Talaaq

Q: I am writing to you with a lot of hope that I will be guided in the most Islamic way Insha Allah. My husband and I were married for the past 11 years. Last month on 16 November 2013 my husband gave me a talaaq the on phone, but he did not identify any witness or even mention them. Before talaaq me and my husband were not in contact at all. We had a fight and in anger I told him not to show me his face till
he does not start speaking the truth (as in every matter my husband has a bad habit of lying). He left my parents house in anger and for the next 6 months didn't try to contact me. He just wrote a letter to my parents that he is thinking of divorce. My parents didn't respond thinking he will come to Dubai that is where me and my parents are staying but he didn't come and decided to give me talaaq through the phone as he stays in Saudi. After giving talaq last month we started chatting and we cleared most of our misunderstandings and realised both our mistakes, now we want to make rujoo as only one talaq is over but now my in laws are not allowing him and pressurising him to continue with divorce. In fact my father in law even threatened to leave the house if my husband comes to make rujoo'. When we asked for reasons they are saying things like "she took the wedding album without our permission to Saudi 5 years back" and "she had back answered us four years back". The actual reason is simple ego as my mother in law is a real sister of my mother and from childhood there has been problems between both sisters. My husband and I have been the victim of these sister wars for so many years now. Finally my father in-law is saying that since my father is daughter's father he should come and apologise and then they will accept me. This is only pride but Islamically is there anything like the husband's parents deserve more respect then the girl's parents? I have already called my mother in law in my iddah and apologised for the mistakes according to them I have done and promised not to repeat any mistakes again Insha Allah. The fact is I used to stay with my husband in saudi and my inlaws in india and my parents in dubai. There is no reason for them to object as far as my husband and I are happily staying in saudi. We asked Moulana and they have said "Islamically rujoo is the decision between husband and wife" but we need the blessing and love of our elders. Please guide us what to do?

Q: During a heated argument with my wife if I told her she has the option of staying with me or to leave me (divorce me) and she said "Ok I will leave or Ok I want separation" but at the same time I told her "I will not divorce you" due to hardship reasons. Then is this the same thing as giving her the authority to divorce herself as I was giving her a choice?

She is not happy, so I insisted she talk to her parents about sending her a plane ticket back home but I told her "I will not divorce you", so does this count as a divorce on her part, as I did not intend to divorce her but rather give her the option to seek divorce?

Q: I had a question about my wife keep threaten me if I don't go back to prayer she will divorce me? Can she do that? I always preform Jumuah Salaah and I pray but at times I get lazy and stop praying? I know it's wrong but I am trying to be better.

Q: It has been around 6 months to our marriage & our marriage has not been consummated and   due to some unavoidable circumstances me and my wife decided to put our views in front of a Qazi sahab. On our first visit Qazi sahab told her to obey her husband (me) and go back to my place or take khula as the marriage is completely messed up, to which she denied and said I need two days of time to think over it. After two days, Qazi sahab called me up and said your wife is here and she is not willing to take khula and instead she is demanding for a divorce along wid compensation. So I did it accordingly, Qazi sahab told me to utter a word talaq e bain and I paid her mehr amount + iddah amount + compensation. With a mutual understanding we both signed the papers in front of 3 witnesses. So my question is by uttering a single time talaq e bain is my marriage terminated or are 2 more pronunciations mandatory?

Q: One day I asked my husband that if you abuse me again then promise me that you will give me divorce. He said ok and after 2 minutes at the same moment he said ok means I won't abuse you but I can't promise to divorce you. Few days ago he abused me so does divorce take place?

Q: If a husband pronounces two talaaqs to his wife and then he did not make ruju in one year with the wife than what will be the implementation of talaaq? Can he take his wife back after one year and make ruju? Or do they have to do halala. What can he do?

Q: I want to ask that If a husband says to wife that if you go out alone then I will divorce you and if wife goes out alone does divorce take place?

Q: I am living abroad, when I came here I wrote in the papers that I am married in Pakistan and wrote my wife's name also. But now as I am living abroad, I also got married here as well. The trouble arises when I need to apply for citizenship for this country. The trouble is this I need to tell them that my previous marriage is no longer valid. In fact I don't want to break my first marriage. Can I write to them that I am no longer in the first marriage, or if I mention my first wife's name but wrong fathers name so that even though I am doing a bad thing lying but I want to save my first marriage. This foreign country just has her name in the records, no picture no other details.

Q: If a man gives 1 or 2 talaaqs to his wife and then she gets married to someone else and has divorce or the husband dies and after her iddah she marries the first husband back. Do the Talaqs restart for that person or do the 1 or 2 given still remain ?

Q: I am in need of some advice. My husband and I are having quite a lot misunderstandings and always arguing etc. Last night he sent me a message saying it's over and I must pack up and leave. Does that count as a talaaq and does my iddat start immediatel?. He just messaged me again saying "its a divorce" so I'm confused as to whether I need to sit in iddat ?