Advice

Q: I have been suffering from depression because of guilt for the past 2 years. Now I am married but the marriage has always been rocky with abuse of all kinds. I started a job but did an unthinkable mistake. I got involved with someone but I ended it because I knew it was wrong. My husband found out because I didn't want to go in with the relationship. My husband found every possible way to humiliate me in public with friends family. He even went to the nearest musjid. I asked Allah Ta'ala for forgiveness, pleaded day and night. I asked my husband to forgive me. I came back home but he still didn't stop the abuse and he picks on me almost all the time. I am starting to suffer from depression and feel like taking my life. Please advise me.

Q: On top of my staircase landing on a light shade, the name of Allah apeared. What does that mean? Is it some sort of sign from Allah Ta'ala?

Q: My question is on behalf of a sister. Her son is of 8-9 years of age and is very disrespectful towards his parents older siblings and his aunty. He feels as though he is not listened to and questions everything his parents, older siblings or aunty says to do. He does not listen to instructions however his behaviour at school is extremely good. What should the sister do? How can she stop him from doing this and to become more respectful?

Q: My 14 year old has just revealed to me that she hasnt made salaat in 2 years approximately and that she has been sneaking onto the internet and listening to music as well as exchanging haraam material. She also claims that she is bisexual. We are practising Muslims, we have taleem in the home and community. My husband participates in the effort of dawah and my children attend fiqh classes with an Alimah and tajweed class with a qariah and Quran classes with a Haafizah. I do not know what to do. Please help us Insha Allah.

Q: I am a married woman 24 years old. My husband is abroad and due to passport and visa issues, I have to wait till I get over there. I pray salah five times. Now for the time being I masturbate secretly without the knowledge of my husband. I am justified. I can't fast as I have health issues.

Q: I like a girl who is 17 years old and my age is 19 years. We both are classmates. I Would like to marry her. But I am not independent because I am still studying. And she also wants to study. I told her I will approach your guardian as soon as I finish my engineering. The problem is that her guardian is  hurrying for her marrage. And alhamdillah she has very good deen and taqwa. But when I said to her I want to marry, she said my guardian will do my marriage quickly. And alhamdillah we only used to talk. We never met alone. But now what should I do? Shall I say to her guardian that I will marry her after 3 years or as soon as I get independent? What should I do? She is telling me that bring your proposal before I get married. I don't want to show that I did love marriage. Pretend as if you didn't even know me before. Now what should I do?

Q: There is a boy who's character is very good and praised by all but he doesn't wear topi, jubba and all. He wears normal clothes, he has very humble character and has the desire to learn more about Deen as he has little knowledge about it. On the other hand there is another guy who is a very strong tableeghi boy. He dresses according to Islam, he has Deeni knowledge also, but his character is normal (not so rude not so humble). Whom should a girl prefer to marry?

Q: Why girlfriend/boyfriend is not allowed in Islam? Why we can't show and win the affection of a girl in order to be with her? Why only arranged marriages?

Q: I'm 27 years old. I'm basically from India and working in this country. My family has arranged a girl for me who is a local Muslim girl born in this country and she's 19 years old. I went to see her few days ago and it seems like both of us are interested in each-other. The families are happy too. Now what's bothering me about her is when I ask her about her past life, she said she has been in a relationships few times. And she did sleep once with a guy. (which I appreciate that she didn't lie or hide) Now after knowing that I'm like almost heartbroken. I also had couple of relationships and I was also engaged in all those haraam acts which I regret now to the core of my heart but I never had sex which I told her. I often watch porn and masturbate. And I only had oral sex. Please help me out. Are we both in a same boat? are we equal sinners? Should I go for her? I have seen she's really sorry about her act. And she's Willing to change.