Purdah

Q: My wife recently had some interaction with female members of her family. Alhamdulillah, as we practice strict purdah and she remains at home, she was giving her female cousins Targheeb along these lines. 

One of her cousins is an Aalimah and then quoted the Ayat of Quran Shareef commanding the Azwaaj-e-Mutaharaat to stay at home, and then explained that this Ayat referred only to them and was not applicable to the women of today. 

My wife explained that the fitnah is far worse today and our piety cannot even be compared to their chastity and purity, but the “Aalimah” persisted saying that this is Quran and you cannot infer restriction on everyone when it is referring only to a select group. 

Please can Mufti saheb provide guidance with some proof, more for our itminaan than anything else.

Q: What do our Ulama say about sending kids or youth or adults to swimming pools or gyms where there are mixed ladies and men with no segregation and improper attire? Is a boy or girl, who are not baligh, allowed to learn swimming lessons in this environment? Please kindly advise? 

Q: If someone (Muslim) calls a niqabi a "ninja" (not in a derogatory way or to mock niqab, nor to make fun of the person for wearing niqab), will it be kufr? 

What if the niqabi didn't think much of it and just passed it over as a joke, because she believes that the person was just joking and not trying to degrade her or something. 

Basically, a ninja can be considered good or bad, but it depends on what the ninja does (apparently).

Q: I am a 17 year old girl and I have a strong inclination to wear the niqaab. However, my father and grandmother said no. If I wear it, a bit of chaos will start in my household and I will be shouted and sworn at. I am okay with that but I don't know if it is better to wear the niqaab or to keep momentary peace in my family. 

Q: About 7–8 years ago, when I was newly married (around 1 year of marriage), my husband suggested we do arm-wrestling for fun. With his permission, I also did arm-wrestling with his four brothers. At that time, I did not feel any lust or desire from my side at all. 

I noticed that the brothers looked a bit excited, which could have been because they had never held a woman’s hand before but now I am worried. What if they might have felt lust at that time, 1 of them asked for a re match even though I lost from all of them but I said no 1 time is enough now I cannot ask them directly as it would be very embarrassing and it was almost a decade ago. Now I do proper hijab and cover my face too. 

My question is: Does this cause hurmat-e-musaharat, and is my nikah still valid? 

I also suffer from waswas (intrusive doubts) in religious matters, so I want clarity and peace of mind.

Q: I was married for about a year I asked for a divorce because my husband used to hug his female cousins and cousins wives despite me telling him Islamically it is not right. He accepted it was not right but did not stop and his family defended it because they always did it so basically 'culture'. After the divorce I did my best to guide him but all doors felt close was Allah protecting me? Also will I get sin for asking for a divorce? I ask because his family did not feel its a big issue to get divorced over.