Q: I got married 3 months ago and got to know that my wife got raped when she was 13 and got harrased by her cousins once too. Now I started feeling bad and have a sense of hate for her. What should I do? I love her more than anything. I feel that I should do the same what she did so I could balance out the feelings on both sides.

Q: What is the difference between zakaat, khairat, fitrah and sadaqah?

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1. If I make intention of namaaz aloud then I feel that it is not right so I make the intention aloud again. This causes uneasiness. What should I do?

2. In every namaaz I get a doubts of what rakaat it is. I just begin salaah and I start getting doubts. So should I sit for tashahud in all the rakaats and make sajda sahw?

3. Often I get doubts of whether it is 1st sajdah or 2nd sajdah. What must I do?

4. I have doubts whether I said the takbeer tahreema, takbeer, tashahud, durood Ebrahim etc. properly or maybe missed it out.

Q: There is a tradition when the bride's parents go to the groom's house for discussion, they leave the bride at home. The groom, his parents, bride's parents, everyone are present in the discussion related to marriage, except the bride. The bride is not even allowed to see her in laws house before marriage.

I feel all these rules are made by the society to deprieve a woman of her rights. Since it is her marriage, the bride should be allowed to be present during the discussions, just like the boy. And she should be allowed to see her in laws house before marriage, as she will be spending her entire life there. I am getting married soon, so I just want to know if visiting the groom's house with parents and taking part in discussions, will not be against Islam.

Q: What is the Shariah ruling on gelatine? It eludes logical comprehension that many halaal certifying bodies rule as halaal gelatine derived from non-halaal animals in their products. In the event that products containing gelatine derived from non-halaal animals are not approved by halaal certifying bodies whose views defer, then manufacturers simply have their products certified by any one of the other halaal certifying bodies who do grant halaal status to products containing gelatine derived from non-halaal animals. And manufacturers laugh all the way to the bank! But what actually is the Shariah ruling? The halaal certifying bodies concerned aver that the gelatine from non-halaal animals undergoes a metamorphosis when processed and becomes halaal just as soap containing processed ingredients from non-halaal animals is deemed halaal.  

Q: A woman was once involved in many sexual sins like masturbation and pornography. But she understood the severity of these sins and left those sins and repented. Now she really doesnot fear to fall in those sins. If she doesnot get married ever will she be sinning.? She really doesnot want to get married ever. She will take necessary steps to stay away from haram. Will it be permissible for her to stay unmarried forever?

Q: I have been married for the past 3 years and have recently started having problems with my husband. After we got married, my husband relocated from another country to where we live now. He had difficulties getting a job and so I have been the sole provider for our home since I did have a job. I am typically a very quiet person and social situations make me anxious.

During this time my husband started complaining that I do not keep in touch with his side of the family as much as he wants me to, however I am very respectful towards them and whenever I get time off work, I try to visit them. Whenever they visit our house, I make sure that they feel very comfortable, ensuring that I prepare all their food and serve them, even though I work full time, and make sure they lack nothing.

During this time when he was still without a job, he worked so hard to make sure he completed a house for his mother, with contributions from his siblings. 6 months ago, my husband found a job Alhamdullilah, though in a different city from where I work and stay. I supported him and made sure that he was able to find a decent place to live and even assisted him with all the rent deposits etc. The work has been beneficial to him Masha Allah but the problem is that he has never once provided for us. I have continued providing for myself and our child. Whenever I ask him why he is not supporting us, he says that there are many things that he needs to sort out first. His first priority after getting his salary was to buy a car, which he said was very important for his work.

Whenever he visits us during the weekend, which is only 2 days, he goes to his mothers’ place for a day, which has led to a few uncomfortable conversations, with me asking him to stay with us and him saying I do not like his family and that is why I do not want him to visit them.

A few months ago, the house I currently live in started getting repairs done and we have been exposed to much construction related dust. I have been worried about this exposure for our toddler, so I told him about it and asked if we could find another house to move to. He suggested a few places that are far from where I leave our baby during the day and an area that is not safe for us. I discussed with him several times but he seemed not to want to change his mind. I was finally able to find a place near my work place and day care for the baby, Alhamdullilah, but he said that he hated the place. All this time we continue getting exposed to dust and the baby has gotten sick a few times. I finally told him that we have to move to the place I found temporarily, so that we can get away from all the construction, as we look for other options. Being impatient and worried for the health of my child and myself, I have gone to this new house and paid for everything so that we can move in, but he has not helped with any costs at all.

Now he is angry at me saying that I do not respect him, just because I have money. I do not know what to do. I am sad and I just found out that I am pregnant again.

My question to you is whether I have disrespected my husband by moving to a place that is safer for me and the baby? What am I supposed to do as I have tried to talk to him and he still does not understand? Is it right for a husband not to provide for his family, even if the wife is working? Am I supposed to be in constant contact with his family despite working full time both at work and at home? What should I do now? 

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1. I am excused with regards to wudu due to constant bleeding in my mouth following oral surgery. My mouth is inevitably impure during prayers. I know one is allowed a certain amount of impurity on themselves with which prayer is valid. Does the impurity in my mouth (for which I am excused), count? If I have a bit more impurity (blood) somewhere else on my body, would my salah be valid?

For example, while I was excused after oral surgery, I also had a blood clot in my mucus come out from my nose, and prayed without washing inside my nose (though I checked that there was no more blood in my nose after the clot came out). Is my salah valid?

2. Secondly, I have an infection on my toe from which blood/pus comes out frequently. Usually the amount that comes out is not enough to consider 'flowing'. Blood/pus tends to especially come out when I wash it for wudu.

My question is - given that when I make wudu and blood/pus is coming out, the water that flows over it will inevitably flow over the rest of my toe as well. Am I allowed to pray like that as it is inevitable? Also in general, if blood if flowing from a certain area, and one must pray, and during wudu the water goes over both the area with the blood and other areas, is one allowed to pray after that wudu? Or how does one wash the bleeding area, without spreading impurity? Also, does one have to wash the area that is under the chin, but before the throat, that is between the chin and throat, during wudu?

Q: There's a thing that is bothering me so much. A friend of mine hates marriage. Once there was a chart in my college that listed the sunnahs of Ambiya, one of them was nikah. She didn't believe that it was a sunnah, we told her that it was. Afterwards she jokingly said that she will cut this off the chart. Is this kufr? If this is indeed kufr and takes her out of the fold of Islam, she is going to be super offended and likely to throw a tantrum because nowadays people don't even know things that are kufr. How do I explain this to her?

Q: I had an issue with my wife a month ago and I need your assistance. She was hitting on the nanny and I asked her to stop the first time and a second time to no response. I got really angry and shouted on top of my voice for her to stop. This is the sequence of what happened afterwards:

1. She hissed at me in the presence of the kids

2. She said that I slapped her to everyone that needed to know

3. A week later she refused to give me dinner 4 her sisters and mother told her what she did was bad and to apologize she never heeded to the advice

4. She told her mother that I didn't leave money for food in the house since I left 10 days ago (which wasn't true)

5. Before I left the house I told her sister that she can leave to marry elsewhere if she's interested because I can't deal with these issues (a cleric in Nigeria suggests that was a divorce)

6. I can't find my way around her anymore because im really hurt by her behaviour

7. Her mother is now negatively interfering in the matter and is making things worse. She even said I was irresponsible and Allah will purnish me.