Talaaq

Three talaaqs via a text message

Q: I have been married for the past 18 months. My husband lost his job after the first month of marriage. I had a job so therefore I supported him and his family (mother, 2 sisters). His father lives in another state and visits monthly. During the course of our marriage, I got pregnant and had a baby girl. His 2 sisters got married. He had tried to work but ended his job at a store and driving a car due to him thinking that people were after him and something was going on at home. Recently, he started losing weight and was diagnosed with gallstones and gastritis. He was treated with surgery. At this point, I had started working part time to take care of my baby and husband. But we were short of rent money. My husband was very angry 2 weeks after the surgery due to pain and shortage of rent money that he told me to leave the home at 12:00 at night with my 11 month old daughter. His mother succumbed to his anger and told me to take a taxi to my parents home. I refused and stayed because it was night. The next day, as he drove me to my parents home, he told me he would pick me up in a few days. Then as he left me and our 11 month old child their, he said he would pick me up when he had a job. Then he left and called me 1 hour later and said he wanted to divorce me and hung up the phone. A few days later, I called him and said I wanted to come home. Later that same day, he texted me the word talaq 3 times. He also wrote the same thing on Facebook messenger. Please tell me if this counts as irreversible divorce or not. He never spoke these words but wrote them. Now he is saying that it doesn't count because he never said it. Please help. I am currently living with my parents and thinking that I am divorced.

Three talaaqs

Q: I got married in 2004 and in the begining my husband gave me 2 talaaqs in extreme anger after that we made ruju. We got three kids Alhumdulillah and now two weeks ago my husband asked me I give you divorce. You want me to give in anger? It was just a question he asked me but he asked like that and in reply I was quite that time. Please tell me where we stand now And I also want to tell you we both don't know anything about talaaq. Before we found out one week ago all the terms our concept was like different about it. Please help us. We are worried.

Reuniting after divorce

Q: I converted to Islam and have been married for 15 years with my husband and two sons. Arrival to the problem. My husband has never been a very practising Muslim all these years and I must say I made life very simple. Saw repeated betrayals by me always forgiven for the sake of the family. Only in the past three years the situation has worsened with requests from him of sexual practises prohibited in Islam even in all morality. Whereupon I set him to see if he could without me to find the right path. So it was in fact I ask him to give me irrevocable repudiation instantly (while loving him yet). I didn't know anything about divorce in Islam but I though that this was the only way that he will change. He did not wish to give but at last he gave. I forced him to give me under threat. I unfortunately wasn't aware of the consequences of this thing because nobody told about divorce in Islam. Now only a few months after I realized that I really love him. It is my intent to get back. I would now like to come back together also for our children but as I said, unfortunately I do not know if we can. There are differing opinions. Some say that just a marriage with another person and divorce right away but others say I should even consummate this marriage (that is for me much difficult because I love and have always loved my husband and I would never think to betray him). Because having my good intent should I lose so cruelly. Please help me?

Custody of the children and providing maintenance

Q: In the case of divorce, which parent has the right of custody of the children and up to what age? If a certain parent has the right of custody then can that parent prevent the other parent from visiting the children? Similarly, I would like to know which parent has to provide maintenance for the children. If the children have wealth, can their wealth be used for the maintenance? What exactly does maintenance entail and will the expenses of the children's education also fall under maintenance?  

Ambiguous words of talaaq

Q: What is the definition of talaaq? Can a person judge a talaaq on me if I did not have the intention of giving a talaaq? In other words. Can another person decide what was in my thoughts and in my heart when I said something and judge it to be a talaaq, even though I had no such intention?

Husband saying if he sleeps with his wife in the future it will be like zina

Q: If during an argument between husband and wife, husband says if he sleeps with his wife in future it will be like zina. Husband has no intention of giving divorce to his wife. Husband also is not aware of the ruling /punishment for that saying. What is his position now and what should he do? Is it any where close to zihaar.

Three talaaqs after khalwat

Q: I want to know about the ruling when one man gives divorce three times to his wife after nikaah before rukhsati but they want to remarry, Is halaala required? Or if after nikah before rukhsati, they met together and made romance kiss or foreplay but rukhsati did not take place and he gave his wife talaaq. In this situation what is ruling if they want to remarry? And last one after rukhsati husband made foreplay with his wife but not ful sexual intercourse. What is the ruling if he divorces his wife three times in one place, if he want her back as his wife, is halaala required?