Masaail pertaining to the Wali and Compatibility between spouses

Converting to Islam to marry a girl

Q: My daughter wants to marry a Christian guy who says that he wants to revert to Islam. I am so upset and really do not know how to handle this situation and really need advice on how to move forward.

My daughter said that he already took the shahada and is currently reading the Quraan, but I dont know if this is true and is he just doing this for her or does he really want to revert to Islam for the sake of ALLAH. How do we react to him and his parents and what should we do?

My daughter said that if we can find a good Muslim boy, she is willing to give him a chance, but I think she is just saying that to make us happy.

Marrying a Christian

Q: My question is regarding marriage. I wish to marry a devout Christian woman however, her father or any of her family do not approve of me because I am a Muslim. I wish to marry her very soon because of the fear that I may fall into zina. I have taken all precautions and I do not meet with her anymore because I know it is haraam but I am so scared that I will fall into zina. What should I do?

I know that a woman needs a wali and the wali has to be from her religion so I can’t take her to the Islamic centre so that the imam can be her wali can I? Or does she not need a wali since she is independent financially and has her own place and is 45 years old. This woman is very special to me but, I also do not want to fall into sin. If I don’t marry her soon I really think I will fall into zina. please help. (I am from the Hambali mazhab so can you please answer according to this mazhab).

Looking at a girl before marriage

Q: I have read that a man can see the face and hands of a woman he is interested in marrying, if he is permitted by her family.

1. What are the limits of his gaze at her covered parts of body? Can a man gaze at the breasts, hips and buttocks region of her covered body?

2. Is it permissible to look for certain aspects of physical beauty of women one is choosing for nikah?

Requirements of a valid nikaah

Q:

1. What are the requirements of a valid marriage in Islam? Is the consent of parents mandatory?

2. If a girl and boy (both adults), in the presence of two adult male witnesses and without the consent of their parents, performed Ijaab and Qabool (without any duress and with free will), is this nikah valid?

3. If the answer to question 2 is 'yes' and if the parents of both the girl and the boy agree for their marriage in future without being aware that the girl and boy have already entered into nikah, (and the girl and boy do not want to reveal this fact to their parents), can they enter into nikah again when the marriage takes place for the purposes of registration in union council?