Women's Issues

Woman in iddat leaving the home due to fear of being alone

Q: A girl is currently sitting iddat in her father and mother in law's house.

Her ex husband is a total lost case. The ex husband's parents have decided to let her (their daughter in law) sit her iddat in their own house because she has no where else to go. The ex husband is not staying in the same house as his ex wife.

Also the girl's family, all of them are not on Deen. They are mostly involved in gangsterism and drugs. She has absolutely no where else to go. The only safe place for her to live and spend her iddat is at the home of her parents in law.

The question is, since the girl is spending her iddat at the home of her parents in law, so when they (the parent in laws) both need to go out together for some of their necessities, can she accompany them? They say that they cannot leave her alone at home, as the area is a bit dangerous and also she is scared to stay alone.

So are they allowed to take her with them when they both need to go out?

Women attending Deeni programmes

Q: In Durban, there are certain programs that are being scheduled to take place. These programs are being promoted by an organization and the programs will be conducted by a female. They are currently inviting women to two different programs.

The first program is for ladies above the age of 18 and the second program is for young girls between the ages of 12 and 17.

Is this method of educating women conforming to the sunnah where they are being invited to come to a hall and will be addressed by a certain haafiza? Is it in keeping with the sunnah for a female to be conducting such programs? Should we send our daughters for such a program?

Woman seeing yellow discharge before and after the days of haidh

Q:

1. I learnt that a female's yellow discharge is regarded as haidh during the day's of haidh and istihaadha out of it. Therefore, if one experiences this discharge before the fifteen days tuhr is up, sometimes just a few days before haidh begins and sometimes through the tuhr period, does one need to treat it as normal istihaadha, i.e. change and make a fresh wudhu for every salah, or as normal discharge, i.e wudhu only breaks when the discharge comes out?

2. Regarding the yellow discharge, if the lady gets it after 11 days of tuhr and it continues till the 16th day, and thereafter she gets her normal haidh (proper bleeding that usually lasts for about 8 days and if counted with the yellow discharge would go over 10 days), but her habit is normally 18 days of tuhr, does she count her haidh from the 15th, 16th, or 18th day?