly calling one's wife (bhabi "elder brother's wife") breaks nikah or not?

Q: I speak Pothwari Punjabi. I used to say alot of phrases like...

Mein iski chordisa

Jabi woh idr ay toh mein uski chordisa

Or jab idr ay gi toh talaaq ho jasi

Jila vee idr ay teh usni talaaq ho jasi

Uski mein talaaq desa

Mein us k saath na rehnigya

Is this same as a promise or is this condtional? Its the same as urdu meaning I think.

Q: If a man is not willing to give talaq just to annoy a woman. What other ways can a woman take talaaq?

Q: I got married last year and it was a love marriage. I moved abroad and my wife is still back in my homeland. We fight alot. Before and even after marriage, we beat each other, obviously I am the husband so I beat her harder.

Now, every time we fight, it ends with her asking for talaq, or I tell her to leave me, or I tell her everything ends etc. But recently in messages, we fought again, and as usual she asked me for talaq and this time I said to her that we are separated for 40 days. Then I blocked her from every social media that we keep contact on. I haven't called her or said any words of talaq. 

Q: I have given my wife talaaq 2 times, is she still my wife or is our relationship over? If I want to continue my relationship with her, what should I do?

Q: If a husband says to his mother and wife, "You both have fat stomachs. You both need to walk." Is this zihar according to Islam or not?

Q: I am divorced with two children (boy 9, daughter 7). My ex wife, has as I am led to believe, settled down perhaps made or not made nikah with the man I accused her with whilst we were married. I am not sure but I assume he is also divorced, he too has two kids of his own, also a daughter and a son I think maybe a year older than each of mine.

My first question is: What is the most authentic ruling regarding custody of children post divorce? Where and with whom and from what age should they reside with either mum or dad purely from what Shariah explains?

My second question and this is what haunts me: If tomorrow they all decide to move in together and lets say they are indeed married for purposes of this question, how does the mahram thing work? This man, is he mahram for my daughter firstly. Secondly, his children being exposed to my children, I fear abuse, bullying, sexual abuse(possibly! as a parent this thought lingers as they grow older and left alone), and my children being teased by his kids - that they only in that home because my ex wife married their father. Tomorrow if these step brothers or sisters or whatever they will be termed, if their natural father purchases or does something for my kids , they could get jealous or nasty towards my kids, maaf but all of these scenarios seem to be playing out, hence my questions. 

Q: My husband wants me to take khula. My question is if I take khula will he take away all my gold ornaments which my parents gave and my dowry and furniture?