Women's Issues

Family not supportive of girl going into purdah

6 years ago By user2

Q: I’m 24 years old and I was born with Cp. Basically I’m in a wheelchair and I can’t really do much like change, bath, et. My mum does all of that for me! I come from a pious family Alhumdullah but I live in the same yard as my uncle and he has 3 sons, all of age. When my foi’s come to visit they also have sons and I’m the only girl! All of us are unmarried. Alhumdullah besides this condition of mine my mind is fine.

I’ve been wanting to go into pardah for many years now especially because of our living conditions and now that we are all grown up! When I expressed my desire to my mum she said that wearing a cloak and pardah will be too difficult for her to carry me because cloaks are slippery and she refuses for me to wear it! The best part of this is that my mum comes from a pious family and her entire family is in pardah!

I tried explaining to her that this is the order of Allah. If I wear it Allah will make it easy for her, but to no avail! She’s extremely stubborn. My mums family is full of Ulema and I tried to get them to talk to her but they just say “Allah knows your intention”.

I see how my cousins look at me and I don’t buy into this whole cousins are your brothers story! I reached out to my grandparents, my Daadi doesn’t like pardah at all so I didn’t get anywhere with her and I won’t try. My naani says that I must make life easy for my mum as it is it’s so difficult! We are living in times of great finah. I don’t know what to do. Please advise.

Iddah period for a woman whose husband had a vasectomy

6 years ago By user2

Q: My cousin has been divorced from her husband and he has had a vasectomy many years ago. What is the fatwah on that regarding her iddah period (as the purpose is to determine pregnancy) and also, in regards to him seeing to her financial needs for the three months of iddah knowing that he has had a vasectomy and having the legal papers to show that he has had one?

Haidh ending during the salaah time

6 years ago By user2

Q: When my period ends and the time for salah is still there, I understand that the specific salah of that time is obligatory to read. I have more of an inclination to believe that this is what I did in the past months where my period ended - before I had learnt of this fact and I’d like to think that even if my period had ended and I didn't have enough time to do ghusl and read salah in the time, I still did qadha but because I’m not 100% sure, do I have to make qada of all the previous months on the day in which my period ended to be sure or can I leave it?

Haidh commencing in the salaah time

6 years ago By user2

Q: In the past I never really paid attention to making up prayers that I missed due to the adhan beginning before I was able to read that prayer.

I forgot the ruling (e.g. if menses stops at isha then pray maghrib and isha and if menses begins at zuhr and one hasn't prayed it, then they have to make it up later).

I’m going to make up the prayer I missed for the recent menstruation cycle I had. Am I allowed to forget about the ones I might have missed in the previous months? It would require me to have to look at past prayer times from different timetables and make estimates and I may have to make up a lot of prayers.

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