Advice

Q: I had an argument with a friend of mine regarding some of his Islamic views and now he has decided to cut all links with me because I do not agree with some of his views and beliefs. His first view was of the coca cola company which he says is funding the Israel state which is the biggest enemy of Islam. Being cautious of myself I asked him to prove it and he didn't give out anything saying it was owned by Israel or was started by a Jew and he asked me to consume pepsi products if at all I can't do without coke. We researched this with him and both are American owned firms and not Israeli as he said earlier. Secondly we disagreed on our views about a group of people by the name Alshabab who recently carried out an attack in Kenya and they claim to be using Islamic laws and anyone who disagrees with them is not a Muslim and is put to the sword. He supports them and I am against them by all means because they misuse Islam for their own personal gains. You can all search about them to see what type of people they are if you don't belive me. Now my friend says "I loved you for the sake of Allah but your religious stands on Muslims and Islamic affairs are worth hating and the prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said the one who hates his friends for the sake of Allah will be under the shade of the lord. Today you lost my love untill you change your views on Islam. I may not even greet you when I see you in the street and we should stay away from one another". There is a lot in what he said but I can't say it all here. My question is did I do any wrong by merely disagreeing with his opinions and is the step he is taking towards his views and also me right Islamicaly? What is the next step for me?

Q: I am a married women for 13 years. My husband has been having lots of problem with his erection/sexual problem he has been like that for about 8 years. The doctor can't see a problem and said it could be blood flow problem to his penis and thats why he can't get an erection at all. The doctor has given several medications but no good till one injection they gave did work most of the time but not every time. Its been about years with this problem but now because of all my husbands problem I am very depressed and always got migraine/headache and now its been few months i have negative thoughts like going to sleep with a very close friend of mine and I cant stop my feeling for him now because of my depression. I don't want to think like that but I don't know why I do as I never cheated on my husband and don't want to! But why I am a feeling like that I prey to Allah to help me but I am still losing and bad thoughts are getting deeper? What would my punishment be from Allah if I did go and sleep with another man?

Q: I need your help with something. I am 20 and I share a room with my 17 year old brother. Last night around 3 am I woke up and I saw a tall black hooded figure with his hands together palms touching in front of his chest. He seemed to be looking at my brother while sleeping. What does this mean?

Q: I am muslimah who really wants to change my life for the better as I am not a good Muslim right now. But I do not know where to start or when I do try its only for a few days then I'm back to where I started. I try reading more Qur'aan and books and listening to lectures but it seems unfortunately nothing touches my heart. I know my heart yearns to get closer to Allah before it is too late but nothing is happening and I fear I am losing hope which I know is not a good thing. Please advise on what I may do or read?

Q: 

1. I would like to know what falls under haraam fantasising. What would be regarded as haraam thinking in Islam?
2. Whenever the subject of jima' (intercourse) comes up then I get a weird feeling in my body and with that a discharge comes out and I feel a need to use the bathroom. Dose this discharge make ghusul waajib. I am very worried about this as I am a 15 year old girl. This also makes me feel that I won't be able to get married because if the topic of jima' (intercourse) comes up and this happens to me then what will happen when I get married. Will I not be able to satisfy my husband and all similar questions. Please advise me on what I should do. I haven't told anyone about this. Please help and advise.

Q: 

1. Give me a duaa for my father who is old in age.
2. I have debts
3. My daughter is not well. She always coughs. She is 18 months old.

Q: A lady is often taunted by her husband on various matters, his favourite taunt is "You are a Jahnami". This upsets her because she tries her best at being a good wife, she does not do anything or go anywhere without his permission, she looks after the family and home, she prays all her salahs regularly and she prays the Quran every day as much as she can, but her husband is never happy and always looks for excuses to embarrass her in front of other people, sometimes he pushes her to the limit, and when she's praying he tells her that she shouldn't bother because non of her ibaadat will be accepted. When she's in sajda, he tells her to stop doing that because she's wasting her time,whilst he does not pray namaz at all. He only goes to pray 1 juma in a month. When she tells him to pray namaz, he tells her to mind her own business. He deliberately makes her look for things that he knows are not there, he will first look in the fridge or the kitchen cupboards to see what food is not in stock, and then later he will ask her to give him that food to eat and if she says it's finished, he starts swearing at her, so she goes to shop to get it and then give it to him, but then he won't eat it because he will say he doesn't want it anymore. She has now had enough and is thinking of leaving him, but before she takes that action, is there anything she can pray, any wazifa that might make him a good husband and make him a namazi?

Q: I am a 26 year old girl really wanting to settle down. Are there any duahs I can make? I am really feeling desperate.

Q: My husbands brother passed away recently. Can his wife move in with us after her iddat? She has no dad or brothers. Has a mother and a sister that is married. Mother stays alone. Wife has a five year old daughter. My husband wants to assist and support her.