Various masaail of Nikaah

Q: Is your husband allowed to ignore you because you don’t look attractive to him 4 months after giving birth? Knowing very well that you’re making effort to exercise, etc?

Q: I have a question about marriage, because currently from what I read, it seems that whenever I hear of the word marriage I also think of the word terror and fear. This is because generally fatwas mention so many hadiths about the serve punishments of the wife for every mistake or shortcoming she does. But they never mention any hadiths like the ones mentioned in the case of the wife of being punished, cursed or anything like that regardless of what he does to her.

I even once saw a fatwa about a woman who's husband broke her arm, and the only thing they said is regarding the permissibility of hitting the wife and then they were telling the wife to be obedient and not ask for a divorce. This made me so sad, because if it was the wife doing something much smaller they would have said so much about the punishments and would have told the husband to divorce her and find someone else.

Also, on the same website they always mention that unlike the wife who must sleep in the same ooom as the husband if he wants, the husband does not have to sleep in the same room and bed as the wife, even if she tells him she wnats them to be in the same room, unless he wants to and there is no seen for his refusal even if it is for no reason. Is this true?

Also, I always see things like the husband has the right to prevent the wife from studying, working, visiting her parents and friends even if he has no reason, just because he wants to. Does he actually have the right to not let her do these things for no reason and just because he wants her to be at home the whole time? Wouldn't this harm her emotionally because she is never allowed to go out? Is there a sin on him? Is he allowed to do whatever he wants with her?

Q: If the husband tells his wife, “Do not ask this from Allah Ta'ala in dua.” But the wife really wants to ask that from Allah Ta'ala. If she makes the dua, will she be sinning? It is a halal dua.

Q: A proposal has come for me but my parents are not calling them so that they can come to our home. They are waiting for their call. Meanwhile, they are signing me up for an online university. As I’m unmarried, I have alot of thoughts about marriage and I cannot stop thinking about it to the point that any mention of marriage makes me feel sad that I’m not part of this union with someone.

What should I pray to Allah (Subhanahu wa Ta’ala) for? For the best solution, whether it is marriage or studying online, or should I beg Him for a good spouse?

Q: I have a question about separation in married life as per Sharia law. My brother and his wife plans to live separated but not divorced. Is it permissible in Islam?

Q: Is it okay to marry someone for piety if I am not attracted to her? I fear I will not be able to fulfill her sexual rights.

Q: Wouldn't it be permissible for a husband to check his wife's phone and her messages in WhatsApp and social media? I have seen some Ulama say it is not permissible because it is her private interactions. But I was confused about what they said. How else can you ensure that your wife is not falling into something bad? Isn't it like checking your child's phone?

Q: Can you please explain the rights and responsibilities of each spouse in nikaah? From the wife and husband, who has more rights and responsibilities?

Q: Mene ek behes ke waqt keh dia apni biwi ko ke kya “tum khuda ho”

She said yes... Now the problem is that she said that she didn’t say yes but I am sure she said.

1) Is this kalimat e kufr and will the person become kafir?

2) Do I need to do renew the nikah?

3) Do I need to give a separate meher for nikah?