Advice

Q: I have been married for fourteen years. I have three daughter. For the past seven years my wife had affairs with different men and I tried every time to speak to her to repent but the affairs just happen over and over year after year. As a result of this my life been constant worry with no peace of mind. It is because I loved her so much I just tried to save the marriage every time. I have my brother and my parents here to stop this marriage but in my heart I still love her. How do I occupy my mind through this talaaq process because it feels like I am scared but I don't want to go back to this life. As I know myself I will try to go back and in past that is how it happen over and over. I forgave her but her affairs never stop. I gave her one talaaq seven years back and I wanted to know if I can give her the rest two talaaqs not in anger in any way, but just so that I can't go back to that life.

Q: I do not find any motivation towards good deeds. Could you give me a prescription to create motivation towards good deeds?

Q: When I fell pregnant with my little one, the Moulana advised my husband and I to read as much Quraan as possible to the baby in the womb. Now that he is born, I am trying to continue. While he plays, I pray Quraan aloud to him and when he sleeps I play surah Yaseen, Ar Rahmaan , Yusuf or surah Maryam from my phone. Alhamdulillah, I know reading Quraan can bring overall benefits to the baby but I was wondering if anyone knows specific benefits? Or can someone advise me on how to do this better?

Q: I don't know if my heart has truly forgiven my wife for this unforgettable act she committed (adultery). We are still together but I can't seem to forget and I can't seem to get over it. It is really bringing such pain within my heart and it's almost 3 years past. I know I have to be strong but I can't stop thinking about it. Is this because I didn't really forgive or is this just what I must live with. Please advise me how can I get past this and live a normal life with my wife without the memory of this betrayal?

Q: If kids are disobedient and not listening, what dua should I read?

Q: I would like to ask a question regarding faskh. I have been married to my husband close to four years now and out of the four years we spent 6 month together. I wanted us to be a family and live together. I have been asking him for us to be a family but he keep saying it is not the right time. In the end I said, if it is not the right time to have a family for you then maybe we should end it and you find a sister when you ready. That got me a phone ban. Basically he stopped calling and refused to answer his phone. At this point I went to visit where he lives. Which is in another continent. I ended up there called him and he said you are not here for me. I did not ask you to come. I have been there for 3 weeks trying with no avail. Now he is refusing to pick up my phone and it is one year since I went to visit and he refuses still to talk to me. I would like to go for a faskh but I do not want to do anything unislamic. What us your take on this?

Q: I have been suffering from depression because of guilt for the past 2 years. Now I am married but the marriage has always been rocky with abuse of all kinds. I started a job but did an unthinkable mistake. I got involved with someone but I ended it because I knew it was wrong. My husband found out because I didn't want to go in with the relationship. My husband found every possible way to humiliate me in public with friends family. He even went to the nearest musjid. I asked Allah Ta'ala for forgiveness, pleaded day and night. I asked my husband to forgive me. I came back home but he still didn't stop the abuse and he picks on me almost all the time. I am starting to suffer from depression and feel like taking my life. Please advise me.

Q: On top of my staircase landing on a light shade, the name of Allah apeared. What does that mean? Is it some sort of sign from Allah Ta'ala?

Q: My question is on behalf of a sister. Her son is of 8-9 years of age and is very disrespectful towards his parents older siblings and his aunty. He feels as though he is not listened to and questions everything his parents, older siblings or aunty says to do. He does not listen to instructions however his behaviour at school is extremely good. What should the sister do? How can she stop him from doing this and to become more respectful?

Q: My 14 year old has just revealed to me that she hasnt made salaat in 2 years approximately and that she has been sneaking onto the internet and listening to music as well as exchanging haraam material. She also claims that she is bisexual. We are practising Muslims, we have taleem in the home and community. My husband participates in the effort of dawah and my children attend fiqh classes with an Alimah and tajweed class with a qariah and Quran classes with a Haafizah. I do not know what to do. Please help us Insha Allah.