Women's Issues

Q: Please advice if we are allowed to teach our wives and daughters horse riding.

Q: Unfortunately I am in the process of separating from my wife and she will be commencing Iddat soon.

She has decided to stay at her parents' home during her Iddat and her family have asked me to pay for her cost of living during this time, she has told me to decide on the figure I should pay to her after consulting with a scholar.

I have returned all of her clothes to her from our matrimonial home.

I understand that the usual responsibilities I should pay for her are shelter, food and clothing. (She will be spending the time at her parents' house, and has her clothing).

Please advise on what the monetary total I should be paying her is as I am unable to calculate an exact amount.

I am unsure if this has any bearing on the Mas'alah but for clarity, the decision to separate was made by my wife (although she did not ask for khula). She has been living at her parents' house since January and I have not seen her since. The decision to spend Iddat at her parents' home was also made by herself.

Q: I have a question regarding haidh

1. I get a brown discharge all the time sometimes it's light sometimes dark. So because of this, as soon as 15 days are up since my last haidh and I see this brown discharge I start counting it as my haidh even if I'm not bleeding but I was told I'm counting wrong I must count it 20 clean days and 10 napaak days because I never had a completely clean 15 days without spotting. As far as I can remember I always had discharges in my clean days. How am I supposed to count my days?

2. If I have to count it 20 clean days then to get my days right by re counting the easiest will be from after my baby wa born, that was 20 August 2019. She was born and I had a 40 day nifaas because I was discharging till the end and even after the 40 days were up I was discharging. How should I re count my days?

3. I don't get a yellow discharge all the time, it's occasionally. Does it count as a starting of a haidh if I get only a yellow discharge and during my haidh days if I get only yellow does it count as haidh?

Q: How did Islaam free the woman? I know about the whole inheritance thing right to divorce and all that. But I feel that saying Islaam freed the women is wrong because it didn’t free us. Its not freedom when your life and life decisions are controlled with your spouse or men in your family. How is that freedom? Like, I am not talking about the haraam freedom and all that. Sometimes I just wish for peace of mind sitting in a cafe that is 7 minutes away but I am not allowed to go unless my spouse feels like I can? While he can go wherever he wants whenever he wants and I am not even allowed to question him. Honestly speaking, I love my Deen so much but recently men make me get disappointed in some parts of it.

Q: Last year in September, October, November and December a girl bled for 7/8 days and then was spotting brown over the 10th day. The amount of days in between each haidh of hers was 22, 21, 20 days. Her tuhoor habit is 20 days and her haidh habit is 9 days.

1. In December, 10 days after her haidh she began bleeding due to a tablet. She bled for 6/7 days and then was only spotting. She counted her haidh after 20 days had passed i.e. from the 2nd 18:50 to 7th January (5 days). 12 days after that she was seeing brown like how she normally sees at the beginning of her haidh (19th) then on the 14th day (21st) she started bleeding red. So she counted her haid as follows: since she bled for 5 days at the beginning of January (which is less than her habit) and then she bled within the 15 days of tuhoor so she counted 9 days as haidh and then began counting her next haidh cycle from 20 days after the 9 days. Was her calculation correct?

2. In February she was spotting throughout her tuhoor period. So she counted her haidh after 20 days of tuhoor had passed. She started bleeding red 13 days after her last haidh. She counted her haidh after 20 days of tuhoor had passed. She stopped bleeding red on the 1st day of her haidh and was only seeing brown and spotting brown thereafter. She counted her haidh according to her haidh habit. She was spotting brown in the whole month.

3. In March she was spotting brown throughout. She started bleeding red after 21 days of tuhoor. She counted her haidh according to her habit due to the spotting exceeding the 10 days.

4. In April She counted her haidh from after 20 days and only started bleeding red after 24 days of tuhoor. In this month she was also spotting brown.

5. In May she counted her haidh after 20 days and only started bleeding red after 25 days. In this month she was spotting brown throughout as well.

Is her calculations correct for the above?

Also she has had previously confusion with certain masaail and a lot of salaah has been missed due to her not making ghusul at the correct time. Or reading salaah while she is suppose to be in the state of haidh and the opposite. Will she have to make qadhaa for all these salaah? 

Q: I am living alone in Canada. Because of racism here in Canada, do I have to wear hijab or not? I am very scared of the racism. I was wearing hijab before when I was in Dubai, but when I moved to Canada, people always used to tell me not to wear hijab as I am living alone and I will not get a job because of wearing the hijab. I am very confused. Kindly advise.

س: المرأه الحامل اذا سقطت قبل ثلاثه أشهر فهذا دم ليس بدم نفاس وعليها الصوم والصلاة. ولكن إذا سقطت عند ثلاث شهور ونصف او اربع شهور فهذا سقطا ويعد دمها نفاسا. او عند ثمانين يوما يعد نفاسا اي شهرين وعشرين يوم.

Q:

1. Is it permissible for a man to study in a school, college, or university where he is studying alongside a non mahram woman. And is it permissible for a man to teach a non mahram woman and is it permissible for a woman to learn from a non mahram man.

2. Is it permissible for a woman to study in a school, college, or university where she is studying alongside a non mahram man. And is it permissible for a woman to teach a non mahram man and is it permissible for a man to learn from a non mahram woman.

Q: A family member who lives seperately sleeps on my bed sometimes (her husband returns home late at night due to working overtime or night shifts and she is afraid to be home alone at night) my brother who is 15 years and I share the same room, we have our seperated beds. She doesn't observe purdah with my brother even though he is a ghair mahram to her. My question is, will I be sinful for allowing her in my room while my brother is there?